Rant about the stupidity of Humanity...

Just an FYI: Nobody here can imply you need to lose weight because nobody has a clue as to what you look like....


Unless you've posted a dozen pics of yourself and folks went to check it out before suggesting exercise?


Idk seems highly unlikely to me.


Honestly, I'm no fan of exercise either, I'm thin and lazy, but I acknowledge the fact that it would be good for me to try because its healthy for my body, not because I should lose weight.


I hear you, its a touchy subject, but maybe try to not put words in people's mouths, it might just help you become less touchy on the subject.


Just a suggestion, use it don't use it.

Well, you reacted with a lot of hostility to people saying something that you didn't like.

And the fact is - no one was suggesting it to you to GET exercise. They were just pointing out a positive to having to walk 45 minutes.

Black and White thinking is thinking in absolutes - something is either A or Z, there's no bcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxy in between.

To use the walking as an example - you immediately jumped to the conclusion that people were suggesting you need to lose weight, when no one said it. You gave off a huge spiel about it without having really even read what people were saying. You jumped to a conclusion and reacted with hostility - no one except you forced any weight/image-related concepts at you.

If you do that here, on a forum, where you can reread what people say.... try reflecting on what you do when you are with people face to face.

I have poor self esteem, which I try and cover with a defensive layer of hostility. If I keep people at a distance, they can't hurt me.

Hostility doesn't allow much room for cultivating relationships, platonic or romantic...

Well, I don't want to be hurt again. I am not leaving myself vulnerable to being hurt. I refuse to.

And now you know exactly why people don't want to socialize with you, and why your friendships have ended. You've explained it yourself. You're hostile, you keep people at a distance.

There is nothing that anyone can do to help you have a social life, gain, or maintain friendships until you drop that hostility.

Like... I have a really high tolerance of being treated poorly and have maintained a lot of unhealthy friendships for a long time because I keep forgiving or thinking that I deserve to be treated poorly. But I won't stay around for very long if someone else is always hostile, aggressive, overly defensive, keeps me at a far distance, etc.

If I let them get too close, I'll get hurt. I just know it.

It isn't fair to punish people for other people's mistakes. It's hard, but if you don't want to spend your life alone and miserable then you don't have much of a choice.

I'm similar to you in regards to the fact that I am 30 and I do not drive. If I wanted to go to the part of town where I could DO something, I would have at least a 45 minute walk. Which is about a $10 cab ride. I'm also quite convinced that NO ONE will ever stay around for long. But I still make myself give people a chance - it scares the crap out of me, but I do because it isn't fair to them and if I start out assuming that everyone will hurt me the same way, well, then I would be alone all the time.

Instead, I put myself at risk every single time. I do have some very good friendships because of that. Does it mean that they won't end up eventually hurting me in the same way? Nope, it can happen. Or maybe it won't.

I think sometimes changing one's attitude is the first step into getting better. I had my share of pain in life but o refuse to be negative or hateful. I don't need to be a doormat but I am not going to be hostile. For example you refered to men who aren't interested in you as dang idiots. Not liking you doesn't make them idiots. There are many men who can't care less about me it is what it is, doesn't make them idiots

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