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Old May 27, 2014, 02:37 PM
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Ok so I'm not asking for advice about how to approach this girl or anything like that at all. I have done all the asking about this and I know that if I'm ever to meet any women at all with the potential of any relationships ever I'm going to have to get my butt in gear and do something :[

Anyway so... I haven't been dating, or really had any RL relationships for what, 2+ years now? Every one of the love interests I've had have been online and I've come to the conclusion that, although I know it can work, it's very easy to get out of a relationship online, disconnect and dump people without any kind of real consequences. Just happened far too many times and frankly, I've decided to stick to local girls.. but I'm getting off track here.

I don't think I'm all that, and don't consider myself "eye candy" for women by any stretch of the imagination, so when I get glances, looks or anything at all, I usually brush them off or say "oh that was nice" and move on.. Don't really think I get looked at so when it does happen it's surprising. But anyway...

I frequent a Walmart (don't you judge me!) because it's very close (across the street from me) and there is a lady there that caught my eye. She works there and I've seen her quite often and we've exchanged glances but never said hi or anything like that. She's usually moving about doing her job, as she's not a cashier. Anyway I never figured I've caught her eye but recently I've wondered.

I was at the Walmart with my kids, I have 3. Just doing my thing, shopping for groceries and household items when I saw her not far away doing some stocking. She looked right at me and I won't say it was with interest, because if I knew that I wouldn't be here asking about this... but she didn't avert her gaze. It wasn't exactly staring but just like... looking at me, for maybe.. 5 - 8 seconds? (guessing) She didn't exactly smile or frown but just had mostly a plain expression on her face. it only lasted a few seconds but it's stuck with me...

Does this say anything at all? As I've said, she's seen and exchanged looks with me before but this was something else. I know she recognizes me because I'm there a lot. I have no idea how to tell when someone is interested, wanting you to say hi, or approach them otherwise or if people just look at each other that way. Idk.. help if you can.

I know I don't typically look at a female typically unless they catch my eye and especially if they look back I usually look away for fear of looking like a weirdo. or pervert or something terrible. Idk. But I'm a guy so I dunno how women behave in this manner.

Perhaps it's nothing. Maybe it is.

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Old May 27, 2014, 04:07 PM
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Next time you see her, at least, try to say "hi" and see how she reacts. You never know until you try. Since she saw you with your children she may think you're married, so if she seems pleased with the "hi", next time you might introduce yourself and see where it goes.
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Old May 27, 2014, 04:15 PM
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Next time you see her, at least, try to say "hi" and see how she reacts. You never know until you try. Since she saw you with your children she may think you're married, so if she seems pleased with the "hi", next time you might introduce yourself and see where it goes.
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Well she's seen me a few times and I'm always with my kids so it wasn't new. I know she has a young daughter too, I've seen her with her. I haven't yet been able to tell if she has a ring on her finger though

Another thing though is that I'm always at that walmart and I never have a woman with me and it's always me and the kids. I think by now most likely many people that see me regularly realize I'm a single dad.
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Old May 27, 2014, 04:17 PM
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Gayle is spot on....next time, if you catch her eye, just say hello, or whatever version you prefer of the same greeting (try to avoid 'sup'...pretty much a conversation killer lol jk)

And yes, she may think you're married, but if you don't wear a ring--yes yes I know lots of married men don't, but far more do because their wives insist--she's probably noticed that.

I guess the best thing is to smile and say hi. If she's seen you there often enough (which I inferred by your post) it will seem more natural if you DO say hi, than if you don't.

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Old May 27, 2014, 04:21 PM
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Gayle is spot on....next time, if you catch her eye, just say hello, or whatever version you prefer of the same greeting (try to avoid 'sup'...pretty much a conversation killer lol jk)

And yes, she may think you're married, but if you don't wear a ring--yes yes I know lots of married men don't, but far more do because their wives insist--she's probably noticed that.

I guess the best thing is to smile and say hi. If she's seen you there often enough (which I inferred by your post) it will seem more natural if you DO say hi, than if you don't.

Good luck to you
*sigh* So I guess it comes down to me having ____s to do something. :[ /end whiny snark
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Old May 27, 2014, 04:25 PM
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*sigh* So I guess it comes down to me having ____s to do something. :[ /end whiny snark
Yeah, I know. It sucks. But give it a shot anyway. What have you got to lose? It's just a smile and a hello, after all..
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Old May 28, 2014, 08:25 AM
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Yeah, I know. It sucks. But give it a shot anyway. What have you got to lose? It's just a smile and a hello, after all..
Haha.. you make it sound so easy. Pretty much a loner here mostly because of my inability to do these things... She wasn't there last night when I went in..
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Old May 28, 2014, 11:35 AM
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You need a line, not just a hi. How about "you're awfully cute , pretty, attractive (insert appropriate word), are you taken?" If she says no, there ya go! If she says yes, then you just say awww that's just my luck!
And darn, I thought you had that online relationship working!!
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Old May 28, 2014, 11:41 AM
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You need a line, not just a hi. How about "you're awfully cute , pretty, attractive (insert appropriate word), are you taken?" If she says no, there ya go! If she says yes, then you just say awww that's just my luck!
a line seems so weird, though saying something more than just hi... yeah I can understand that.

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And darn, I thought you had that online relationship working!!
yeah well that's a long story I'd rather not go into.
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Old May 28, 2014, 12:57 PM
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Well, using a 'line' (and I hesitate to even word it like that, it sounds so cheesy) is totally dependent on personality, and seems to me, I just don't see you (s4ndm4n) feeling comfortable with a line. If you were, this whole thread would be a non-starter.

Just saying 'hi' is appropriate for the contact you've both been having--quick little glances and of course that lonnnng one earlier--and it's non-threatening. Can be done quickly, and never underestimate the amount of emotion one can put into a simple greeting like 'hi'...especially if if includes a friendly "I recognize you; we don't know each other but we're certainly not strangers" smile.

Then, of course it could move on to badinage, but...at the speed you feel comfortable. C'mon...it's only a word and a smile. I KNOW you can do that!!!
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Old May 28, 2014, 01:06 PM
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Well, using a 'line' (and I hesitate to even word it like that, it sounds so cheesy) is totally dependent on personality, and seems to me, I just don't see you (s4ndm4n) feeling comfortable with a line. If you were, this whole thread would be a non-starter.

Just saying 'hi' is appropriate for the contact you've both been having--quick little glances and of course that lonnnng one earlier--and it's non-threatening. Can be done quickly, and never underestimate the amount of emotion one can put into a simple greeting like 'hi'...especially if if includes a friendly "I recognize you; we don't know each other but we're certainly not strangers" smile.

Then, of course it could move on to badinage, but...at the speed you feel comfortable. C'mon...it's only a word and a smile. I KNOW you can do that!!!
Can I just wave? XD
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Old May 28, 2014, 01:29 PM
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Ok so I'm not asking for advice about how to approach this girl or anything like that at all. I have done all the asking about this and I know that if I'm ever to meet any women at all with the potential of any relationships ever I'm going to have to get my butt in gear and do something :[

Anyway so... I haven't been dating, or really had any RL relationships for what, 2+ years now? Every one of the love interests I've had have been online and I've come to the conclusion that, although I know it can work, it's very easy to get out of a relationship online, disconnect and dump people without any kind of real consequences. Just happened far too many times and frankly, I've decided to stick to local girls.. but I'm getting off track here.

I don't think I'm all that, and don't consider myself "eye candy" for women by any stretch of the imagination, so when I get glances, looks or anything at all, I usually brush them off or say "oh that was nice" and move on.. Don't really think I get looked at so when it does happen it's surprising. But anyway...

I frequent a Walmart (don't you judge me!) because it's very close (across the street from me) and there is a lady there that caught my eye. She works there and I've seen her quite often and we've exchanged glances but never said hi or anything like that. She's usually moving about doing her job, as she's not a cashier. Anyway I never figured I've caught her eye but recently I've wondered.

I was at the Walmart with my kids, I have 3. Just doing my thing, shopping for groceries and household items when I saw her not far away doing some stocking. She looked right at me and I won't say it was with interest, because if I knew that I wouldn't be here asking about this... but she didn't avert her gaze. It wasn't exactly staring but just like... looking at me, for maybe.. 5 - 8 seconds? (guessing) She didn't exactly smile or frown but just had mostly a plain expression on her face. it only lasted a few seconds but it's stuck with me...

Does this say anything at all? As I've said, she's seen and exchanged looks with me before but this was something else. I know she recognizes me because I'm there a lot. I have no idea how to tell when someone is interested, wanting you to say hi, or approach them otherwise or if people just look at each other that way. Idk.. help if you can.

I know I don't typically look at a female typically unless they catch my eye and especially if they look back I usually look away for fear of looking like a weirdo. or pervert or something terrible. Idk. But I'm a guy so I dunno how women behave in this manner.

Perhaps it's nothing. Maybe it is.
i'll try to help you if i can! first let me say that i love wal mart, go there all the time & btw it's actually a pretty good place to meet women! i have had a couple of good experiences there, but anyways let me get to the point and see if i can help at all.

the fact that she looked at you for more than a few seconds is promising...doesn't necessarily mean that she is into you, but doesn't scream "i'm not interested".

one of the surest ways to tell if someone is interested in you is a warm smile, but not all people are in the mood to smile all the time & she may not have been too happy at work, at least all the people at my two wal marts almost never smile! LOL! i think they hate the place.

this it what i would suggest, next time you see her walk up to her and start a conversation about what she is doing..this way you can get closer and see if she has a ring on her finger & break the ice at the same time.

based on the info i have ..i do think there could be some potential....but, you are going to have to spark up a conversation and read her body language from there, it's kinda difficult to get a true read because she is at her work place..but that's all you have to work with.

i know it's not much, i hope it helps some, but you are just going to have to roll the dice and go for it...it's the only way you will know for sure!

hope this helps and good luck!
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Old May 28, 2014, 01:44 PM
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i'll try to help you if i can! first let me say that i love wal mart, go there all the time & btw it's actually a pretty good place to meet women! i have had a couple of good experiences there, but anyways let me get to the point and see if i can help at all.

the fact that she looked at you for more than a few seconds is promising...doesn't necessarily mean that she is into you, but doesn't scream "i'm not interested".

one of the surest ways to tell if someone is interested in you is a warm smile, but not all people are in the mood to smile all the time & she may not have been too happy at work, at least all the people at my two wal marts almost never smile! LOL! i think they hate the place.

this it what i would suggest, next time you see her walk up to her and start a conversation about what she is doing..this way you can get closer and see if she has a ring on her finger & break the ice at the same time.

based on the info i have ..i do think there could be some potential....but, you are going to have to spark up a conversation and read her body language from there, it's kinda difficult to get a true read because she is at her work place..but that's all you have to work with.

i know it's not much, i hope it helps some, but you are just going to have to roll the dice and go for it...it's the only way you will know for sure!

hope this helps and good luck!
Thanks, it is helpful. Not sure how I will pull it off but you're right I need to say or do something.
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Old May 28, 2014, 02:02 PM
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Coffee! !!! Do you like coffee? (Glance at finger)...would you like to meet at *coffee place*?

A non smile, non frown, can be a way of not appearing over zealous,, nor desperate or dramatically, omg it's. Him..that type of play it cool. Or she was zoning out, your pick, your call.
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Coffee! !!! Do you like coffee? (Glance at finger)...would you like to meet at *coffee place*?

A non smile, non frown, can be a way of not appearing over zealous,, nor desperate or dramatically, omg it's. Him..that type of play it cool. Or she was zoning out, your pick, your call.
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99% sure it wasn't zoning out. That much I am sure of. There's a difference between looking in my direction and kind of blank and actively looking at something/someone. Whether or not interested is the question but I don't doubt her gaze was on me directly. our eyes met.
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Old May 28, 2014, 02:09 PM
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There you have it. do the ring check, and find a way.

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Old May 28, 2014, 02:11 PM
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99% sure it wasn't zoning out. That much I am sure of. There's a difference between looking in my direction and kind of blank and actively looking at something/someone. Whether or not interested is the question but I don't doubt her gaze was on me directly. our eyes met.
awwww I think that's answerable then. You're just gonna have to grab your self-confidence with both hands, and smile at her! And btw, the suggestion of striking up a conversation about what she's doing is brilliant! If she's stocking something that you need (or don't, whatever) you CAN walk up to her as a 'customer' and ask her something about it, or the location of something like it or the location of something not at all like it because, "I've seen you here so often, I figure you know the store pretty well, and sometimes I'm totally lost!"...self deprecation when done well, is charming.

Just remember to smile!!!
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awwww I think that's answerable then. You're just gonna have to grab your self-confidence with both hands, and smile at her! And btw, the suggestion of striking up a conversation about what she's doing is brilliant! If she's stocking something that you need (or don't, whatever) you CAN walk up to her as a 'customer' and ask her something about it, or the location of something like it or the location of something not at all like it because, "I've seen you here so often, I figure you know the store pretty well, and sometimes I'm totally lost!"...self deprecation when done well, is charming.

Just remember to smile!!!
As for the self deprecation about the store.. yeah no can do. I would be being pretentious because I know the store like the back of my hand.. dammit. XD but..

how about this? the other day I was driving my kids to school and she was walking, and I'm guessing to work since she had the blue shirt under her light jacket and was walking toward the store... What if I say something about thinking I saw her walking? Is that creepy?
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Old May 28, 2014, 02:26 PM
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As for the self deprecation about the store.. yeah no can do. I would be being pretentious because I know the store like the back of my hand.. dammit. XD but..

how about this? the other day I was driving my kids to school and she was walking, and I'm guessing to work since she had the blue shirt under her light jacket and was walking toward the store... What if I say something about thinking I saw her walking? Is that creepy?
No, actually that would work. I'd add tho, did the kids see her, as well? If so I'd say, the kids saw her first and you realized etc.....could follow thru with noting that walking is great exercise, as long as it isn't raining! etc....just to get it started. Unless she is a dud, she can take it from there, and next thing you both know, you're talking.

If the kids didn't see her, then mentioning you did is fine...just make sure it sound sort as a btw...and 'you must live close' and if she smiles or at least keeps attention on you, go for the rain thing.

I know you can do this!! Just showing you've noticed her outside work would be flattering. Build on that.
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Old May 28, 2014, 02:27 PM
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Can I just wave? XD
If you wave just right (and smile!... like "i might come over and talk but my kids are being crazy" type thing maybe?), she'd have the chance to see you don't wear a wedding ring...
Just sayin'...
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No, actually that would work. I'd add tho, did the kids see her, as well? If so I'd say, the kids saw her first and you realized etc.....could follow thru with noting that walking is great exercise, as long as it isn't raining! etc....just to get it started. Unless she is a dud, she can take it from there, and next thing you both know, you're talking.

If the kids didn't see her, then mentioning you did is fine...just make sure it sound sort as a btw...and 'you must live close' and if she smiles or at least keeps attention on you, go for the rain thing.

I know you can do this!! Just showing you've noticed her outside work would be flattering. Build on that.
hope you're right. About being able to XD

How about "i thought I'd just mention you have something in your teeth" BHAHAHAHAHAHA JUST KIDDING!
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Old May 28, 2014, 02:33 PM
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hope you're right. About being able to XD

How about "i thought I'd just mention you have something in your teeth" BHAHAHAHAHAHA JUST KIDDING!
HAHAHA yeah...no.
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HAHAHA yeah...no.
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