[Midnite3]

So I am new here. This is my first post. I just got out of a 3 year relationship. I've had many depression issues my entire life. This girl subsided them more times then not, she made me feel.. Happy. Well now she's gone and really doesn't want much to do with me. We were perfect 2 weeks ago, the next week, gone. I don't know what to do. I know we had love. I can't stop texting/calling her. I know if I jjust leave her alone, it's my best chance of her missing me and coming back. But I feel myself becoming obsessed, and it's really scaring me. I have way too much free time now that's she's gone. I know I must keep my mind busy, but she's always on my mind. I can't seem to leave her alone. I feel as if this will kill me. I need help. Honestly, I need her back in my life. I can't figure out how though.

[Ruftin]

(((Midnite))) I'm sorry you're hurting so badly. There's no easy answer here. It would be good if you could leave her alone but in the throws of despair I know that's not easy to do. Are you feeling manic? I ask because I'm bipolar too. Do you have anything prescribed for anxiety? It would at least help with your impulse control. I know this so very painful for you. I've been through it myself recently. You have got to find it in yourself to give her space and time to think. Perhaps take her number out of your cell, erase her email, stay away from areas you've been together as they may trigger you. Anything to slow you down. Be prepared she may not want to continue in the relationship. Make a list of what you truly desire in a relationship. Did she fulfill these criteria. Did she truly make you happy or are you fearing being alone? It's very natural if you fear being alone. I do. Best wishes friend. I've prayed for you. I hope you don't mind!!!

[avlady]

i agree with ruftin, you need to stay away for awhile, get rid of things that remind you of her too. no posting, i would not expect any communication between her, only if she tries to do it with you. i also had a very bad relationship breakup years ago and almost died from it it felt like. things do get better and you can get on with your life its your decision to let this go if you have to.

[Midnite3]

Wow, thank you much. I'm not prescribed anything. I tried theorpy, I could never really say much. So I just started saying I feel better.. That was 2 years ago. I think I'm going to start again though, I'm trying to be more open. Thank you so much for the reply. I am going to try everything you said

[A Red Panda]

I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time - and that the breakup seems to have came from no where. Did she explain to you why she was ending things?

Every relationship in my life that has ended has came as a surprise, and with my partner not telling me anything at all about what was going wrong. None of them have ever talked about issues, brought anything up, nothing. The confusion makes it really hard to move past.

But, even though you didn't see it - things weren't perfect two weeks ago. Your ex had something that was bothering her, she just wasn't respectful enough to share it with you. Alternately, she tried and you missed it as she wasn't clear enough.

You're right to acknowledge that the best thing you can do is respect her wishes for having no contact. Delete all your contact information for her, and that will at least make it harder for you to keep bothering her.

[Fuzzybear]