Dating website?

I recommend using OKCupid as it's free to use for the basic stuff, like messaging others and sending "likes", though you can spend money on premium features (like knowing if the person you sent a message to actually read it or not and seeing who "liked" you). The premium paid for membership is called "The A List", but you can get buy without using that. You could also spend money on buying the ability to be noticed more via the "Boost" option, but again, you don't really need it.

Other sites like Match and eHarmony require membership just to send messages. There's Plenty of Fish, but that site is iffy, and stopped letting me use it for some strange reason.

So, OKCupid is usually my go to.

OKCupid, yeah, actually... I already have an account on that one. lol I'm sure premium benefits would help me muchly in my quest but I refuse to pay those sites a single dollar, not gonna happen. 2 girls wanted to talk to me on OKCupid but unfortunately, those were fake profiles. The others just didn't reply, oh well, I don't lose anything trying again! I'll keep trying.

Urgh, let's forget those. lol Plenty of Fish, huh? I'll google it, I don't lose anything either checking that one as well.

The website I had most success so far is Badoo. Over 30 girls wanted to talk to me in the last 2 months. Sadly, none interested me. lol

Thanks again for the help Artchic!

Yeah, it was OKCupid

I have extensive experience with dating services – I have both used and moderated major online dating services – and I have come to the conclusion that dating services are better in theory than they are in practice.

In theory, dating services are an excellent way to connect with other singles; in practice, dating services are dominated by immature users that have no genuine interest in meeting someone special.

When I was looking to connect with a special woman I sent hundreds of messages to users on dating services like OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, etc. Out of very hundred messages I might receive 2-3 responses, definitely no more than 4, and of those responses at least half would have been messages where I was told that due to my interests, hobbies, etc. they wouldn’t associate with me. Out of the handful that did meet me, only a single user ever wanted to meet with me a second time.

I’m also extremely cynical about how dating services epitomize the social backwardness of Western social relations. Such characteristics as honesty, uniqueness, etc., important for developing healthy relationships, are liabilities on a dating service. There is an irrational social expectation that far from being single and wishing to start a relationship with someone, you are to be “living life to the fullest”, have the best physical, spiritual, and mental health imaginable, and only appreciate and find interesting what is socially acceptable. Just like needing a job to avoid being homeless and starving is equivalent to employment suicide in a job interview, being a real person with real problems is social suicide on a dating website.

This isn’t to say that it is not possible to start a real relationship and that it is completely useless to try, only that I wouldn’t recommend putting too much stock in a dating service.

The best relationship decision I ever made was to say to myself, “F*** all these social expectations of being honest but not too honest, friendly but not too friendly, friend zoning, and hiding who I am and what is important to me because other people can’t f***ing deal with it.”

I subsequently stopped using all dating services and trying to impress women. A few months later I connected with a woman online who used to comment on the political analyses I wrote for my website. Now that woman and I are engaged.

I wish you the best of luck with this lady, but if it doesn’t work out, don’t be too disappointed!

Well, on Eharmony, I was matched with a fella, a "psychic truck driver" who did "readings" while driving his long hauls. In reality, he was looking for a self-supportive woman to look after his three kids. He lived in a hovel, no exaggeration (I was afraid to sit down anywhere!).

Don't mind me, just sharing.

Lol there a lot of jerks out there regardless where you meet them. Psychic lol

Every man I met online was a user and loser. Maybe it was my age, early 50's. Several were broke from traumatic divorce and, thus, bitter. Then others with health issues looking for a caregiver...forget about romance; it was all mercenary. I literally almost lost my home and financial stability. This was over a period of about 10 years when I was intent on meeting "Mr. Right.". Should I have been more discerning? For sure, and I admit to being a trusting person, but I'm not naive. There are a lot of con artists out there. I also know some females who are currently working the money angle, and shamelessly.

I met my current girlfriend on an online dating site. I met quite a few women I was not interested in (no job, education, different values, etc) but after about four months of looking, I found some absolutely fantastic. It can happen.