Dating website?

Dating sites are a waste of time.

I am getting married to an awesome guy whom I met on a dating site. Not a waste for me

I am getting married to an awesome guy whom I met on a dating site. Not a waste for me

I met my husband at a bar. It was a happy hour at a nice club in a downtown corporate area. I may be the only one who met a quality guy at a bar, lol.

But, we certainly developed our share of problems.

The beginning of our relationship was really great, though. We clicked at first sight, started dating, all was good.

It doesn't matter where you meet. You could meet the girl of your dreams in line at the post office.

Once I was at a restaurant having lunch with my mom, and a guy who was there at another table by himself, followed us out as we left and said he was taken with me and asked me out. He seemed like a nice guy, so I saw him again. We dated several times, but I didn't think he was right for me. But still, I dated a stranger I met at a restaurant.

Good for you. But for most people dating sites are a waste of time. Research shows that most people have no luck with them including me.

Thanks for your replies Tisha, you are the living proof that there exists woman we can find in a bar and end up marrying. I'm still not warm to the idea of going to bar, I hate the taste of alcohol (haven't drank in 4 months) but it is nice to know. Also, sorry to hear about what you wrote in your spoiler box, the world is full of very bad persons...

I get suspicious when she started addressing me with the word "baby" in chat. I have experience about girls who use this word before I know her well.

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Those famous dating websites, I have accounts on many of them, yet, each time a cute girl wants to talk to me and I reply, I never hear of her again! Kind of illogical, if you ask me, either you want to talk to me or you don't but why do you do the opposite of what you really want, so illogical.

I once talked a lot with a girl, turns out she really wanted us to go for a walk, her only interest seemed to find someone to distract her while she took walks to lose weight (she wasn't huge, had maybe 10 pounds to lose, it was kind of hot) but after a while of turning in circle and her only wanting to go for a walk, I told her ''I'm not your pet''. HAHAHAHA!! I mean, I could see from miles away that our relationship would be dysfunctional. I only liked her for her body and she only saw me as a pet. lol

Today, I still have accounts on those dating websites but I'm thinking of removing all informations about my wealth. Many girls would me ''So you're an engineer, you must be rich?'' and I'd say ''Yeah but I'm no sugar daddy '' then no reply. I hate it, I want a deep relationship, not just being a father to young women that think they can get anything they want in exchange of sex. It offends me, like, I feel as if I was paying for prostitutes. To me, sex should come naturally, out of love, it should be deep and we should live incredible feelings. It shouldn't look as if it was a business.

I might be mistaken but many times, I wish I could find a shy girl, looks cute but doesn't have a pornstar body and I wouldn't even care! Shy girls give me the feeling of often being less material girls, you can identify yourself to them on a more deep level. They seem more genuine and more lovey-dovey. lol I miss the affection of teenage relationships... Sadly, I have yet to find a SINGLE shy girl on ANY dating website.

Anyone know where to find this rare breed of girls? I feel like as if I was looking for the legendaries unicorns!

And those girls who say you must be rich when you tell them you are an engineer are blowing it for themselves with you by saying that they are making themselves sound like you are out of their league.

When I met my husband, my girlfriend asked his friend what he did for a living (I would not have even asked). My husband offered what he did, which is a very responsible, stressful job, and my reaction was to act sympathetic and said "You should see what I have to go through with customers in my sales job". He later told me he really loved that because every other girl said something obnoxious like the reactions you've been getting.

I feel like it's just a game of numbers with these sites or that sometimes we all have some character flaw that we may be aware or not aware of and that's why we are all there...online. the same 20 people :/

I don't know where you find those girls, coffee shop? museum? fitness class? I guess it also depends where you live. I live in a town of about 150k people.. can't find anyone. but the closest metro area is San Francisco ... that place you can bump into your ideal person .. so many people there. I guess datingg is like real estate: location, location, location.

it's probably a good idea to hide that career title. though I'm not sure how you could describe your occupation. many women want to find that out ASAP. i tend to ask if they are employed period.. not for financial opportunity but because I've given a chance to the guys that don't have one or claim they're transitioning and then i foot the bill for everything or we literally take walks or watch movies bc he can't or doesn't want to cover his 1/2 of the recreation expense... tired of that.

I guess you could always say I have a career and I love it?

It never occurred to me to ask an engineer if he is rich. Everyone in my family is an engineer, they make very nice money but they aren't rich whatsoever. But then again define rich. I once was complaining to my t that I don't make enough even with two jobs and she told me its all relative. People live on half what I make and they'd think I am rich. That's true. Maybe these girls don't have college degree and work minimum wage jobs so you appear rich to them. Go for better quality women who wouldn't make such comments and who themselves have decent careers.

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Are you a music engineer? My son is a jazz bass player, Music Engineering major. He's only 19, but he hasn't had any girlfriends yet. He says he's scared because he saw all the drama from his brothers wacky relationships.

His brother is 21 and wants to be a psychologist. He listens emphatically to girls/women and they LOVE him. But, he's had girls do all kinds of obsessive things and he gets into these committed deep romances that are volatile.

My engineer, though, has this very analytical mind and doesn't really know how to connect romantically with the girls. Maybe he hasn't yet gotten his mojo.

I know there are algorithms to match people but I heard they're not working so much... lol I wouldn't say we have a flaw but some people on dating sites are more introverted, not all but a lot, definetely. It's not a flaw, rather a different trait of personality.

That makes sense. I live in a canadian town of about 800K, there are tons of girls, that's not the problem. lol The problem is most I met don't interest me. Oh well, I'm going back to school in maybe 1 year, I'm convinced I'll see A LOT of girls there and who knows who I'll meet!

Great idea, I love it! Thanks Emijec!