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I've heard about how some behave during an episode, and it doesn't sound easy for the person suffering, or for their partner. It's not something small, it's huge. I think you know that if you were to tell them in the beginning of the relationship, they may decide not to pursue a relationship with you... but isn't that the type of person you're trying to avoid in the first place? I don't think it's fair to label someone who doesn't want to have a relationship with someone who has a MI as judgemental or close-minded. What is there to be closed-minded about? The effects of MI are real, for both the sufferer and their partner. It's not something trivial, it's going to have a huge impact on your relationship, daily life, etc. |
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Of course the person has free will to walk away at any time, for whatever reason. But "limits" to staying with someone if they actually love you would be more of ab*se, or if the person was deceiving you. That's why with marriage it says In sickness and in health. I'm not meaning to argue, I was just explaining my point. |
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Miss you, Hitch! You're a catch!
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I agree with this. We reveal everything there was to reveal by 3rd and 4th dates. Way before falling in love or getting physically intimate. We didn't even kiss yet. But we knew it's going somewhere as we developed good friendship quickly. Not just health concerns. I don't have illnesses but told him I have enormous financial debt ( it's turn off for many so I needed him to know in case he wants not to proceed etc) But from what I gathered from others people wait longer or don't reveal until they are involved or even married. It is probably ok but I'd rather people were given a choice to proceed or not. I think it also depends what one is looking for. If it is potential marriage i want to know early Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Wow. I definitely don't think someone has the right to know about my PTSD or Depression on the first date or even on the fifth date. It's my personal business. I feel like you tell the person when you are comfortable with them knowing and feel like you can trust them. There is a lot of stigma associated with mental health disorders, and you absolutely have the right to be assessed by you and your character and personality and not some perception of an MI.
I think you did the right thing in waiting until you felt it was time to. Seesaw
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I get the point of what others are saying, but if he truly accepts me, doesn't that mean he accepts me, warts and all. |
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And stigma - I forgot to comment on stigma.
If I run around telling people I'm bipolar they're gonna assume I'm *crazy* ![]() |
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I feel anxious now that I've told him and not at all relieved that he now knows. If he's gonna run ... now would be the time for him to run....he's not gonna run .... I'm rambling...nervous rambling
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I can certainly understand why you feel so nervous. I mean, I don't want to make you feel worse, but I too would worry if someone I cared would behave differently around me if they knew. It's a lot for both of you to deal with.
Why don't you drink some soothing and calming tea, Hitch. Even though I don't particularly like tea myself, the idea of sipping on a cup of chamomile tea just sounds so relaxing. If you can't shake the anxiety, maybe having another talk with the BF and tell him how you feel. I know it isn't easy, but maybe it'll help to ease some of the nervousness you feel over him knowing now.
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Smoking ... over smoking ... chain smoking .coffee
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Give me one! Ugh, I quit lol
I think things will be just fine. =] |
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September is my goal.....
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It will work out. You are brave and strong. You could probably share with him that you feel nervous about it.
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