[Yismymindblank12]

This girl who was mean to me, but a bit crazy, but I'm cautious very cautious if she is being for real or not. I'm on the fence whether I should continue talking to her or just out right avoid her like most girls I do. I really liked when she appreciated me at first, but that was a huge red flag to me, because it felt both sincere and a bit confused. Like she seemed a bit over infatuated in my looks.

quote, "you're the hottest guy I've ever met." "I want to have your babies" She kept on winking at me. I am not thinking about dating this person, but why I put the question up here is where I'm getting at here.

She was just joking around at first, but realized she was being very harsh, and she seemed a both bit psycho, like a sociopathic type of psycho, so far I'm leaving it just as casual as you get for obvious reasons, but in a long term if it did improve and she really did have feelings for me. Do you think this person would be a good idea for me?

To add, she's very sexual, she did warn me she isn't responsible with her promiscuity if she is intoxicated with the wrong crowd. Many people find me weird, but I don't have a problem with it, except if she just flats out leave me for someone else and is a type of person who isn't remorseful and just jumps from relationship to relationship through convenience. I will not ever tolerate that, but you know I don't care if she is promiscuous or wants to express her sexuality more. I don't mind it, because I'm in the same boat, and I respect her for her needs too, so I felt like logically that end would work out. We both are very sexually compatible, but at the same time, emotionally is what I'm more focused on at the moment.

She has shown empathy, she has shown many sides, and it's way waay to early to judge anything. I'm just keeping it casual, but "Dating" we may hook up, but I already was around her and hung out with her.

Many people find it uncomfortable to have sex with a stranger, I agree. It comes with it's risks, I mean I don't truly trust her yet, but I'm staying leery for my own physical safety if she contracts an STI from unprotected sex unintentionally.

I'm not here to judge her sexuality this isn't something new to me, I dated two other people like her, but they ended horribly because I wasn't mindful of them or myself to realize I'm not prepared at the time when I wasn't comfortable with my sexuality. Now I'm beyond comfortable and completely happy on how I want to go about, I do like girls who are more sexually active, but are good loyal friends. Those are people I like to date long term to get more experience, I feel, that my main concern is STD's or unwanted pregnancy. I don't plan on ever having kids. I'll make those responsible choices on my own. So I know what I'm getting into there. I hope she isn't going to be mean again and make more unneeded drama. She's like lusting for me, but I'm taking it as that for now. Not anything love related, I hope I can make something out of it.

Do you think this will work or a good idea with the strategy I got going or is it a lost cause already and I'm walking into a bees nest?

[jelly-bean]

I'm sorry but I think you are not walking into a bee's nest. You are walking into a full-fledged hornets nest here. If you want emotional involvement you are not going to find it with her at this time in her life. It sounds like she is too interested in what she wants to seriously care what anyone else wants right now. Maybe sometime in the future but not now. Whatever decision you make, I wish you luck.

[hamster-bamster]

I assume that you are very young, so I would not make life-altering choices now (vasectomy). You have so many years ahead of you that you might change your mind later.

You can protect yourself against STD's via a combination of vaccinations (some STD's are vaccine-preventable) and religious use of condoms. Taken together, these measures afford a good degree of protection, but not 100%, of course.

Condoms that are used correctly protect against pregnancy very well, but, again, not 100%. So to make sure the girl does not get pregnant, she should be on a reliable form of birth control (something that is at least 99% effective) and you should use condoms. For that kind of an arrangement, the girl should be trustworthy. This girl who told you she wanted to have your babies while winking at you - is she trustworthy in that respect? Think hard .

[Yismymindblank12]

I'm 20. I sounded much inexperienced with relationships, I knew what I was trying to say. I didn't take it seriously. I do believe she has her own agenda. So I intentionally made it casual, but now. There isn't anything, she is psychopathic or sociopath, she only wants drama. Her agenda is harming as many people as possible. I don't want anything to do with her. I didn't trust her from the get go. I didn't make anything happen, she's crazy like her friend said. I just wasn't sure if she was still messing with me. I already now know she is constantly trying to scheme more ********. She thrives off of harming others and trying to ruin other people's lives because she can.

Her 30 plus idk tbh, "bf's" are all stupid. Unless they are playing along, I found her unintelligent and her hobbies boring. The girls I find intelligent are so rude to me, and the girls that are crazy for me are not good people to be around. She is unintelligent because she chooses to be actively. She's a horrible manipulator. I blocked her.

I can't believe I considered dating her.

[Yismymindblank12]

I am sexually attracted to intelligence, I like class and self respect, but at the same time. I go crazy if I date anyone who isn't that sexually compatible. I'm not going to force it on them ever, I'm just not going to bother with them. Like I was always right as a kid, on one thing, but didn't understand what I like and put it into a category.

I used to say, "I want to marry a pornstar." When I was a child, and believed it. It sounds messed up, but after being sexually abused all the time from different people. I really had my libido very high and I want someone who can help me on that. At the same time someone who cares about what I do and who I am. Putting value behind it of who I am. I don't have a problem giving the same respect. Someone I can trust emotionally on her actions, because I expect it not demand it and she knows better that if she tried to do something stupid. I'm cutting her off completely. She can take her stuff and life and go far away whatever she wants to do. I'm not stopping her. Also I'm not going to shame her sexual identity/orientation if she is bi/ or how she likes it, but as a preference I'd rather not date someone seriously who isn't compatible on certain things with my kinks.

I know it sounds silly, but I won't like it. I know later down the road. I'm just going to start hating myself and self destruct the relationship without cheating. I never cheated. I'll just make them leave, because I don't like being told what I like, "is not what everyone does. I'm not going to be called a ***** or be with a *****." That type of talk is so ignorant and stupid from anyone. I find it infuriating, I dated people who did this to me every time, and they go out have sex with whoever and say like "Oh it's an accident I hope you aren't mad? "

That what makes me mad, because I shouldn't have the respect I give you to go out with your sexual needs and be who you are in that way, because you are afraid of losing me. When I didn't have that with you, I'm just afraid you are trying to pressure and hurt me and put me in a box that I don't belong in.

I've been constantly disrespected it felt at some point if someone was dating me, it was an insult to them in my mind when I was a teenager. Now I'm not dating anyone. They won't get me to say first date or I love you ever and actually mean it from a deeper level other than casual stuff.

I don't trust anyone, it will take many many many years, I got ****ed over too many times. I'm not adding more to that list.

Some girls are just girls, at 20 years old even to 29. Many of the act like girls not women. Most boys will be boys in my area. I hate it, immaturity and ignorance and stupidity and shaming others for whatever reason. Won't get you to win my heart. I'll tear your *** up, because people like that are bullies and are ****. They don't deserve any respect from me. I don't care man or woman.

I just find this society beyond stupid. It's supposed to implement to a demographic that's not here today much anymore. People hold on to these stupid irrational moral code of conduct and force it on others if they are different, like in my area,

"homosexuality is bothed shamed and praised depending where you go... being a transgender or even admitting you are will get you shot beaten and raped here... It's why I'm not coming out to many people here... Or if you have sexual kinks people will condemn you like you are satan in their minds... Like not just older people like everyone... is indoctrinated in this BS"

It's complete crap, because many of the people I'm around don't practice what they preach they do all the stuff they are against not just sexual stuff, but stuff like being nice and respectful to others when others do need it they are close with, or even using communication properly and knowing how to act maturely...

I don't believe anyone, no one has convinced me they deserve to be anywhere near my life because they are selfish like me, but how they go about it is what gets me frustrated when people that want me to be their friend aren't really good people.

It's so frustrating everyone here is stupid and they choose to stay stupid and act like they are smart.

Especially the girls I don't respect. I don't talk to them, or associate anything with them because they act like they don't care about anyone.

Same with guys.

The only people I like are respectful sorta, but they end up being really mean and leading me on a goose chase for them. When I just want a straight answer, and then I get it. I'm disappointed and relieved. This has been going on since I don't know. This why no one as of now deserves to anything called a girlfriend by me, or even me thinking ever about kids, I'm to the point I don't want kids ever, because of my ex killing my child and blaming it on me and people doing dishonest ****, because I don't want my child to go through any of that. Also I'm tired, I don't want to work hard on someone else to maintain a relationship.

Like seriously the people I like don't exist. And if the emotional part and they may not have the sexual compatibility at all. I've made a decision it's either going to be what I'd like in the individual not all of it, but at least most of it, because I appreciate flaws pretty easy with girls, I'm bi, but with guys they have to have looks. I'm very much never going to date a guy, because I'm not attracted to many guys. What usually attracts me is the gratitude of emotional good things I feel about this person, or how smart they are and looks sorta not really too keen on that with girls.

It just bugs the **** out of me, when I like someone and they turn out all the time to be a person I don't want to be around and they end up as an acquaintance after like day one. In my mind they might think I'm in love with them, because they expect people to. It bugs me so much that people discriminate me, because I'm going to jump in and bang this girl and I don't know her or if she has stds at some party or some public place and let some other guy take her. Like I don't even care that's what throws everyone off, I miss potential people because they see I don't care in a wrong perspective, but really I don't care about the superficial crap. It's beyond boring bland and lacks any sort of character interest. The classic dating model is stupid, because it's beyond boring. If I was ever going to do that to the key, maybe the person shouldn't be any of the things that piss me off about any person.

I'm not sorry about, I hate ignorance and people choosing to be stupid. I hate it above everything else, I hate poor communicators , and I hate people who don't care, I hate people who try put on a front when I didn't ask them too.

It's disappointing and I don't go searching for people. I'm surrounded by these kinds of people. I'm about to leave the country and date a foreign girl, I hate the american girls I live by. The only ones I like are my close friends and my family and people I let in. Everyone else I don't care, and the ones who piss me off can go do their own thing. I don't care about them.

[Yismymindblank12]

I have to say religion is a sorta big thing, because I'm not religious I'm spiritual, but I'm not ever dating anyone who will invite me over and the family wants to convert me. I feel violated, even it's my choice to date her and come to her family in their home. I feel violated as an individual, I've had grown ups in I mean people that are in their 50's generally want me to recite the bible verses torah whatever 25 hundred times to prove something to them that I don't understand. Like I understand the scriptures, but I don't read it because I don't need to. I'm not even christian even if baptized. Like it's my personal choice and I hate being forced and for me to like anyone they have to know how stubborn I am I won't take any crap and they shouldn't either from me. I can't do it not even one minute. I will run away and be gone before they even think about setting something up, I'm not scared of them. I have not place to be there.

I'm pissed, because there is nobody here. I'm not going to look. I'm not going to talk and ask for numbers. Oh what gets me, If I'm talking to a girl casually in a public place, even if I make it known I don't want her number, and she thinks I'm hitting on her after saying that. That's the ignorance I'm talking about. I make myself clear very very clear and they go off on me like I am stupid when I just said I don't want anything so don't assume I just want to continue talking like we were if we met up sure we can chat how are things, but go our separate ways. That has not happened that often, but my point is that type of ignorance is beyond pissing me off.

If I was being disrespectful I would of done what every guy around here does take what he wants even if you get in the girls personal space and force himself on them...

People here are stupid. Like that everyone every guy and girl.

It's so lonely being very mature for their age and wiser than most young adults and people think it's stupid.

I'm like shocked how stupid people are here. I'm sorry for being negative about this, but it's done enough damage to me already and I've been so abused by it all my life. I just want to move far far away from people here.

I don't date, because I'm safer internally that someone isn't going to exploit like they do to everyone. I swear where are the good people?