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Jan 18, 2007, 12:49 AM
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I am 19 and my fiance is 40. We have been together for a year and engaged for over half that time. We love each other very much, but we get criticisms and nasty looks when we go out. They don't really bother us. I was just wondering if there were some people here in an age gap relationship and what are all of your opinions on age gap relationships.
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Jan 18, 2007, 02:48 AM
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I personally feel that one might find it a little hard in a relationship/marriage if the age difference is greater than 10 years.... but that does not mean that one cannot survive a larger age gap in a relationship, it just means that you will have to work harder at it than most.
I have always taught my two sons that TRUE LOVE is often hard to come by, so when it does HAPPEN, do not let it pass your heart by..... LoVe, Rhapsody - |
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Jan 18, 2007, 04:22 AM
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thank you for your comment. that helps a lot!! that's what I think too, but many seem to think otherwise...
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Jan 18, 2007, 08:37 AM
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Well,my bf and I really arent in that much of an age difference.Mike is 2 1/2 years older than me.
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Jan 18, 2007, 08:50 AM
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I don't think age difference is that important. I know several marriages where people are the same age and they can't stand each other. They continue living this way because of the kids, finances and so on... Their age doesn't help them in any way... They just don't 'click'. There was an age difference between my parents (my father was 13 years older) but I don't think that was a problem. I guess you see things differently when you are 20 and differently when you are 40 but that doesn't mean you cannot build a steady and happy relationship. Yeah, people will talk and criticize but it's your life not theirs. They usually say those things to make themselves feel better about their own lives (which are far from perfect too, I believe). You only have to please yourself... Once you are happy the rest can go to hell.
Maybe I am wrong but that's how I see it. Good luck to you and your fiance! |
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Jan 18, 2007, 09:02 PM
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i''m ten years older than my SO.......
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Jan 18, 2007, 09:46 PM
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My husband is 21 years younger than me. Right now we are in a long distance relationship (he is Romanian and still in Romania and I'm in the states). There are a lot of times when we don't see eye to eye, but we talk it through. I try to remember what it was like to be 29 (woops, I just gave my age away LOL) and how I used to think at that age. As with any relationship, it takes lots of work to keep it going. Both my daughters are in relationships with men older than them. One's boyfriend is 10 years older, and the other is 14 years older. It seems to work out fine for them too.
I suppose many people have issues with my husbands young age, but I don't really care what they think. When we are together, it is pure magic. I'm the one who has to live this life, not anyone else. While I am sensitive to other's ideas and feelings, I do expect the same in return from my family and friends. I wish you both well! |
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Jan 24, 2007, 12:34 AM
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Hi Shay.I have been with my fiance now for four years. I am 21 and he is 46. I get those dirty looks too but it doesn't bother me at all. I love my fiance and I want to be with him no matter how old we are. To me age is just a number.
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Jan 24, 2007, 02:12 AM
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Shay, I've been in a couple of age-gap relationships. One of my fondest and best relationships had a 16 year age gap. We were soulmates. And we got a lot of dirty looks. Too bad. Pffffftt! I had no problem with it, so why should they? Hang in there. Love is rare, hang onto it, pay no mind to the naysayers.
(((hugs))) sunny
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Jan 24, 2007, 06:33 PM
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Hi ... my sister was in an age difference of 25 years and it didn't work out for many different reasons, but I think every situation is different and more importantly I find it really interesting how judgmental people can be.
Like they are so perfect and who are they to decide on that issue what's right and wrong? I mean I could see it if an adult was with a minor or their was a very obvious problem, but to just put their noses and opinions where they don't belong...un un... I bet you those ppl aren't very happy in their own lives or have nothing better to do.
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Jan 24, 2007, 07:20 PM
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Dear Sabau -- You are my idol, my role model. Men my age are old geezers, drooling over women young enough to be their grandfathers. I would love to be in an relationship with a younger man.
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May 24, 2014, 02:00 AM
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I'm 45 and my boyfriend is 19. We just got engaged and planning to marry in two years. For the most part people are accepting of us being together but his dad has a major issue with it. I understand to a point that it's weird I'm just a few years younger that his dad. His family is conservative and religious where I'm liberal and don't attend church regularly. Other than that I really don't get the problem. Anyway, when it comes to love age shouldn't matter, it's how you feel for each other. Yes there will be people that have a problem with you being together but need to develop think skin and let it go.
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