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#1
Jan 10, 2015, 08:31 PM
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What do people mean when they say someone brings too much drama? For instance if a man says this about a woman after a couple of dates.
What about too intense? If someone says you are scary because you are too intense, what do you think they mean by this? Anyone have any insight? Thanks |
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Jan 10, 2015, 08:57 PM
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Maybe the drama means lots of issues?
Maybe the intensity being scary means that the listener feels frightened when hearing or seeing your expressions of various feelings? |
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Jan 10, 2015, 09:06 PM
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This could be an excuse for not really being into the person.
Or it could be a non-emotional guy.
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Jan 10, 2015, 09:17 PM
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i have been too intense for people because i have talked about real things that are too heavy for people to deal with. like mental illness. people dont want to face reality, they would rather be ignorant and live in a fantasyland.
what i consider drama usually means talking about other people/events, what so and so is doing to so and so that usually involves some kind of conflict. like if your family doesnt get along and you are always telling your friends about what is going on with them. or if you carry on all the time about everything that is going on with yourself, your aches and pains, drs appts, who is doing what to you, how your friends have gone behind your back and said such and such, how your ex has harmed you, etc........basically, always talking about negative events. |
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Jan 10, 2015, 09:25 PM
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It could also mean that they think you are living your life like a soap opera or that is how they may perceive it from what you have communicated to them. My interpretation would be that they "just aren't into you" & aren't interested in having their life go in that direction.
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#6
Jan 10, 2015, 09:26 PM
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If someone is saying these things after a couple of dates, they are just being a bit rude about not being interested, along the lines of what lilypup suggests. What's too much drama or too intense for one person may be fair game for another.
If I called someone intense, it would be because they seemed very focused and/or fixated on something. Kaliope's definition of drama seems pretty accurate. It could also be just that someone takes small problems too seriously (which we have all been guilty of!). |
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#7
Jan 10, 2015, 10:01 PM
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Dating should be fun, exciting and satisfying for both parties.
"Drama" Watch: YouTube: "Vicky Pollard in a counseling session" (sic) "Intensity" Watch : YouTube " Eharmony cat lady" Some couples thrive on intensity and drama , some don't. There is no right or wrong level, just a matter of preference. love your avatar btw. Last edited by toolman65; Jan 10, 2015 at 10:22 PM. |
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Jan 10, 2015, 10:03 PM
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Thank you Toolman65
Last edited by Anonymous2891232; Jan 10, 2015 at 11:10 PM. |
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Jan 10, 2015, 11:01 PM
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I think of drama as akin to high maintenance. The dramatic person requires a lot of attention, is easily offended and difficult to mollify, has numerous specific demands for how things should be, is unwilling to compromise, wants to get involved in other people's business and relationships.
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#10
Jan 10, 2015, 11:28 PM
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Possibly exaggeration of problems (dramatic) and too serious (intense)? IDK. Sounds like it's very subjective to the individual. I have friends who might be described as dramatic and I have a lot of fun with them. The negative connotation is placed there by the person who has issues with someone bearing those qualities.
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Jan 11, 2015, 07:07 AM
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I have very intense father, he becomes preoccupied with things and gets so wrapped up and agitated about that thing then the oves on to the next, it is too much t I handle. He also g e rd losses if we don't participate in his new obsessions. As about drama it us getting wrapped up in st a t o t hers say and do.
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#12
Jan 11, 2015, 09:21 PM
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Yes, some people don't have a problem with drama or an intense person....but there are some who have a problem with it later on because they aren't as aware of their feelings. The real question is....that what you want your life to be like?.....only you can determine that & if not, only you can make the changes. Most people want a quiet non-dramatic relationship.....I know that 33 years of fighting with my H & all the drama that ended up because of his personality.....it was hell by the time I left. Last 13 years I was trapped in the marriage because of financial issues.......not a good place to be & it effected me very negatively to the point of suicide attempts
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