[tropicalfishlover]

Hello everyone ... Haven't posted on here in a while. I've been married almost 6 years and my husband has usually been very supportive, letting me do what I need and being understanding that sometimes I couldn't get out of bed. Now he is starting to get impatient with me, and says I need to get out and do things. I try; I really do. There are just some days when I literally CAN'T. I love him and want to stay married, but I wish I could get him to understand that my mind doesn't work like his does. Any ideas?

[CANDC]

Welcome to Psych Central (PC). Sorry you are having a misunderstanding with your husband. I get frustrated too when a friend cancels plans because they can't get out of bed. I used to punish myself and stay home but now I just go off and do things alone. Any chance a couples counselor might be an option so both parties could discuss their needs and find equitable solutions or a resolution.?

If you are on meds, maybe you need to ask the doctor about making an adjustment because you are too tired. If you are not on meds, some people on PC will seek a diagnosis from a psychiatrist and meds that will help you cope with married life.

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[gayleggg]

I'm sorry your husband is lacking on understanding. Maybe he is going through his on turmoil and just can't be supportive right now.

[healingme4me]

What does your doctor say causes the inability to get out of bed, each day?

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[~Christina]

You mention your Bipolar in your profile a,re you on medications? Maybe they need adjusted? Do you see a therapist? Therapy can help you learn coping skills that might be helpful in your being able to engage in life more often.

I have Bipolar and chronic pain also so I certainly understand how some days it is almost impossible to get out of bed and function. I had a spell about a year ago for maybe a week.. I honestly thought even if the house caught on fire I'm not sure I would be able to get outta the way, lol of course I would but , yeah I "get it"

What coping skills are you using to help yourself feel better and more able to engage in day to day living?

Does you husband have a decent understanding of Bipolar and how it can and will effect you in different ways?

Welcome to PC

[abysmal]

hey.

i'm really sorry to read you're currently going through this. was there any point in time where he might have become used to you being able to do things for a while? I have had that happen in a relationship before, the other person believes because there are points when you are able to get out of bed, that it might only get easier to after a while which is not always the case.

sometimes when it gets really difficult, i do something really small like if i get up to use the restroom, I will stop in the kitchen for a bit, just visit places in my apartment sometimes because it's simply not the bed. if I'm able to do that, then sometimes I will walk to the door, take a peek down the hall, know that it's there and think about walking down it when I am ready.

if you cannot get out of the bed, it is okay. even thinking about getting out of it without pressuring yourself to do so, is progress indeed, you can do it, i promise.