[WorkInProgress16]

My boyfriend of 10 months just broke up with me and I'm not even sure how I feel exactly. I'm definitely hurt. But now I have to change some of my behaviors. For the last 10 months I imagined him holding me to help me sleep. For the last 8 months I've been sleeping in his t-shirt. For the last 4 months I've been sleeping with a teddy bear from him. I have literally forgotten how to function as a single person. Of course this break up only happened an hour ago but I keep thinking of things that have been habits for me that I now need to change.

Also the break up was really out of the blue and I feel like I had been lied to about how he felt. He hasn't explained to me why we broke up (because I have no idea) but hopefully he will in the morning. I love him and I know I always will but I also know this will be very hard. He was my first love, he was the first person I had sex with, and he's the first person I've ever given this much power to hurt me and that's exactly what happened. This is my first heart break and I don't feel like I'm doing very well. I honestly thought I would spend my life with him and now he's gone with no explanation.

[Sojourn]

I am sorry to hear about your heartbreak, WorkInProgress16. It's obvious you have very strong feelings towards this man and things have ended abruptly and without much of an explanation. That is no doubt disappointing, frustrating, and heartrending. Your pain is fresh and it will take time for you to find your way again. Please surround yourself with people that love you and can give you support right now. Many times our natural tendency is to isolate ourselves and while some alone time may be necessary, too much of it can be detrimental.

For now, recognize your feelings, be honest with yourself, don't try to suppress the pain. That will allow you work through it. When you feel up to it, explore your options and then make the best decisions for yourself. Remember, it takes time and patience with yourself but you are worth it and never forget that.

[WorkInProgress16]

I've been so emotional today. Everything makes me want to cry. I hate emotions, they are so irrational.

[healingme4me]

Emotions are necessary to heal, however.

[WorkInProgress16]

But I can't listen to half of the songs I use to love. I saw his dad at work today and almost started crying.

[avlady]

I feel sad about your relationship breakup, i remember the first boyfriend i ever had and the way he broke up with me was by going out with some rich girl i could never compete with and i found out through my friends, not him, i was devestated, well after that i just went on dates with men, by never got too serious again until i was 28. i don't even think about him anymore, but it took awhile to get back to where i was emotionally before that. things change in the blink of an eye sometimes and we have to keep our guard up sometimes too. Next time, i'm sure you'll have other times almost, if you're like me, and just learn to brush the pain off your shoulders.

[JavaScript10]

Hi

You are obviously hurting pretty bad right now and as the song says, "the first cut is the deepest". never a truer word spoken.
It took me a whole year to get over my first heartbreak but i got there in the end. That was 20 years ago, but i still remember it.
Hang in there, you will be on the road to recovery soon enough. This pian that you a feeling now will be a distant memory this time next year...
Take care of yourself !

[JavaScript10]

Hi

You are obviously hurting pretty bad right now and as the song says, "the first cut is the deepest". never a truer word spoken.
It took me a whole year to get over my first heartbreak but i got there in the end. That was 20 years ago, but i still remember it.
Hang in there, you will be on the road to recovery soon enough. This pian that you a feeling now will be a distant memory this time next year...
Take care of yourself !

[boohbear]

Dear workinprogress
I know exactly how you feel I had my heart broken in last November and to this point in time I still love him and would do anything for him. I had to learn how to be single all over again after being together for nine months. But I promise you things will get better your not alone. You can always come talk to me if you need to I am willing to listen if no one else is I have gone through this and still am going through this but in time all will fix its self. Maybe he was not the right guy for you and someone even better is going to come and sweep you off your feet you never know you just need to have a little faith that things will work out for the better.

03.03.13 -I still love you