AHHH!!!!!!

Okay heres the story. Im a 15 year old girl okay, well see I have this thing.. well I think most guys my age are to immature... so I have tendency to like older guys.. not to old. like 18 19 20 nowhere over 23...

okay see my best friend was datin this guy and he has two brothers and older one who is 18 and one thats my age. well Ive known the guys since i was in grade school and me and the oldest brothr started tlking but see i barely will see him anymore because he graduated this year.

but heres where it gets hard for me.. Theres this guy his names shawn. Not only is he 20 he lives in maryland. well i live in WV.
but i see him EVERY weekend. I like him and he likes me.. but the age is illegal and i dont want him to get in trouble if someone who didnt like it found out.. and like ive known him for three years and hes really awsome.. but I dont know what to do or who to choose..

AHH I hate relationships

All I can say as a seasoned mother/granmother, "If it's illegal, DON'T DO IT!" What do your parents think?

For me is more about why someone two-three years out of high school wants someone 5 years younger than him...the difference between 30 and 25 isn't that big of a deal...but when you have an adult trying to date a minor...motives must be questioned...Just want you to be safe and not get hurt.

I was dating a 16 year old when I was 17...I off course turned 18 before she did...but there wasn't a 5 year gap...

I'm just concerned as I had friends who were girls in high school...getting hurt by young adults...in similiar situations...

there is a case right here in Ga right now where the guy was like 17 or 18 and had consentual sex with a girl. not sure of her age but I think I heard 15. anyway he has spent the last 3 yrs in jail. mind you the sex was consentual. both wanted it. now they are trying to get him released.
I for one would not allow my 15 yr old daughter to date a 20 yr old. like direction said I would question why a man wanted to date a 15 yr old. just my opinion.

oh for christs sakes, 15 is not too young. i lost my virginity at 14 to a 19 yo. don't regret it one bit. many people are sexually active in their teens and should be allowed to be. some teens are more mature than others and require older company. i have NEVER liked males my age. always preferred older and maturer and those men were NOT deviant.
unfortunately for original poster, you risk this young man's life if you pursue him. he will be branded a pedophile and will be put on that horrid list for 'deviants'. he'll have trouble finding work and his friends will leave him, his family will be ashamed etc etc etc.
your parents and the law will unlikely understand and treat you as a child who does not know her own mind and has been manipulated by the older person. it is unfortunate that the courts do not recognise genuine affection. i think it is wrong, but i can't change this. so many people have a knee jerk reaction to age gaps. so it is with much distaste that i have to agree with the other posters and say 'don't do it', but for more realistic reasons. there is still time for love.

((((((((((ukilledme)))))))))))

Oh how I remember being around your age and wanting to be looked at as an adult and treated as an adult. Never truly understanding what all the fuss was about with older guys.

Hearts racing and minds thinking, what a joy it would be to have someone more mature. But as Direction stated, the difference between a 25yr old and 30yr old is different from a 15yr old and 20yr old. Not only because of the laws in this country, but because of what is learned between those years.

Any young man between the ages of 18-23 and older that is wanting to be with a 15yr old young lady is not as mature as you think he is. (for the most part, and yes I am generalizing) At 15, you come to a time in your life where new experiences are exciting. One should be growing and learning about others in their own age group. That's what helps you mature in life and learn what other people think and feel. When mixed with a young man who is 5 years older than you (at this point in your life) is pretty much asking for trouble. What is their motivation for being with a much younger person??? Are they unable to have relationships with people their own age for some reason?

Aside from the legal stand point, this is a time when morals are developed. What do you want YOUR morals to be? What and how do you want to be respected and treated?

I'm not saying that a good loving and solid relationship cannot be formed with an older guy. But it will take time and patience. If there is a true connection between you, he WILL respect you and not take advantage of you. He will wait until you are of age, and more prepared to have a meaningful relationship.

This is a time when you should be having fun with your own counterparts. Finding out what makes YOU happy in a safe way and safe environment. I know that the idea of a relationship with an older guy is exciting, but somewhere down the road you are setting yourself up for heartache. And I for one hope you don't do anything that you will regret in later years.

Take good care of YOU!!!

thanks everyone for your help, i talked to him and we've both decided to wait til im older, even though both of our parents aloow it and my parents love him and his love me, i told him i needed time. hes never tried anything with me and im glad for that. heck hes asks b4 he kisses me lol. but i understand that he could go to jail and i dont want that. it would kill me so were just gonna stay friends for now. thank you everyone who helped me realize it wouldnt be a good idea

(((((((((((ukilledme)))))))))))

That is wonderful news to hear from you! I think you have made a very wise and mature decision! If it is meant to be between the 2 of you, then it can wait for however long it takes

I wish you all the best!

Hugsss
J

if u feel strongly enough,,, you would wait, because it will show you how strng the bond really is
this is coming from a fellow teen
take care all
self