[lavaja]

In short, last summer, I had to cancel my Daughters cell phone months in advance I tried to work with her to carry her own contract. After that I had no way of calling her, and she never called me, or let me see my grand daughter who is now 5 almost 6 and I miss them soo much. I don't know what to do!
I could ramble on so much wrong I really need to talk to someone who has active advice and not the usual "she will come around" I know better.

[gma45]

Oh lavaja, I am so sorry this is what you are having to go through. Daughter's can be so mean to their mothers. Sounds like she is trying to get back at you for taking the phone away so she is keeping your grand daughter away from you. What a B! Have you tried reaching out to her? I had to do the same thing with my son luckily no grand kids involved, I haven't talked to him hardly in over a year. Boys are different though. I really don't have any advice, just know that I am here to listen. PM me anytime if you want to talk!

[Bumblebuzz12]

You and your daughter really need to figure this out. A serious discussion is in order, email her or contact her in some way to set a date she can come over your house or you can go over to hers. If she doesn't contact you, go to her house leave a note on the door explaining why you need to get in touch with her or if she's there knock and ask if you can come in. Bring some small snacks maybe soda, tea, juice, etc and talk. Offer to let her talk first and listen to her without interrupting. I mean really listen and try to understand where she's coming from. When she's done give your point of view and be truthful. Don't let your volume raise to high we don't want slamming doors and yelling at the top of your lungs no matter how angry she gets it's important that you stay calm. At the end of your conversation make sure you tell her that you will always love her no matter what (if you really do, if not compliment her on her shoes or something). Let her know that you care about her and that you would like to have a good relationship
Hope this helped and good luck

[lavaja]

Thank youfor your kind words and sound advice. I wrote this thread almost 2 years ago. I have tried talking to my Daughter, only with have it made very clear I am not to call or come around. my letters have been returned. Not a day goes by I don't feel that deep pain of loss. Now I found out I have a new grand daughter. That she has moved still living with his mother. I don't know when she was born or what her mane is. I cant explain the deadening of my soul I feel.