Honest Opinion from Straight Men

Hopefully I won't offend you - honestly this is not my intention.. but you mentioned that guys are not giving you the 'double take' anymore.. I'm thinking you're accustomed to a certain degree of attention at 130 that you're not getting at 230. I don't think it's true that guys won't date you.. there are plenty of men who like bigger women, or who just don't care.. but men as being visual-types, I'm sure you could understand how guys would 'oogle' at a 130-lb cutie vs. a heavier-set one... Politically incorrect, I know, but it's the truth. This is not to say that you won't get dates.. you might have to be a little more proactive about it, guys will drool over the modelesque types..

I did online dating for a while and really had no problem with this, though.
I was really upfront about the fact that whoever was "checking me out" had to 'like big butts and can not lie' and other similarly amusing ways to address the fact that I'm just simply not a tiny mini-booty.

I also had several different photos and I *updated them regularly* and made my profile like it was pretty much as if you were talking to me, not like I was giving a presentation on JosieTheGirl.

I think all of these things helped to cut down on the impression that I was either non-existent or that anyone should expect I am something other than I am.

Because, frankly, I got a lot of response and interaction.

I really think what I mentioned above had a lot to do with it, but particularly fairly requently updated photos [also some variety from different places and times as well- it lends credence that you are OMG a real person who actually interacts with other people. I did mention if I was particularly skinny in comparison to now if the photo was a few years back or something, but again with some humor. the funny pretty much always works for an assist ]

As a bisexual woman I would say it hugely depends on how the person is able to "carry" the weight. Some can be quite heavy, but since it's rightly placed (and they know how to dress for their bodytype too), they look more attractive than women who are lighter...

to a degree this is a genetic luck thingy.... but self-presentation plays a big role too (honestly, I find it repulsive in men and women when they try to squeeze themselves into clothing too sizes to small.... and doesn't matter the body type. It makes it appear they gained recently and rapidly).