I don't know how to break away...

I'm 26... I can't seem to break away emotionally from my parents and my life revolves around what they think, not what makes me happy. I have picked a few bad guys in the past (just losers) and got married 7 months ago (now getting divorced- abuser) and now they are freaking out about me and who I meet...they basically have to make lots of money and look like a poster model.
and now...I've met this guy. We've been seeing each other for a few months now... and I have to lie to them about when I'm with him (because I'm living at home till I can afford a place after the divorce goes thru).
Thoughts anyone???

A conversation with your parents regarding you need to experience life with all the good and bad that goes with it.

If they can't except this - maybe move in with another female friend until money is better.

Hi there Massagegirl and welcome to Psych Central.

I think more young people than you think have individuation issues. You're aware of yours, and that's a good thing. I believe that you will find ways to develop your sense of core self.

IMHO, I don't think jumping into a new relationship is a good idea. By your own admission, you pick abusers and you are struggling to create a strong sense of self identity. Why don't you find out what YOU like before absorbing yourself into a new relationship? Our feelings for the other can be so strong, especially during that first burst of physical intimacy.

take things slowly, its really hard when the heart rules the head i'm going through it myself at the mo, what would you tell someone else you cared for? hopefully it is take it slowly ,hang on in there.

I can relate to this; my parents are trying to control my life, and what I do in it. Before, when I was real young (14-16), I used to let them control me by putting limits, etc. (I guess that is fair in such a young age). Now, I am 18, and I don't take %#@&#! from them. I can walk away from them at any point in my life if they cross the line.

I don't want to be harsh, but sometimes I have to be to get the point across: you are 26 and can't break away from your parents and their wishes. That's really disturbing to hear. I mean, you should respect your parents and their wishes, but letting them control your life is NOT smart.

Now, for realistic solutions to your situation:
A: Make enough money to afford to move out (or a loan).
B: Move in with your new BF.
C: Talk to your parents, and change them (this is often very hard, or for some, impossible).

Yeah, I know that it might be silly to take advice from such a young guy like me, but I have a little experience when it comes to this, and I'm just giving you logical solutions.