Seems like Online friend ignores me and It really bothers me

HHi ,

I can't believe I'm writing in this forum but I really need to express this.I have talked to two of my close friends but they just give me short answers and I don't blame them.

I have this online friend.We've known each other for like a few months months and it was crazy because we had so much in common.We were really close and we used to joke around a lot .We met through a forum for a tv Show and we talked every single day.We started talking about the show then,we started talking about personal lives,be there for each other and happened to be in the same city but we've never met.We planned it but she couldnt make it because of university duties and I understoood.Her bf was coming as well and she had to travel afterwards .

Well I noticed that I have been the one to contact her first in the last three times we talked and for people who used to talk EVERY DAY now it's just like so rare .

I honestly thought that since she's back home,maybe she doesn't have time.I wrote to her to check on her and she's always reponding cool but It makes me jealous when I see her talk to otherpeople on twitter and all.

Even the past three times I engaged the conversion,we exchange and talk a bit and she doesnt reply .So last time Two weeks ago I decided that I won't engage the conversation anymore until she sens me an inbox.

I get it that she's back home with friends boyfriend but I mean she often goes to the forum we met and posts there and also sometimes talk to people on twitter but doesnt send me anymore ,not even to check on me.

So many times we talked about our friendship,how amazing our bond was,how we met and all and that we would be sisters for life..;and we professed how much we love each other and that we won't grow apart.

Maybe she's taking a break from me or smthg .I dont know.I mean I have real life friends that I trust and love but she's just special.I think Im holding on to the special thing.the fact that we're so different but have so much in common.

I just don't understand.I don't know If Im acting out of ego or something but I WILL NO talk to her first again.I've done it like twice in a row even after she didnt reply ...

We never argued or anything.I dont think I did anything wrong and the thcouple times we talked,I subtly said stuff like I missed her and that she's abadoning me or smthg .stuff like that In a joking way but she didnt say anything about that.I figured it annoyed her when I imply those stuffs so yeah I dont even.

I am not desperate I just thought It was an outstanding friendship but Im just sorry she's ignoring me.You know I could have understoodthe whole going back home for holidays and not having time bnut when she talks to people on twitter and goes to the forum and still dont talk to me or replies what I last said.I cant help but think that's she's ignoring me.

I need some advice.Im shocked Im writing in here.I dont understand.Maybe I'm overreacting or something but yeah it bothers me .

I'm sorry to say this, but sometimes these things can peter out; it happens. I've had the same thing happen a few times over the years. She may also just be very busy; she sounds it.

To your second to last paragraph, it does seem like she's not really busy, but instead has, for whatever reason, lost interest. It isn't necessarily a sign that you did something wrong. Sometimes it's nice to meet someone, get along well, and move on without the pressure. Remember, some people just don't have the energy to maintain too many friendships like that; I'm one of those people.

It would be best not to bug her about it, because it may scare her off, ... I'm a guy, so I dunno how that would work with women, as perhaps it's different for you guys, but if a woman bugged me because I didn't contact her, then I'd get a bit annoyed, same if a guy did it; it'd have the exact opposite reaction than the intended. I don't like to feel obliged or expected to talk to someone.

I have this AMAZING as heck friend from Denmark; we've known each other for ... not sure, actually... possibly a year. This woman never pressures me to contact her, as I don't with her. Because of the lack of pressure, we talked when we felt comfortable and ready... I swear, she's amazing. I'm glad I took the time to get to know her. But yeah, sometimes you just have to be patient and not stress about it. If it doesn't work out, there's lots of awesome people out there!

By the way, the woman from Denmark and I actually also initially talked every day for ages; it did indeed peter out a bit, but not the friendship, just the frequency that we talked. We still sometimes talk for ages on end, especially lately, as she's been struggling with her back and I wanted to cheer her up.

Best of luck!

This happened to me with an online friend and it was heartbreaking. I was really depressed at the time and I think I was just too needy. Three years later, we did get in contact but it is not the same.

I swear social media is going to be the downfall of mankind sometimes,

Im sorry that she has pulled away and not given you a reason its all very hard to handle. I seem to have friends (online) around the world .. But it took along time( think 6 months to a year) for me to feel that it was indeed a long term friendship.. Friendship takes time.

I would not reach out to her again, Just let it go, if she contacts you again maybe you can find out what really happened or maybe you will never know..

This has been a good learning expierence tho.. Dont become to emotionally attached to someone on line so quickly .

Good luck

This is good advise, couldn't have said it better

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply.
Well I back out and didn't contact her.Now It's clear to me that she's ignoring me because she's back in town , and is very active in the forum we met,tweeting but still didn't contact me.
I didn't wanna go to the thread because I wanted to avoid her and tension but then I had to ask something ,even though she posted on the same page,I also did but ignored her message and got my replies from others.

Yes this is the first time It's happening to me but I got my lesson.I don't know what happened and maybe I'll never know but I choose to accept that the friendship has run its course.
It sucks because we really were close,had similar outlooks and views and had so much fun joking,being crazy and we live in the same city and planned to meet and everything before this but oh well it is what it is.
Last time we talked ,it was fine.So I don't understand and this is not the case of "people grow apart" because It was just brutal.She was always cool but maybe she thought I was being too much in her life or something but then we both played a part in it.It definitely wasn't one-sided.
I'm gonna take the higher road and learn my lesson.
I made my decision;definitely backing out but seeing the tweets and the posts in the forum bother me a bit but I guess I'll get used to it.I hate creating drama :reason why I havent emailed her to ask or unfollowed her.

I know how you feel .. I have a friend from grade school who I found on FB and it's like pulling teeth for her to talk to me .
She never e-mails me I always have to e-mail her if I want to talk and she always says she has to go , so I said then e-mail me when u can talk .. nope she doesn't ever e-mail me .

I have learned that on line friends come in your life one day and boom gone the next as if it never happened . It stinks how easy people can drop you without even giving you a reason , just makes you feel , like your not worth there time .

I had a similar situation: a person I do not see, but a telephone contact.
We have some similar interests, but the conversations started to be her talking and the time spent got to be excessive. I informed her that I needed to limit the time on the phone, and she was offended and defensive and she wanted to know why? This happened over a period of time...so.....I told her that we can email. Maybe this will work for us for now. We will see.

Easy come, easy go. I've seen it happen a lot, saw people get a little too attached to me and had to stop replying because I wasn't as interested in them as I used to be, and also all of a sudden stopped getting replied to for absolutely no reason. I thought we were going to be friends but now I'm being ignored? No reason to question yourself, just learn from this experience and move on.

Yeah it sucks .I guess that you reconnected and thought things would be great since you knew each other way back un grade school but no.
Yeah It doesn't make me feel like I'm not worth it but It's just hard to process when it's the forst time it's really happening to you.

I hope it works out.At least you were decent enough to let her know why the telephone didn't work out.I command your honesty.

why weren't you as interested as you used to be?Running out of things to talk about,time ?I am curious
I feel much better about it.You know It was the first time I got attached and trusted somebody online.Our friendship started at a high intensity and it was really brutal how it stopped.Last time we talked It was fine.I really don't think the famous"People grow apart apply" because it wasn't gradual at all but you're right no reason to question anything.I DEFINITELY learned from it and I won't let anything like it happen again.I just thought it was crazy how one day you can profess your love and friendship ,talking about sister,about meeting (we live in the same city), and what not and just boooom silent treatment but yeah It is what it is .
I don't even wanna go back to all the moments we had,that seemed genuine and authentic to me,that I question now.
I am definitzly pumping the brake on this and move on.I needed advice because I just couldn't understand it yeah Life goes on...

I considered before emailing her to ask but I've decided to accept the status of the friendship.I've also thought of unfollowing her because it's annoying stumble upon them tweets or posts in that forum that I rarely visit...I didn't because I hate drama...

So I didn't say anything at all but she these past couple of days,she started favoriting my tweets and I don't know how to feel about that.I almost wanna send her an email but I am really conflicted about it...

Shes flaky? .. She stopped talking to you outta the blue before, why do you think she wont do it again?

Do yourself a favor and just let it go.

Hi Christina,

It wasn't gradual at all.She just stopped .I mean when I checked on her the last three times and initiated I had to stop;I thought yeah she's back home on holidays,so maybe she's busy but nobody is that busy I guess to say Hi to a friend you know were sick,to a friend you used to talk to every so often,especially ngiven that she was posting on that forum and on twitter.So yeah I know she's back but still nothing.I just gave it space .

I don't know why she suddenly backed away since we always got along well etc etc but yeah I mean I just couldn't believe what we shared,all our emotional conversations ..I meant them I don't know.How do you just dismiss all that?I don't understand...

Anyway ,You have a great point:why do I think she won't do it again?

Also,she just started favoriting my tweets.I just didn't know how to feel about that .If you are going to ignore me,just do itDon't remind me that you're still alive...

We are literally ignoring each other.We are both posting on the forum but ignoring each other's posts.It's almost funny.
I don't know what to make of it.Part of me wants to break this silence since she favorited my tweets but yeah to be really honest,my pride is preventing me from doing it .

Hey Noski. This happened to me with the closest friend I ever had, and I eventually found out it was partly because she felt smothered by me, but also partly because her life changed when she moved to NYC and was busier than me and more fulfilled... We were friends in person for years, but long distance it really suffered, and I haven't heard from her now in months, the last time being when she was asking that I give back some of her things.
She ignored my calls and messages for over a month before deciding to tell me that she was screening my calls (when after agonizing I convinced myself she was too busy to text me.) So, I definitely feel your pain.
Actually, I think it will give you closure to email her and ask. If she doesn't respond, don't wait for her, unfriend, unfollow etc... It struck me that it's possible she wasn't who she claimed to be since this was online... That could be a reason for her cutting you off. However, if you email her, it'll give her a chance to explain herself that's easy and not too high stress.

Yeah, it appears that am in a similar situation. I haven't heard from my guy friend in a month. I guessing he's busy but he seems to not be answering my messages.butthe difference with this situation is that we arint just friends but soon to be partners working on writing a script together. This is very important to me and I would like to hear from him.