Getting married

I wanted to know if being 17 years old is too young to be thinking about marriage. I'm not even in a relationship but I really want to be. Plus I want to know if getting to know someone over the internet is a good idea. Not that I have but I know all the horror stories of what happens to people who do this. I'm hoping someone can help me since I'm not good at talking to my mom about this.

Thanks
Miara

I think alot of young girls fantasize about being married to a wonderful guy, living a wonderful life. Alot of young couples that do get married almost always ends up in divorce because they are not mature enough for a marriage, and think that it will be a piece of cake and it is actually hard to do.

Your still young, I think it's ok to want it in the future stuff, but don't make it the only thing that you dream about, you have too many years ahead of you.

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I think it is good to wait until you're older if you think married life is going to be perfect. Even though I don't think like that(HONESTLY!) I'm starting to think that I only want to be in a relationship so bad is because I don't have any friends and I'm alone ALL day. Sometimes by choice but mostly because I have no one to talk to. I'm not really keen on going outside by myslf which makes it kind of difficult to get a job. Or take walks by myself because I'm so paranoid. But in school I wasn't paranoid because mostly everyone was making fun of me. Which is why I get homeschooled now. Marriage is not something I always think about. I want to be a writer. I want to get baptized and do both these things before I get married. But I've been really depressed. I don't think I'm suicidal but I do think about death a lot. I guess what I want is is a friend. But I'm not planning on getting married until I get better. Thinking about getting married sort of makes me happy because it maens I haven't tottaly given up yet.
Thanks
Miara

Hi and welcome to you,

What I feel about marrage comes from from my experance. I got married at the age of 18 and we had a child by the time I was 19. I don't regret it because I wouldn't have my son today but If I would have done things differently(I had a chance to join a band that was forming in Washington D.C., no telling where I would be today if I hadn't married my high school sweetheart) maybe things would be different today.

About meeting someone over the internet..............................I've been there, kinda done that and someone you might meet over the internet or someone you may think you know through someone else is never going to be the same as someone you "GET" to know in real life. Just be careful. Know that you are the most important to you and don't ever make any decicions without alot of info on the person if you're going to meet anyone you might have gotten to know on line. PLEASE!!! I've gone through this myself and you can pm me if you feel I haven't explained myself fully to you.

I'm here.
Love,
wendy

I know some people you'd consider "good catches" (attractive, rich) who use the internet, so I personally, don't see any harm. Having said that, being 17 don't you have a nice selection of people at school, etc. to choose from? When I was 17 I went purly by inpulse and so was married, divorced, etc. very young...can't say I reccomend it. 17 is a good time to think about yourself and have a good time.

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