[ladytiger]

I haven't been in here a long time. I broke up with the love of my life a month ago been together for 10 years due to drama bad drama one sided relationship. I don't hate him always will love him. I've been friends with this guy whom I've met this past July he reached out to me after he saw the crap my ex posted online asking if I needed to talk.

We talked he helped a lot I wanted to trust him and I can trust him. I've been texting him like everyday talking....flirting went to his place last night there was no sex at all just hanging out showing me his cooking stuff. He's so intelligent and sexy I got so turned on by his intelligence. He just turned 42 divorced with 4 kids lives with ex wife and the kids. I enjoy his friendship and conversations when I'm around him I get so giggly and smiley. He said if you ever need to talk I'm here for you.

He's not looking for anything he has his own crap to deal with and I'm not looking for anything serious or a relationship. Thing is he has minor kids I'm not interested at all in the white picket fence I don't want kids at all. He's a single dad I notice quite the difference with single moms he does mention his kids now and then but moms can't seem to shut up about the kids not talking about grown kids. Dads don't go on and on like moms do.

I didn't date much in my life I'm 29 kinda clueless on dating and the cues being given. So yea stuff I should know what are these odd feelings? My friends are like yea something is going on.

[Artchic528]

If you don't want to deal with kids, much less their mother, as she will be a part of the picture regardless, then I'd let this one go and focus on finding another guy. He's definitely not going to work out.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Much trouble perhaps if you get in deep, but if it helps the healing process...

[divine1966]

He lives with ex wife?

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

He lives with ex wife?

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Yea probably for the kids sake and possibly he can't afford his place he does work I'm sure money is very tight.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

If you don't want to deal with kids, much less their mother, as she will be a part of the picture regardless, then I'd let this one go and focus on finding another guy. He's definitely not going to work out.

I agree I really enjoy his company as a friend. Like I said I get so giggly around him.

[divine1966]

Whatever is the reasoning behind it, it's probably not a good idea to date a man who lives with his ex. No judge would recommend ex spouses live together for the kids. It would only confuse the kids. Especially if parents start bringing others home. I would wonder if he is even divorced

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[Artchic528]

Yup. Ask for a clear cut definition of what he thinks divorce is. Don't want nor need any drama. Especially not in front of the kids.

[ladytiger]

Agreed I never met his kids

[divine1966]

Where are they when you come over?and where is the wife?

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Where are they when you come over?and where is the wife?

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His ex wife has obligations outside the home and not sure where the kids go. He lives down stairs and she lives upstairs

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by ladytiger

I didn't date much in my life I'm 29 kinda clueless on dating and the cues being given. So yea stuff I should know what are these odd feelings?.

There's excitement when there's a new relationship hatching.

Has he proposed taking you out for dinner or doing anything outside home?

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

There's excitement when there's a new relationship hatching.

Has he proposed taking you out for dinner or doing anything outside home?

He has suggested to meet him somewhere to hang out he asked me if I wanted to go to his house which I did there was no sex. We just talked and laugh a lot he gave me a massage talked and laugh some more. I did say we could chill at your house and go somewhere outside your home

I haven't heard from him lately two days ago I heard from him.

[divine1966]

I am surprised you'd rather had first date at his house. Next time go somewhere see how he acts outside his home

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[Artchic528]

This whole situation makes me wrinkle my nose. Something isn't right.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I am surprised you'd rather had first date at his house. Next time go somewhere see how he acts outside his home

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I know how he is outside his home in Sept he came to a coffee event we talked for 3 hrs. I don't consider this a date just friends hanging out

[pierrek]

Tell him how you feel and maybe he just wants someone to have a laugh with as well, You have just came out of a big realtionship , so things will be a little strange.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by pierrek

Tell him how you feel and maybe he just wants someone to have a laugh with as well, You have just came out of a big realtionship , so things will be a little strange.

We talked about our relationships his divorce my break up he needs to get his **** together he's enjoying life and what not.

[divine1966]

Ok. I probably misunderstood. I thought you said he is so sexy and you flirted and are turned on by him. So I assumed it's not just friends. I am not turned on by my friends so I wouldn't know. My apologies

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You have been broken up for a month and he is a man with kids. I think it is not a good fit.

If you want sex only, than go for it.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Ok. I probably misunderstood. I thought you said he is so sexy and you flirted and are turned on by him. So I assumed it's not just friends. I am not turned on by my friends so I wouldn't know. My apologies

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Yep I did say that it's called sapiosexuality meaning you get turned on by intelligence. It's just friends trust me.

[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by ValentinaVVV

You have been broken up for a month and he is a man with kids. I think it is not a good fit.

If you want sex only, than go for it.

I never said anything about dating him just friends with him that's it. He agreed he isn't ready for a relationship with any woman....

[divine1966]

Then I am not sure what is the original question and what you need help with. so we can't really support you if we don't know the issue is. What is the concern?

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[ladytiger]

Originally Posted by divine1966

Then I am not sure what is the original question and what you need help with. so we can't really support you if we don't know the issue is. What is the concern?

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I was asking about being so giggly and smiley around him questioning my feelings like what am I feeling? Is it because he's a new person?

[Trippin2.0]

Its because you like him as more than a friend.