Dating website?

I agree with you Emijec. If they keep talking to you and there are no stereotypes involved then they're interested in the real you, it's pure logic.

That sucks, about your law degree. Don't lose hope, like me, one day, you will find what you seek. (that is, in your case, a job that won't judge you because of your law degree)

If I wanted to date a girl and be serious about it, I would like to know her education level and her specialization (the closer they are to mine the better). I think it's a compatibility thing, not to know if she makes a lot of money or not. Like one of the girls in a dating site said that she has doctorate in alternative medicine!! Doctorate is impressive, but in alternative medicine?!!

I know another cousin in the US. She is a family doctor. She wants to marry a rich, young handsome guy. She told me that she wants to be pamper and treat like a princess so she doesn't have to work.

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Some of my cousins in Canada are also high maintenance. These girls are very pretty hence they expect their looks worth alot in monetary terms. Their parents said it cost alot to raise the girls. They all want luxury cars and expensive girls stuff.

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It seems to me that hot girls demand alot of money because they can trade their good looks for it

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So all these girls are your cousins. Interesting. What's going on that they all so materialistic. How are they rAised?

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Sorry, from experience, I liken the dating websites to throwing a hook into the ocean and pulling out who knows what kind of monster. I will say, if you can get a person to correspond with you, as opposed to insisting on quick meetup, that is a positive sign. Sincere folks should be willing to exchange ideas and share before a meeting in person. Also, be wary of giving your phone # for calls. I truly have nightmare stories from the dating sites!

My cousins are raised in social conservative setting up . My uncle is very strict army man. She at least finished medical school and became a doctor. She never had a bf. I assume she is still a Virgin. I am even shocked to hear that she wants a rich, handsome guy or nothing at all. She pouts when saying it to me. I known her since she was a baby. I used to carry her in my arms.

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The girls are raised in US. They are exposed to materialistic setting in school

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It lasts till their 35- 40 if they have not got their own income they're stuck,their looks go and they get traded in.
Handbags and whatnot are not fufilling in any real way,they are just mass produced garbage without soul or craft.

Well, the girls seem to like these garbage. It makes them feel happy

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If she is a doctor, then may be she is making good money. Maybe it's a compatibility thing more than greed, because probably she doesn't need extra support by finding someone rich.

Is this dating thread? I am sorry for hijacking the issue

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Don't know what is this about. Materialism is taught at school? So parents say they need to buy kids luxury cars yet it is taught at school? Not at home?

My daughter and niece and cousins and all their friends were all raised in the US and none are materialistic. I don't believe these things are taught at school at all. They are all educated and professional but none materialistic. Certainly none demanded luxury cars. They wouldn't get it even if they demanded lol

Well if this woman went to
medical school and became a doctor it is a huge accomplishment and it is understandable she doesn't want to support some destitute men. Why would she not want a man who is well off of she herself is successful! She sets her standards high because she is accomplished!

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Exactly!

My brother was Conned by a hot chick out of 10k. She also conned other guys out of money too. She pretend to love each guy and seduce them. My brother caught her leaving another guy house. This is a popular con game that is used by hot girls in Canada

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I live in Canada too and can confirm, Sito is right! 2 of my friends in Canada got conned by hot canadian girls. One out of 500$, the other, over 3K. Personally, I think hot girls worldwide play this little game but I was conned out of 400$ by one of my ex. We had a long distance relationship, she was from Greensboro, North Carolina and she convinced me to buy her a collector book about Led Zeppelin. When we split, she told me she never bought the book and thanked me for the 400$.

Nowadays, I've been single for over 4 years! LOL I know I won't con myself.

It is a common for hot girls to seduce guys for money

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There is another way. They get married to a guy and divorce him after 3 months, divorce court will grant her a large chunk of money including the guy house. There was a real story in BC of a Asian doctor who sponsored as Asian woman to Canada. She divorce him after 3 months. She asked court judge to give her the house and 500k. He sued her back and got lawyer to deported her from Canada.

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Divorce court has become aan easy way for dishonest women to steal money from hard working men legally. It is actually very simple. The court is bias against men due to feminists lobbying. I am not kidding

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Oh but I believe you Sito, look what happened to Hulk Hogan, his wife Linda left with half his money and he had to go back to WWE despite his 8 back surgeries. Look what happened to Paul Mccartney, to Roger Waters, to Keith Richards, to Charlie Sheen, the list goes on almost forever...

Some women, they will marry a man only to divorce him a few months later and get 50% of his money and his house.

I heard many cases of men that were destroyed by divorce. I know one man that is living in his car because he has to give so much money to his ex-wife, he can't afford to rent an apartment. So sad.

I have extensive experience with dating services – I have both used and moderated major online dating services – and I have come to the conclusion that dating services are better in theory than they are in practice.

In theory, dating services are an excellent way to connect with other singles; in practice, dating services are dominated by immature users that have no genuine interest in meeting someone special.

When I was looking to connect with a special woman I sent hundreds of messages to users on dating services like OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, etc. Out of very hundred messages I might receive 2-3 responses, definitely no more than 4, and of those responses at least half would have been messages where I was told that due to my interests, hobbies, etc. they wouldn’t associate with me. Out of the handful that did meet me, only a single user ever wanted to meet with me a second time.

I’m also extremely cynical about how dating services epitomize the social backwardness of Western social relations. Such characteristics as honesty, uniqueness, etc., important for developing healthy relationships, are liabilities on a dating service. There is an irrational social expectation that far from being single and wishing to start a relationship with someone, you are to be “living life to the fullest”, have the best physical, spiritual, and mental health imaginable, and only appreciate and find interesting what is socially acceptable. Just like needing a job to avoid being homeless and starving is equivalent to employment suicide in a job interview, being a real person with real problems is social suicide on a dating website.

This isn’t to say that it is not possible to start a real relationship and that it is completely useless to try, only that I wouldn’t recommend putting too much stock in a dating service.

The best relationship decision I ever made was to say to myself, “F*** all these social expectations of being honest but not too honest, friendly but not too friendly, friend zoning, and hiding who I am and what is important to me because other people can’t f***ing deal with it.”

I subsequently stopped using all dating services and trying to impress women. A few months later I connected with a woman online who used to comment on the political analyses I wrote for my website. Now that woman and I are engaged.

I wish you the best of luck with this lady, but if it doesn’t work out, don’t be too disappointed!

I know which dating site you are referring to. I have used it many times in the past. It's refreshing to know that there are guys such as yourself on there who are genuinely looking for a long-term kind of thing with someone and not just more of a drive-by kind of a situation because I think that site is more given to the short term than finding one's soulmate.

I like what DechanDawa said, and I would agree. Being female and having been on just about all of the major dating sites, I can tell you that most women get a lot of traffic on there. If she doesn't answer, try not to take it personally. The fact that you wrote something more thoughtful than, "Hey," and didn't lewdly proposition her puts you ahead of the game. But, as I said, if there is no reply, eh, the important thing is that you put yourself out there!

Great tips Ruari! By the way, what is the website the op was referring to? I, too, am looking for a genuine relationship but I don't really know on which website to go and you got a lot of experience with those sites, I could sure learn from you.

I recommend using OKCupid as it's free to use for the basic stuff, like messaging others and sending "likes", though you can spend money on premium features (like knowing if the person you sent a message to actually read it or not and seeing who "liked" you). The premium paid for membership is called "The A List", but you can get buy without using that. You could also spend money on buying the ability to be noticed more via the "Boost" option, but again, you don't really need it.

Other sites like Match and eHarmony require membership just to send messages. There's Plenty of Fish, but that site is iffy, and stopped letting me use it for some strange reason.

So, OKCupid is usually my go to.