What happened?

To all honesty he cancelled a date on 04/08 and today is 04/15. It doesn't take a week to make a phone call.

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What he did was wrong, but if you want to give him a second chance, that's your call. I would say though to put him under the radar, and let him initiates most the texts, talks, and any other initiatives. If things don't go well and consistently, I think you better off; just ignore him completely without any justification.

I was hesitant to post, but as a guy who wishes for a girl to initiate the first move, I would like to take the initiative in all subsequent moves. There is a natural order of things, in my opinion, which is that women are passive. This doesn't mean to be completely passive and under the mercy of others as females use their own moves to attract males, like to give gestures, looks, and other implications instead of direct talks and demands.

Guys must reveal their intentions in one way or another (or the girls should elicit this information), and then they shall decide if to continue or not.

Good luck.

Am I going about this whole thing wrong?

In my opinion yes but there is no judgement here as I did just the same in my young years. So I am speaking from experience. A man who doesn't want to meet you and doesn't bother to call ( in fact he NEVER called) for a week is NOT relationship material at all.

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I just think that being so accommodating, and expecting so little from guys, taking the blame for everything, overlooking everything, allows guys to bring you heartache. I wish better than that for you. Much better.

So what should I do if my current behavior isn't helping me?

Artchic- suggestion: figure out what you want and say it.

In for -dating, love,sex

I won't date- republicans. (I am liberal)

I mentioned once before. A good number may be looking for casual dates. Go on a few anyway to warm yourself up.

Also it was mentioned- a picture is worth a 1000 words. Put up very good ones!

I go back to what ValentinaVVV said before:

Don't be understanding, don't be forgiving of guys who let you down. Definitely don't be understanding and forgiving of guys that that you haven't even met or you don't know very well. Never apologize or blame yourself if guys are don't call, don't text, don't show up, are unreliable.

If guys don't get back to you, if guys don't meet when they say they would, if guys won't commit and follow through but instead keep you waiting, if you are wondering what happened to them, if you are wondering if/when they will contact you again: To h*** with them! Move on. They are not relationship material for whatever reason and waiting around for them is just going to hurt you and waste your time. You deserve better.

Tell this guy next time he texts that you aren't interested. Don't let men string you along.

Next time you talk to a guy, if he doesn't initiate phone calls and doesn't ask you on a date after the most few weeks stop talking to him.

When you start talking to a man don't think he is dream come true until you dated him for awhile. If he only texts and never calls and doesnt my ask To meet stop talking to him.

Pay attention to red flags like lack of desire to meet you and not rescheduling in a proper time or being evasive or inconsiderate and not direct etc

Don't text, email, or call him back right away. There is this book by Sherry Argov that's very insightful and funny. It's called Why Men Love *****es, and another one is called Why Men Marry *****es, lol.

You should never respond to every text or call right away since that will let him know that you are desperate (in his eyes), needy (again, in his eyes probably), and that you have nothing else going on with your life. Also, men love the thrill of the chase. If you don't make him chase you, he'll loose interest quickly.

Also, maybe he's not into you, a player, married, has a g.f, or is just looking for sex. Forget about him and move on with your life.

I agree.

So, just chalk this guy up as a loss and move on?

IMHO yes ( unless he called today and asked to see you you have a date arranged then maybe I'll go on a date just to check it out ) otherwise yes move on to the next

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Just to add, work on your mindset. No apology was necessary because he "felt too much pressure" over what? Meeting up after signing up on an online dating site? Are you kidding me? HE felt pressured to meet??? Huh?

Not exactly, but make your cha cha the grand prize behind door Number 1

Healing has a good point. It's dating site. People sign up with intent to meet. If he feels pressured he should stay away from dating sites

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I would say so. There are plenty of fish in the sea, right? Atleast that's what my mom told me. Lol.