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Old Nov 08, 2014, 10:43 AM
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I feel I have no one to turn to or to talk to.

I haven't spoken to my significant other in a week - neither of us is reaching out. Our relationship is in ruins and has been for years.

My parents are narcissists and I'm too embarrassed to share my feelings with my friends. Only two of my friends, I think, would me and understand. I'm not close to my siblings - one physically attacked me not long ago and my parents told me to let it go and blamed me.

I feel so alone and so sad. I feel like I have no one.

Were it not for the distraction of my job, I'm not sure where I'd be. I just applied for health insurance to get a new T.

I need someone to talk to.
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Old Nov 08, 2014, 01:15 PM
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well don't be afraid to reach out to your friends. you may be surprised by the support you get. I am shocked by the crazy **** I tell my coworkers and they still love me.

and at this link Forums at Psych Central - Show Groups, you can always PM any of the community liaisons to talk and we would be happy to offer our support.

you are not alone. I hope your new t helps. make sure it is one that knows how to treat anxiety. I worked for years with one that didn't know what to do with my anxiety at all. it was really frustrating. I finally got a new t who diagnosed me accurately and my anxiety nearly went away. take care
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Old Nov 08, 2014, 09:25 PM
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Being a child of narcissism is difficult to overcome. There's numerous books. There's several different dynamics, that lead to future relationship difficulties.

What's going on, that there's a break in communication with your significant other?

Thanks for this!
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Old Nov 09, 2014, 02:39 AM
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Group therapy for anxiety would be wonderful for you. Groups are far cheaper than individual therapy (in my area that would be $40 for a 2-hour group session vs $150 for a ONE hour individual therapy session, and this is a high cost of living area - call around and you might find a $10-20 group where you live), so this might be something you can afford right now, without waiting for the insurance. Also, anxiety treatment greatly benefits from group dynamics and interactions. So it might not be simply cheaper, but actually better for you.

Another option is peer support, and that is most likely free. Call or visit your county mental health clinic and look for resources - they most likely have schedules of peer groups posted in the lobby. Or, call them and ask if there is a peer support coordinator whom you can talk to.

Another idea is meetup. Here is in NYC:#1 New York Shyness and Social Anxiety Meetup Group (New York, NY) - Meetup

Maybe there is something in your area.
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Old Nov 09, 2014, 04:49 AM
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well don't be afraid to reach out to your friends. you may be surprised by the support you get. I am shocked by the crazy **** I tell my coworkers and they still love me.

and at this link Forums at Psych Central - Show Groups, you can always PM any of the community liaisons to talk and we would be happy to offer our support.

you are not alone. I hope your new t helps. make sure it is one that knows how to treat anxiety. I worked for years with one that didn't know what to do with my anxiety at all. it was really frustrating. I finally got a new t who diagnosed me accurately and my anxiety nearly went away. take care
Thank you so much for this. I trust my friends but I still feel a bit of shame when it comes to my anxiety. I'm also warry because of the field I work in but I know you're right about people being a lot more understanding than one would expect.

I'm definitely going to look into pming community liaisons. I previously pmed two ppl on PC who seemed like they might be great for advice but they never wrote back. My message just said " Hi, I saw your post on the (insert name) thread and was wondering if you might be willing to offer me some advice regarding a similar issue."
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Old Nov 09, 2014, 04:57 AM
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Being a child of narcissism is difficult to overcome. There's numerous books. There's several different dynamics, that lead to future relationship difficulties.

What's going on, that there's a break in communication with your significant other?

I didn't realize there was literature on this subject. Right now I'm reading a book about dysfunctional parenting.

My significant other and I are having a huge breakdown in communication so we just stopped speaking. Almost two years ago he had an emotional affair and though he attoned for it and I admit I wasn't the best partner at the time, I'm stuck there still. It triggered all my abandonment issues from my parents and one other relationship and I don't see him as good anymore. It's like I see him not as a person but as what he did, and a horrible human being. I've tried to move past it but I'm so used to seeing ppl as all good or all bad that I can't imagine he could ever he good again. So I still accuse him and I'm extremely suspicious of him. He feels emotionally beaten down and hurt and lashes out then I take his lashing out as evidence of his badness and we just hurt each other again and again. I'm paralyzed with fear of him hurting me again and he feels trapped by my accusations and inability to see good in him. Our long distance also complicated things.
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Old Nov 09, 2014, 05:05 AM
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Group therapy for anxiety would be wonderful for you. Groups are far cheaper than individual therapy (in my area that would be $40 for a 2-hour group session vs $150 for a ONE hour individual therapy session, and this is a high cost of living area - call around and you might find a $10-20 group where you live), so this might be something you can afford right now, without waiting for the insurance. Also, anxiety treatment greatly benefits from group dynamics and interactions. So it might not be simply cheaper, but actually better for you.

Another option is peer support, and that is most likely free. Call or visit your county mental health clinic and look for resources - they most likely have schedules of peer groups posted in the lobby. Or, call them and ask if there is a peer support coordinator whom you can talk to.

Another idea is meetup. Here is in NYC:#1 New York Shyness and Social Anxiety Meetup Group (New York, NY) - Meetup

Maybe there is something in your area.
Thank you for this! I actually am very interested in group therapy as it was recommended by my last T but I was too afraid to do it. You said it is effective for ppl with anxiety. I've been concerned about how I would do anxiety wise in a group setting. I wonder how the groups work through anxiety attacks in group. My anxiety peaks with my vulnerability and I fear having an attack in a group setting.
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Old Nov 09, 2014, 10:46 AM
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If it community liaison doesn't write you back make sure to let me know or the senior liaison Lexi so we can have a chat with that person LOL. I do have a lot of experience with anxietyif that is something you want to talk about though and I would be happy to talk with you.

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Old Nov 09, 2014, 05:47 PM
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Old Nov 09, 2014, 10:55 PM
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My anxiety peaks with my vulnerability and I fear having an attack in a group setting.
And so do other participants!

It is not like going to an interview and fearing an anxiety attack before people who would not understand you and might judge you harshly. But when other people also have sweaty palms and a look of worry in their eyes, or also start crying easily, or also feel exposed and vulnerable - basically, also share some of your symptoms and manifestations - the dynamic is quite different.
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Old Nov 12, 2014, 10:28 AM
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I feel so alone in my anxiety and so utterly sad I feel so alone in my anxiety and so utterly sad I feel so alone in my anxiety and so utterly sad
Thank you for this, Fuzzybear.
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Old Nov 12, 2014, 10:29 AM
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If it community liaison doesn't write you back make sure to let me know or the senior liaison Lexi so we can have a chat with that person LOL. I do have a lot of experience with anxietyif that is something you want to talk about though and I would be happy to talk with you.

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Ok, will do. Thank you.
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Old Nov 12, 2014, 10:30 AM
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And so do other participants!

It is not like going to an interview and fearing an anxiety attack before people who would not understand you and might judge you harshly. But when other people also have sweaty palms and a look of worry in their eyes, or also start crying easily, or also feel exposed and vulnerable - basically, also share some of your symptoms and manifestations - the dynamic is quite different.
I understand. Are real names used in groups?
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