His mother...

I agree that no need to get angry but frankly if you are always the one calling and he never does ( unless to respond to you)then how do you know if he is interested

Because I know.

If he really wanted to be with you / talk to you then he would. His 90 year old mother would not be a issue .

I'm sorry your hurting over this guy.

But why waste anymore time on him ?

No adult man worth anything should be so involved with his mother. He may just be using her as an excuse anyway. Men who are into you will move mountains to be with you. Let him chase you. If he doesn't, then move on. He isn't worth your time.

From what you post on this thread you are actively pursuing this man. It has to be give and take for relationship to work. You let him know you are interested but then constantly chasing him just upsets you and relationship doesn't seem to move forward. If he doesn't reciprocate, I don't see any point in pursuing him any further. I am sorry you are hurting.

I think it's time to just move on. If he's interested he will pursue you. But if it were me I would leave him alone...

Not going to do that.
In addition, in speaking with my therapist today she feels, in view of his and I special relationship (which I will NOT reveal), he's in conflict with his feelings.
This week we had what you might call a spat or whatever. Yes, I was upset about some second hand information about him that, really, I shouldn't have delved into. I had no right. But it happened and I sorta went off inside of me and it spilled onto him in a roundabout way. He called, and called, and called again with me not answering. At one point he left a frustrating message about why is it I want him to answer the phone when I call, yet I won't answer when he calls, and some other stuff that kinda rocked me a little, but I had to calm myself down. Yes, I texted him with something not too pretty, and that was why he was calling my phone off the hook.
That night, realizing how absolutely wrong I was, I hardly slept. So the next day I texted him an apology, again (the first one was past July '16). He immediately texted me back. And no it wasn't pretty, though not terribly bad. Just words with pain. Why? Because I hurt him. Yet, he left the door wide open for the both of us which I appreciated, and made me feel secure.
Y'all say to leave him. I say I'm not, so I won't.
You see, one of the things I want in a man, actually needs, is a man who isn't afraid to stand up to me. In other words, a man who has a backbone! I've been with men who were spineless. Now wait. I'm not talking about abuse in any shape, form, or fashion. But I want someone who isn't afraid to say to me "NO!" I want someone who leads as a man should. I want someone who will make me want to honor and respect him even while I might be angry at him, etc.
In other words, i want a MAN!
And again, I am not speaking of abuse. If y'all still don't understand and that is based only on what is written here, I don't know what to tell ya.
Except this: I found him!
I don't know what this is or will lead to. Nevertheless, again...I found him! And I'm not leaving, at least of my own accord.

Doesn't seem to have much backbone when it comes to mommy though...


Happy for you that you like him as is though.

Yep. There was a record some years ago, forgot the title of it, but there was a lyric "you don't have to be a shining star, just come as you are."
Fits him to a T.

In every relationship you're ever finding out about the person. The learning goes on and on, it never stops. It could be something as simple as text messages. And so another thing I'm learning about my guy is that he doesn't think it necessary to respond to each and every text. And I'm fine with that . It shows, to me, that he's discriminating. (Actually, a concern of mine too was if he actually receives them.But now I know he gets my messages ).

Well, he called again and said, among other things "There's nothing for you to be worried about regarding our relationship."
That is one reason I believe in being patient. It always pays!