Why hasn't he called me back yet?

With people I already know, I agree. But if it is the first conversation I have had with someone I am interested in dating, I will probably say something like "it's been really nice talking with you; I'd love to do it again sometime" or "I really enjoyed our conversation. Feel free to call me again." I will usually put my intentions out there to let the other person know. Of course, everyone has their own way of operating.

I think it's impossible to determine a person's intentions over the phone, period, regardless of what terminology is used at the end of the call. In order to even partially understand a person, you have to be able to see all of their parts as a whole, which means meeting face-to-face. That's just my opinion.

I agree that seeing face to face is the best ( although I have to say if I click on the phone I click on real life) but the bottom line is he didn't call or email back. Kind hard to meet face to face if he isn't replying. I was just trying to understand if something in the conversation indicated lack of interest.

By twice I meant. You called the first time then it would be wise to wait for him rather than call again next day. Let guys show you they are interested

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He did email me back, and said he didn't get the call for some reason. Then, just now, he called me. We talked about meeting up. He has a friend who lives nearby me, but is away atm. When that friend gets back, he plans on coming over to Charlotte to stay a few days and we can meetup. He was especially glad I lived on the outskirts of the city, as he hates cities. I paid especially close attention to what he said right as we said our goodbyes. He said, "I'll talk to you later." He also said I can call him tomorrow if he forgets to call me, as he has a bad memory.

That sounds good. Good job paying attention to things.

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That is awesome news. I hope it pans out for you.

Okay, so we talked a bit more today. He always ends the conversations we have with, "I'll talk to you later". He did mention he's an introvert, and only had online relationships in the past. He is also unsure of how to proceed with a long distance relationship with me because I'm really the first girl he's talked to on the phone like that.

It might be going well, or it might not be. I don't know.

How old is this person?

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He's 30 years old.

Wow. Well, that's pretty unusual. How do you feel about that? Possibly being his first real relationship, I mean.

Hm at 30? It's rather unusual. But that happens. My nephew didn't date anyone until 24, which was a bit unusual too . He isn't awkward or shy or anything, he is in fact very successful. He was just going to college full time in
a demanding field and worked full time so he had no free time plus he is very selective. He is now getting married to an awesome young woman. My son in law actually didn't have any long term relationships, just a bit of dating prior to meeting my daughter and he was in mid 20s and he is an awesome man. So not having experience isn't a big deal

Now as about meeting I don't think it's a big deal. Two hours isn't far. He can come down on his day off. I drive an hour one way every day. No biggie. We drive two hours this weekend to see some relatives. It's doable. Talk some more and then meet.



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Well, as long as he's honest about not having much real world experience with women, than I can work with him on getting that experience. My last ex hadn't told me he was a virgin up front, instead opting for the "my last time was years ago" spiel. He eventually came clean, but he had ED problems the whole time we were dating.

So, as long as this new guy is clean with me from the get go, I can work with it. Besides, there's no rush.

Oh I wasn't particularly meaning the sexual aspect (though that does stand out). I was meaning how do you feel about being his first everything, basically? If he's never actually dated a woman or dealt with a real relationship, this is going to be tricky.

I can walk him through what he needs to learn. I mean, it's no big deal. I was 27 before I gave away my virginity, so I really can't criticize. He seems nice, and tends to talk a whole bunch while we are on the phone with each other. I learned that he was in the US Army, and stationed in Washington when he was younger. I thought that was pretty cool.

I wasn't referring to sexual experiences either, more to communicating to people or generally dating.

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I understand what you're getting at, and I guess I can take it slow with him and teach him what it means to be in a relationship outside of the web. How simple actions and gestures can speak louder than words. He's incredibly introverted and prefers to sit and think to himself a lot, mostly about writing. He likes to write so he constantly makes up stories in his head, which I can totally relate to because I do the same thing myself. He even said he's comfortable sitting in complete silence with me if we met, so there's no pressure to really converse constantly. I'm not sure how good a teacher I can be, but I'm willing to give it a try.

I don't think you need to teach him anything. Just interact normally and naturally

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I see what you mean. I'll try my best to be myself, which I have been. Since he already knows I suffer from depression and anxiety and is still talking to me, I know he's at least worth getting to know better, if that.

For sure

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