I'm Underground a NPD person(I don't bite). Some here may know me so I decided to stop by and say hi. A friend here told me that people who come to my forums are here many times so I decided it's only right for me to say hi here. Anyway hello all.
The Underground
Many know the name, now some more!!

[DeterminedSlacker]

Hey which forum are you speaking of?

Originally Posted by DeterminedSlacker

Hey which forum are you speaking of?

NPD Room, same site as here.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by Underground

I'm Underground a NPD person(I don't bite). Some here may know me so I decided to stop by and say hi. A friend here told me that people who come to my forums are here many times so I decided it's only right for me to say hi here. Anyway hello all.
The Underground
Many know the name, now some more!!

Hey Underground, Do you have any books or blogs about NPD for people with NPD that you can recommend? My boyfriend was diagnosed with NPD about two years ago. He is doing very well with therapy and learning to empathize with others and not being so self focused but one thing that bothers him is that all the NPD resources out there completely vilify people with NPD. They're all for people "surviving" the narcissist, there's virtually nothing about any hope for the narcissist.

Thanks!

DD

Lol including places just like this. Having NPD and finding people who understand you is not easy. Same as looking online and trying to find a relatable story on one of us. The only thing that has helped me is finding others who understand and some that are working on being better. People like us are programmed to be a certain way, a way we adapted to and is the only thing we know. Sounds like your bf is doing a great job on modifying his behavior. I've been through two therapists with both being a waste of time. Takes a special someone to be able to get through to one of us. Luckily enough I have a wife that gets me!!! Tell him to just join here and get involved in the NPD room as there are a few good people in there and ones that do help.

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by Underground

Lol including places just like this. Having NPD and finding people who understand you is not easy. Same as looking online and trying to find a relatable story on one of us. The only thing that has helped me is finding others who understand and some that are working on being better. People like us are programmed to be a certain way, a way we adapted to and is the only thing we know. Sounds like your bf is doing a great job on modifying his behavior. I've been through two therapists with both being a waste of time. Takes a special someone to be able to get through to one of us. Luckily enough I have a wife that gets me!!! Tell him to just join here and get involved in the NPD room as there are a few good people in there and ones that do help.

Honestly I think it was his NPD that made him do so well. He threw himself into recovery from addiction, and therapy for the NPD and other issues 100% like he knew was going to be the best at it. It kind of boggles my mind how much he grew in only a year but he was going to therapy three times a week and reading all sorts of books. It's the smaller stuff he has to work harder on, like seeing things from my point of view/empathizing. His default is still very self-focused. Thanks for the info!!

Lol you hit the nail on the head with doing so well because he wanted to be the best. Just how some of us roll!!! With his self realization if like me he will not be able to see your point of view in the moment. I have to step back and think about what was said and then I can come to a point whether I can agree or disagree. Definitely not in the moment type of thing for us!! The empathy thing is a complete modification so don't expect miracles. Sounds like he has the right person though as I do my wife

[DBTDiva]

Originally Posted by Underground

Lol you hit the nail on the head with doing so well because he wanted to be the best. Just how some of us roll!!! With his self realization if like me he will not be able to see your point of view in the moment. I have to step back and think about what was said and then I can come to a point whether I can agree or disagree. Definitely not in the moment type of thing for us!! The empathy thing is a complete modification so don't expect miracles. Sounds like he has the right person though as I do my wife

Luckily we don't disagree on much. I have had to learn to give him that time to analyze and think though, that was hard for me. I can go into borderline meltdown mode really quickly but he handles that soooo much better than other people. We are a really good match, it's kind of weird I think neither of us ever exepected to find someone we got along with so well. I think both of us having PDs helps a lot, oddly enough.