I die again

I just got back from the local coffee bar. Something unexpected but nice happened - I started a long conversation with an attractive younger lady. I sort of surprised myself because the conversation actually went pretty well. Anyway, after about a half an hour of bantering I asked if she would like to have coffee again sometime - she said she was very busy but if things lighten up maybe sometime. It was vague so I dropped the idea and wished her well. On the the way back to my place I couldn't help but be relieved knowing that I wouldn't have to face her again - how insecure am I well you can an smell the damage. I kept thinking that I wasn't good enough for her and I had no right to ask her anywhere. Then I thought how alone I am and she would never understand that situation. I also thought that I had just got out of an unrequited love situation that almost killed me. I guess the question is will I ever feel good enough to pursue a relationship - probably not. I ain't young anymore and I feel the odds are small. This again feels like a huge failure - I'm definitely thinking I will always be alone and I was content with this until a few hours ago - damn.....

Macd123, do not let this incident or your age discourage you! No matter how old you are or how your relationships have went in the past, you DO deserve to fight for a meanigful, loving and supportive relationship. We only have so many days on Earth, and that in itself is such a depressing thought, but the beauty of it is that it reminds me of how important it is to try (even though at times it's so damn, damn hard - and I am better at giving advice then following it myself) to live each day to the fullest. I bet you that long conversations with other ladies, and that special lady, are in your future at some point in time! Moving forward from an unrequited love situation as is your case is difficult and takes time... Be kind to yourself! Be proud of each small step you take!

I'm usually not very good with answering questions in the relationship forum, as I have trouble forming lasting relationships, but when I read your post, I was struck with the thought that everyone deserves to be able to reach out and communicate with others. It sounds like things went very well, so don't be so hard on yourself just because she didn't accept your invitation. That doesn't mean that you aren't worthy. There could be a lot of reasons which had nothing to do with anything you did wrong.

Don't give up. Keep reaching out.

I am 68 and not giving up!

Hello Macd123,

I admire the fact that you manage to go the coffee shop in the first place, I'm glad you found someone to converse with and I'm sure there will be many others in the future. I've been living on my own now for nearly a year (after a 25 yr marriage break up) and what I have realised is that you need to be comfortable with yourself first.

You had a good conversation and if the person enjoy 30 minutes with you it certainly means someone is out there for you to enjoy your company! Good luck and best wishes

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Thanks everyone it was really hard to let go of that moment - I have so few.

I say be happy that you were able to chat with a woman you didn't know for 30 minutes , really that is awesome! Just take time to realize you have more to offer than you probably realize. Take time and celebrate the little things ,,like talking to a woman you don't know