I feel like the party pooper.

My best friend who is slowly but surely killing her "best friend" status (long stories) always invites me here and there..party party, bars, concerts...bla ba bla. The first few was cool because I needed that time for myself to remind my brain that "I am 21 years old!!!". That was sweet..but no it's beginning to bother me. It's like she's forgetting I have two babies at home and that partying is not an option for me...ya know? It's either me being a damn part pooper, or her not realizing I am a full grown, mother and wife with responsibilities......what would you say??

You're not being a party pooper in my opinion.

I don't know what its like to have any children but I think you're doing the right thing. Taking time for yourself is fantastic and I highly recommend it, but you do have all of those responsibilities. I think if you can reach a healthy balance and take time for yourself and go out and enjoy yourself without feeling guilty that you really should.

Have you tried explaining to your friend that you need to take care of your children, but that you do enjoy going out - on occassion and not constantly? Or what about doing something enjoyable that you can do with your friend and the kids at the same time? That way you're enjoying yourself still and taking care of the children at the same time.

Just random suggestions, feel free to ignore me.

(((((((((desirae)))))))))) Take care of yourself and I hope you can get things sorted out with your friend.

point out the Briney Spears debacle to her........

you aren't that kind of person, desirae, and just be firm with her about your lovely children and your responsibilities.

if she is your "best friend", she'll enjoy you and your children at home with you at times......if not.........you'll move on.........i admire you very much for what you're doing with your life......love, pat

Desirae, I don't have any backstory on you. But I'll throw in my $.02 nonetheless.

It sounds like your friends is running away from and you are [running toward[/i].

Because of my own history as a party girl and drunk, I'm a bit suspicious of people who need to be out all the time. They are often running from parts of themselves that they don't like very much -- and sometimes the part they don't like is the drinking/party girl/big flirt part.

You have a healthy attitude toward going out as a breather, a bit of time to yourself with a friend. But you also have your family and beloved children to run toward.

I agree with what everyone else has said. If you friend values and respects you, she will spend time with you at home as well as out.

just say no you aren't going. you are a full time mom. you have grown up.