Marriage and family

I am newly engaged to the love of my life. He is amazingly supportive. In the past I have struggled with alcoholism and self harm. He helped me through it when my family chose it ignore it. My family loved him in the beginning, but now that we are engaged I am getting nothing but grief from them. I've only been engaged for a few weeks and in this time I've grown deeply depressed because of my family. I'm struggling to keep from going back to old bad habits. When I get this depressed all I want to do is grab a bottle of vodka and a razor blade. I live with my mom to help her out financially so I get to deal with the negativity on a daily basis. I'm torn about telling my fiance about how I'm feeling, I don't want him to be hurt by my family and their negative views about our engagement.

If you have to chose between your family and your boyfriend, which way would you go? Your boyfriend seems to be more what you need. Do you see yourself moving out to live with him, either now or after marriage. I mention that because living with your mother is not working out for you. For now , you might want to avoid discussing your boyfriend with your family.

It hurts to not have your family be happy for you at this time when you are anticipating joining your life with a person you love. Let go of hoping they'll be the way you want them to be. Project calmness and confidence about where you are headed in life. If family sees that you know the direction you are going in and don't need permission from then, they may eventually come around.

Try to get out of your mom's house and spend more time with your boyfriend.

I agree with Rose.....

Your boyfriend was supportive when your family ignored you.....why do you need or even expect their blessings on your engagement when they didn't care enough about you to be supportive when you really needed it before.....what made you think they would change their ways now?

Leaving your mother would be the wisest thing you could do....she isn't capable of supporting you emotionally, why should you support her financially?

Sounds to me like your future with your fiance is much brighter for you than anything your family has ever offered you. Maybe your family will finally figure it out before your wedding but I wouldn't hold my breath...you need to focus on the happiness between the 2 of you & not bring into your life the depression your family is causing.