Never been in love.

I just recently started consciously thinking about this. I never been in love...wow!
Im turning 29 on wednesday. Would you say love is a feeling or more of a notion?

Happy birthday and welcome to PC! I say love is an action.

Love is many things. Love is words, actions, feelings. Love is necessary and painful. With love always comes pain, always. That's the hard part. But if it's real love, it's worth it, be it platonic, familial, or romantic.

Yes, I was kinda thinking the same thing. Love doesnt mean just caring for someone its lots of other things too.

Thank you Would you care to clarify that?

It's how we give to and receive from others that show they are special to us and cared for. When you are in love romantically, then it is mutual.

You've probably loved- there is family love. Have you loved anyone romantically? Did they just not love you back? Or have you not yet met anyone you felt romantic love for?

No I didnt, I never had a serious relationship...yet.
We dont have the kind of relationship at home as we should, my parents are splitted. I didnt say "I love you" or "I care about you" to anyone ever. Not even to my parents...

Love is a lot of things but the basic problem with love is figuring out how to KEEP it once you find it and most folks who "fall in love" FAIL to keep it alive and well so the love slowly or quickly fades and dies! IMO, most folks need to get some relationship books and LEARN HOW to keep their love alive and well once they have it but I see that most folks just can't be bothered or proudly believe they already know all there is know about love and how to relate! The sad fact is the they DON'T KNOW HOW!

Yes I believe thats the problem to. I know some people who told me, like you know its great at the begining, it last some time and like you say it fades away. Although Ive never felt it I just cant believe that this is how it is or works. They probably just didnt put much efort in it to made it last.

That sounds more like infatuation. Real love does not fade, despite challenges of daily life it strengthens with time, it's not as exciting as infatuation but it is a very contented satisfying feeling to be with that person through thick and thin.

You are still young, there is plenty time for you yet to discover love.

Love is what you do. What many people call "falling in love" is attraction, infatuation and desire. These in and of themselves are not love. They are reasons that people choose to love someone in the beginning but it's not love itself. The attraction is needed to motivate people to date, to become friends, start a relationship and begin loving each other. Love comes with time and is something that you choose to do for the other person. It is something that if it's genuine will surpass all those feelings that you have initially and beyond... because, in every case, those feelings do pass, return and pass again. Love and hence the reason for the traditional marriage stating in sickness and in health... til death is based on true love, that which we do in spite of how our feelings change over time, ebb and flow like the tides of life.