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#26
May 14, 2016, 10:38 PM
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Now I forgot what I was going to write
 Men receive their need for tenderness and connection through sex, says the article based upon the movie. Yet, they are programmed through most of life to ignore that fact. Interesting. Was going off on my own mental tangent for a moment, that even with this article, could be a slippery slope of thinking for someone recovering from having an unfaithful partner. From personal perspective tenderness and connection is necessary when healing from a relationship in which these two needs weren't met. Divine your recent post on another thread came to mind for me, as well. |
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May 15, 2016, 02:06 AM
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I only do as a guy when the girl tells me something that she's implying she wants sex, but not. It's always a miscommunication because either one of us isn't clear on our intent of our words. But that's as far as it goes for me. I was abused by my ex who only wanted sex and lied that she loves me, but actually prefers the sex more than anything. |
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May 15, 2016, 03:25 AM
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May 15, 2016, 04:37 AM
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May 15, 2016, 06:50 AM
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I really don't experience men as hiding need for closeness or tenderness. Some do. Same as some women. But as a rule I think this notion is outdated , like maybe it's was the case in old times or in some groups in our society or some areas men are still expected to hide all that.
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#31
May 15, 2016, 07:41 PM
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I dunno, divine.
Crazyman's late father used pick on him something fierce about being "girly" and "A Big Sissy!!" bc he (my fiancé) wore his feelings on his sleeves, collars, pantlegs, and all over his face. ( lololl he still does.  ) To make it worse, his older brother (there are only 2 kids in his fam) gave him holy hades and made fun of him for the same reasons. "Mama's boy", blah blah etc. In the chunk of the Midwest where he was born & raised, and in his very white-bread social strata, that's the expectation still. OTOH I was raised in the South by a southern Mama, even during the time we lived in the Midwest I was very much held to the cultural mores Mother expected. Now Crazyman and I laugh about it periodically -- but he, especially, suffered for his temder feelings. And he is very, very, Very physical: I am not. It works, but it has its insanity quotient too. fwiw, Chyia, le sigh |
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#32
May 15, 2016, 09:32 PM
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My fiancée wears his feelings on his sleeves 24/7 and even his kids and sister don't consider him "cool". Lol He was also often made fun off. But it didn't stop him being who he is. He was raised in a small town with old fashioned values and he didn't really belong as he is not matcho type.
My son in law is also a sensitive emotional guy. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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#33
May 16, 2016, 01:52 AM
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My eldest son is very sensitive. My youngest is in his own way. I think some of it may have to do with the way they were raised. I am a single, bipolar Mom and my sons and I are very close.
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