[Yismymindblank12]

My ex I almost had a baby with, who aborted our child in 2012. Apparently out of nowhere mentioning my 4 year old daughter Kristen that never existed. She called me about her like I am a baby daddy of a girl we didn't have because she aborted her.

Like I don't know how she found my number? I'm so glad my friend told her off. I find it messed up no matter what she is connected to me in creepy and unhealthy ways treats me like garbage for things I didn't do. She abused me everyone saw it the end and she always played nd innocent victimized brat.

She had no proof of our daughter. She aborted her and sent me actual ultra sound of her just before her sex was determined. I recognize that photo and I know she lied. Yeah my friend told her off and leave me alone and she's being a **** and did enough damage to me.

Like should I file harassment suit on her get a restraining order? She's been doing this for 4 years now and she's married to someone else and continues to act like we some fling. Like she needs to grow up. I seriously feel sorry for her husband lots of pity. She tricked him like she almost fooled me.

Uh, perhaps mental illness? If so, yes, you may need a restraining order.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Yea that's crazy. And she's married now? Is he aware of her childish and unreasonable actions right now? I would file harassment and get a restraining order.

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[Yismymindblank12]

Like I put up with it for years changing my address number and everything. I did make a mistake many years ago calling her on my number I have now, but I wasn't in my right mind. I think she saved it called me yesterday at a really good time, because I wouldn't know how to handle it if I was alone.

I don't have a daughter named kristen, I have a daughter named melody, she aborted her for health reasons, like their is no documentation no pictures no biological tests of any kind to prove this girl exists.

I'm just saying a picture of your ultra sound when you were pregnant of our child to think it's ok to get me upset to give you a reason to send you money is really messed up. Pretending I'm a deadbeat father you don't tell our child about. Like pls, don't get me started. That makes me mad about her. She always thought I was the worst person when she was to me.

Yeah I'm filing it after I move, I want to maximize the effect she isn't going to know where I move to even the state I'm moving too.

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

Yea that's crazy. And she's married now? Is he aware of her childish and unreasonable actions right now? I would file harassment and get a restraining order.

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I don't think you need to think about what her current man knows. You're not here to take care of him. You need to focus on what you need to do to protect yourself. He's not your concern. To get a restraining order you are going to need proof of the need for one. So you're going to have to document things, including phone conversations, dates, times, etc.

[Yismymindblank12]

I will. I have the texts saved of our last conversation of her claiming a daughter I don't have with her. She can't get pregnant and I do not have a child. It hurts me a lot she's bringing this up again to make it seem I'm some deadbeat, when none of this even happened.

Her dad told me she had the abortion, he was there paying for it at planned parenthood. I know she didn't give birth and lie to me all this time, but part of me says that's plausible, but the rest definitely not. She never came about to me this sooner about my child. I know I wasn't the reason, I'm so sick of her drama. Like she is why I don't want children and she really ****ed me up doing this bringing this up playing blame game after all these years. I don't know what she wants she doesn't go away.

Like I will document everything she needs to stay away. I'm sick of her borderline stalker like behavior now, she's found my number and she calls me years later. This won't stop I know that, and I will save everything to send to make sure I get a restraining order thank you.

I'm really mad, she thinks I wouldn't be able to take care of our daughter if she was born, but she never cared for that. She wanted to use her block me after she gave birth or just before play this game I'm not trying hard enough, and I didn't have transportation and I was working at 2 almost 3 jobs at 18 to 19 years old. My family was broke, but I would be able make it work fine. Feeding her consistently and having my sister, my aunt or my mom to watch her or my grandma for some days. Like I'm mad she would go all these lengths to make me look like I'm such a horrible person for not recognizing my child and I'm very angry how she abused me hit me and called her an it and told me how worthless I am and still I'm the bad guy.

Like she's a very cruel person. That's why I'm getting this. She needs to go away. I need peace of mind. This was 4 years ago, I do not have a 4 year old running around don't try to play with my emotions like that.

Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12

I will. I have the texts saved of our last conversation of her claiming a daughter I don't have with her. She can't get pregnant and I do not have a child. It hurts me a lot she's bringing this up again to make it seem I'm some deadbeat, when none of this even happened.

Her dad told me she had the abortion, he was there paying for it at planned parenthood. I know she didn't give birth and lie to me all this time, but part of me says that's plausible, but the rest definitely not. She never came about to me this sooner about my child. I know I wasn't the reason, I'm so sick of her drama. Like she is why I don't want children and she really ****ed me up doing this bringing this up playing blame game after all these years. I don't know what she wants she doesn't go away.

Like I will document everything she needs to stay away. I'm sick of her borderline stalker like behavior now, she's found my number and she calls me years later. This won't stop I know that, and I will save everything to send to make sure I get a restraining order thank you.

I'm really mad, she thinks I wouldn't be able to take care of our daughter if she was born, but she never cared for that. She wanted to use her block me after she gave birth or just before play this game I'm not trying hard enough, and I didn't have transportation and I was working at 2 almost 3 jobs at 18 to 19 years old. My family was broke, but I would be able make it work fine. Feeding her consistently and having my sister, my aunt or my mom to watch her or my grandma for some days. Like I'm mad she would go all these lengths to make me look like I'm such a horrible person for not recognizing my child and I'm very angry how she abused me hit me and called her an it and told me how worthless I am and still I'm the bad guy.

Like she's a very cruel person. That's why I'm getting this. She needs to go away. I need peace of mind. This was 4 years ago, I do not have a 4 year old running around don't try to play with my emotions like that.

You really need to try to detach from the drama of it. I know that sounds flippant and dismissive, but it's still necessary. You need to be focussed, not dramatic. Don't engage in the drama of it. You don't have to.

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by clairerobin

You really need to try to detach from the drama of it. I know that sounds flippant and dismissive, but it's still necessary. You need to be focussed, not dramatic. Don't engage in the drama of it. You don't have to.

I haven't messaged her back, I will archive it and leave it alone. I told the one girl not to talk to her on my phone ever it will make unneeded drama like you said.

I won't, I don't plan to. It just really hurts still. I take being in the unjust treatment of things more personally. I don't like feeling helpless, but it does me more of a service to pushing her out and not worrying about her. I'm glad she doesn't know where I'm at.

[Yismymindblank12]

So I looked at the photo with further close examination, it's her child and she is indeed pregnant, but it's definitely not our baby. The photo date was on the document of march 30th of this year. I've not seen or have had sex with her 4 years ago. So I know this was an attempt to get me to be in her life or pay her money for a baby that isn't mine.

She is the lowest of low for me.

Originally Posted by Yismymindblank12

So I looked at the photo with further close examination, it's her child and she is indeed pregnant, but it's definitely not our baby. The photo date was on the document of march 30th of this year. I've not seen or have had sex with her 4 years ago. So I know this was an attempt to get me to be in her life or pay her money for a baby that isn't mine.

She is the lowest of low for me.

You're making this very personal. It's not personal. It's black and white. Unless and until it can be proven it's your child, you have the right to be left in peace.

If it ends up being your child, let's be honest, it's not the end of the world. Although I'm sure it feels like that.

Right now you are doing exactly what she wants: panicking. That's not in your best interest. I realise you are under attack. But keeping your head while you're under attack is a much better tactic, than buying into her projected fear.

Take a breath, watch a movie, meditate, do anything to get out of panic mode. Give it a rest and come back to it with a determination to keep it in the realms of rational thought.

[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by clairerobin

You're making this very personal. It's not personal. It's black and white. Unless and until it can be proven it's your child, you have the right to be left in peace.

If it ends up being your child, let's be honest, it's not the end of the world. Although I'm sure it feels like that.

Right now you are doing exactly what she wants: panicking. That's not in your best interest. I realise you are under attack. But keeping your head while you're under attack is a much better tactic, than buying into her projected fear.

Take a breath, watch a movie, meditate, do anything to get out of panic mode. Give it a rest and come back to it with a determination to keep it in the realms of rational thought.

woah, it's alright. I'm not worried I was not panicked at all before I was angry only was panicked till I saw the date. I can't get her pregnant from many miles away in the future after doing so once 4 years ago before her tubes were tied. They were undone I guess when she turned 18. She was 17 at the time. I was barely 18. So also to keep in mind.

I definitely know it's not mine. She did this to upset and make me panic, because she knows how to upset me. Whether she was sarcastic too or not, she's not funny ever, she was always like that.

I don't care who knocked her up I'm glad it was not me. I know also I was upset because my friend who passed away I've been talking about on here quite a bit helped me get away from her and is my best friend. I felt seeing her ugly head rear around really got the better of me.

I'm ok. I just glad I am away from that nightmare and I did block her again on this phone even if it might be temporary, because I'm getting a new phone soon.

[divine1966]

The girl was lying. You can't get tubes tied at 17. Wouldn't be allowed. She told you that to mess with you. Also if she is pregnant now then it's unlikely she aborted for health reasons

If you have nothing to do with her for 4 years then just block her number and email address. It is easy to prove that child isn't yours by doing DNA test. If she is talking about baby that she supposedly aborted then who knows what happened. First of all why does unborn baby aborted at the most 3 months already had a name? Melody? Who gave get a name? Are you sure age aborted? She is bad news and who knows what she does and why. Just block her.

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[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by divine1966

The girl was lying. You can't get tubes tied at 17. Wouldn't be allowed. She told you that to mess with you. Also if she is pregnant now then it's unlikely she aborted for health reasons

If you have nothing to do with her for 4 years then just block her number and email address. It is easy to prove that child isn't yours by doing DNA test. If she is talking about baby that she supposedly aborted then who knows what happened. First of all why does unborn baby aborted at the most 3 months already had a name? Melody? Who gave get a name? Are you sure age aborted? She is bad news and who knows what she does and why. Just block her.

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Ok, hold up. This is getting out of hand.

No you're getting it all misunderstood. Her father had to sign for it to be done, she has a rare medical condition that her lesions in her brain can kill her from the stress of childbirth according to her neurologist and other specialists, her dad told me he did.

There is no confusion how it happened.

My ex and I gave her that name after finding out the gender. Yes, her dad told me, because he took her to planned parenthood, she hated me since then.

She convinced me to get her pregnant when we were very naive and stupid, I dated her at 16 to 18 years old. She abused me a lot and convinced me to do a lot of things, even if I was very uncomfortable with it, because she controlled me. I already had, the issue was I don't know how she got ahold of me after doing so many many many many times of different web sites accounts, phone numbers etc, this has gotten too much and I wanted to file a restraining order, because she doesn't get that me blocking her doesn't mean find another way to go around my methods of blocking her like calling from random numbers frequently.

She's really childish and I don't get it.

I feel like when I describe anything on this forum it's like I'm talking to a brick wall who isn't seeing the point blank what I'm saying getting it too abstract and confused.

I'm not confused or unsure about her current child being mine or not, I know it isn't. I have physical proof and everyone knows I was working all the time or with this one girl who has not one connection related to her in any way remotely.

So I we have not had sex or seen each other in many many years. I can't impregnate her again from 4 years from the past to now. It's not possible ever.

[Trippin2.0]

So if she had life threatening brain lesions, and had her tubes tied...


How does she magically have a child now and is alive and well to raise her?


Probably a friends child she took a pic of and passed off as her own.


This is one sick cookie, keeping your distance was a smart choice.

[divine1966]

Oh I am not saying it is your child she is pregnant with but I worried she maybe never aborted the first one. Girls like her low class often lie about such things. If she tied her tubes at 17 it seems rather weird to untie at 18. Did her lesions went away at 18? And how is she not afraid to be pregnant now with all her brain lesions. She is mentally unwell to say the least and is lying about things. Either lied then or lies now

I wouldn't trust her dad either

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[Yismymindblank12]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Oh I am not saying it is your child she is pregnant with but I worried she maybe never aborted the first one. Girls like her low class often lie about such things. If she tied her tubes at 17 it seems rather weird to untie at 18. Did her lesions went away at 18? And how is she not afraid to be pregnant now with all her brain lesions. She is mentally unwell to say the least and is lying about things. Either lied then or lies now

I wouldn't trust her dad either

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Ok, let me clarify I'm sorry for not explaining this well enough. She had her tubes tied suddenly after the abortion, because it was a joint decision from her primary care specialist and doctor and her father.

She has a very very very very rare condition apparently at the time she was the only one who has it. It's like spinal bifida, but in her knees caused from her birth going all wrong which started the lesions. The dr's thought she wouldn't live long in life. Her disorder is part genetic too, but the lesions are from her birth where she was choked and other complications I can't remember clearly, but it was a sudden decision the dr's were monitoring her constantly weekly for her health and our daughter before we found out what her gender was and after before the sudden abortion for like normal checkups however that goes for most women, but her case was special.

She had physical checkups weekly to see if she can go full term with the child. They weren't considering abortion an option as mandatory, just optional, but we both decided to go with it. Then I suddenly found out from her not sounding shocked or at least too shocked to even give me a reaction how they aborted her around like almost mid to end of the 2nd trimester, because her CTI scans and other scans shown stress on her brain.

The stress on her brain physical stress I mean, would of made her bleed internally in her brain and would kill her easily.

That's what I was told by her and her father of and on. Her dad was a nice dude he was really good dad. She was just scummy. He knew it, but I love how unconditional he cared for her. It was inspiring though.
I felt I wanted to be there for my child and take care of her like he did for tiffany, because I knew she was too immature at the time for a child.

See I read the document I originally thought it was an old ultra sound of our child, but I saw a much closer pic and it was her name of this year. So I wasn't worried, she likes to say surprise, but isn't very nice in her humor if you call it that. She bullies you and harrasses you and tells you how horrible you are before complimenting you she isn't right in the head.

Oh why wait till 18. The doctors said it's safe enough for her developing brain to not have children until it's developed enough to handle the physical stress. That's what I was told. I can't tell you anything else, but what documents I saw and what I was told she shown me her medical documents a lot. She seems normal in person a lot, the only thing is off is her walking is limped and slow in one leg, and she sounds like she's drunk all the time, but is normal other than being mentally ill really ill.

She's not afraid of anything, I know her literally doing the most dangerous and illegal teenage stuff. Like doing drugs and having sex in sketchy areas, she inspired me at first, before I found out her true identity of using me. She tried to get in fights with cops and people, she felt her life would be over anyways because of her disorder so she acts reckless because she doesn't care about anyone except herself if she gets hurt that's her own fault.

[Yismymindblank12]

Lastly I've not talked to her dad in years. He's a great guy, I trust his word, because he's aware of his daughter more than me. He's trying to set a good example and he did a good job overall.

So also I'm aware of her habitual lying, I haven't left that under the table either. I sometimes think there's a possibility, but not much anymore. I'm relieved honestly.

She wants me to worry that's how she controls me that's why the girl I was with cussed her out and she asked me if I wanted to say a few words. I told the girl I was in the car with, no I got nothing to say to her, she's all yours to roast on and call her out. I had people on my side for once in that moment. It was a day I felt I never got to see.

A lot of my older friends know who she is through me and always say, all my guy and female friends always say to me, "oh no not that one again." or "Don't talk to that nasty girl" "you still talk to that ..." etc. People gave me so much crap for years about it, because they wanted me to break it off with her, because I was addicted to the sex and fake affection and letting her abuse me.

2 years of hell, and omg I can't tell you how good it felt to tell her off the other day not being alone. The girl I'm with now, is just a fwb, but she's been more a friend and better girlfriend equivalent than anyone I've dated. We are going on dates, but we're not dating in both our words. She gave me **** about saying, "ok this doesn't mean we're dating, buutttt I still want to go out and go on dates with you though."

I think it's nice. she's my kind of girl anyways. I'll hope to find a girl that makes me feel at home nothing specific again when I move to texas soon.

[divine1966]

Yeah it's all fishy. If one doesn't have fully developed brain in 17 one doesn't get it all developed by 18. In one year she is developed enough? I wouldn't believe a word and would never talk to this girl again. Who knows what she is up to

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"Choked at birth" sounds like cerebral palsy, which doesn't cause lesions in your knees per se, but can cause them to be retracted and stiff. In any case...yeah, it all sounds really fishy. Not saying that none of it is true, just saying that I wouldn't let her get to you. I would take what she's saying with a big grain of salt, so to speak, because I think she knows how to get to you. Sadly, there are people who just do that kind of thing.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Everything from these brain lesions or knee lesions to having the child sounds fishy. I've known a few compulsive liars in my life and unfortunately people just need attention THAT badly.

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