[Wants2Fly]

Why do men believe that they deserve younger partners -- even decades younger. I do not want to characterize all men this way; I have dated men younger than I and lived with one for 15 years.

Yet, over and over, we see men dating and marrying women young enough to be a daughter or granddaughter. Clint Eastwood, for example, married a 30-something TV reporter and started a new family, and often casts himself as a lover for much younger actresses. Tony Randall, in his 70s, started a family with a 30-something women.

We see this pattern over and over. Personally, I find it find of yukky to think of being sexually intimate with someone young enough to be my grandchild, too close to incest. I know some men who feel the same way, not to mention the challenges of communicating with someone who doesn't share one's experiences of life and may be very naive.

I'm wondering where men get the idea that they deserve women who are so much younger than they. What do you think?

[Cheri]

Because some men are narcississtic? And younger women tend to be more sexually attractive than most of us middle-aged women? And younger women may be more naive and easier to control? And younger women may be a status symbol among some groups of men (trophy wife)?

[50guy]

I think it's because they want someone to take care of them in their old age. Also it is good for their ego. For me I would never consider a younger woman. They could have kids and i am not about rasing kids again. I wouldn't want to put up with the culture differences age brings either.

I perfer mature women in their 50's please.
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[seeker1950]

My painting instructor at MU is 60 and his young wife is just having a baby! I wouldn't want to be 60 and starting out with an infant!
I do think older women ...the same age as the men...are more likely to have their own opinions, less likely to be controlled!
Patty

[Gemstone]

My father is approaching 70 and married to a women who went to grade school with my sister. They had a baby somewhat recently. It really sickens me.

I think Cheri hit the reason why in her answer. At least the reason why for that specific relationship.

[asylumgardens]

I'm 22, and I'm into guys that are older than me, but like I'd never go beyond probably 35. I don't think age in general is a huge issue, but generations are also different, and I don't see how someone in their 70s could even relate to a person in their 30s to have a good romantic/sexual relationship with them.

[Rhapsody]

I do not necessarily think the men believe that they deserve younger partners..... but more of they like younger partners for it keeps their sense of MAN-HOOD going strong, if only in the mind.

[Sabrina]

I don't know - it is the opposite for me.

My hubby is younger than me and I could not imagine him with a younger woman at all!

Edited to add: Not that I can imagine him with another woman period!

[Rhapsody]

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I don't know - it is the opposite for me.

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Yes - it usually is different for most females........ for we are not going for the sex value of the person.

[Sabrina]

Sorry, I didn't mean it was the opposite for me in terms of being female or for any values, I just meant that my hubby isn't interested in younger women and certainly doesn't feel he deserves a younger partner.

I should have expressed that more clearly. My apologies.

[lenjan]

My officemate is 34 and has expressed interest in young women who are just barely out of high school. I think it's disgusting too. He says it's because he wants kids and isn't likely to be able to have them with an older woman (divorced women with kids are off the table for him).

One of my grad school professors was 65 when his 40-year-old wife had a baby. I can't imagine going through that either.

Mostly, as someone said earlier, it's probably just an ego thing. Not to mention a sign of intense insecurity.

[Wants2Fly]

Thanks everyone, for weighing in with your ideas. It has been interesting to read them. So glad we have kept balance, and are not saying ALL or even MOST men are lie this. I hope we get a few more responses.

[asylumgardens]

As another response.. my dad is dating a woman who is 7 years older than him (he's 47 and she's 54, though, so I guess it's not as dramatic a gap as say.. 23 year old and a 30 year old)

in my case......he needed a cheerleader and i had put my pompoms down in highschool. he got one.....the age of the oldest son!!!!!! i understand it isn't going well..... AND he called me about 3 years after the divorce and wanted to know if i would be his "confidant"....i was extremely rude and hung up on him..

[Wants2Fly]

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AND he called me about 3 years after the divorce and wanted to know if i would be his "confidant"....i was extremely rude and hung up on him..

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I know this is going off topic -- but the man is an absolute idiot.

[SeptemberMorn]

Not having read any of the responses, I don't know if anyone has already said the same thing, but here goes...

I'm not sure that they think they "deserve" younger spouses... I think that they just haven't grown up! LOL They probably don't see themselves for as old as they are. It's the same as the "car thing". You see older men, mine included, with racey sport cars. Mine is learning how to surf... at age 68???? C'mon now! He looks at the young girls all the time, too. But let's face it, your average 68 yr old woman isn't much to look at either, is she? LOL Granted, there are a few out there, but then, they're not "average."

My neighbor surprised me the other day after he saw Tanya Tucker in concert. She's no spring chicken and she's not "average" either! He said "She's just a little bit more than alright!" The man is in his early 60's. I think he's healthy! LOL

Anyway... I think it all boils down to the man's state of mind.