My Ex Cheated on Me is it True or a Line?

At 29 you need to start looking for gainful employment/independence and getting out of mom's house instead of worrying about men

I think they are less than truthful or a troll.
They remind me of certain user.

It could be. Just too many contradictions

Because it's easier to point the flaw to the other person than to accept accountability for their role. To me, it's a quasi flag because it does take 2 to make or break a relationship. It's also a flag because it umbrellas into "poor victim me". Feel sorry for me before learning who I am. It's another flag to because it raises question about their ego.

I clipped out the second questions and now wish I'd left them because it's a positive thing to ask what their role was, despite the question being a bit debateable because those that cheat do have free will and choices to make.

People tend to get what they are willing to settle for. To get better takes effort to find better. What you'll get out of others depends a lot on what you have to offer. People you find interesting won't bother with you, if they don' find you interesting.

Why is finding a guy your #1 priority? If you're 29 and living at home, fighting with your parents, are you interested in moving out? Are you interested in working full time and supporting yourself? Do you have any interests outside of dating?

Can you please stop telling me what to do? Like please!

I know I need to work, I have been applying to places on and off, I know I need to work ok I get it.

I know I need to get out of the house and find my own place. I get it. You can STOP TELLING ME.

I know how to live out my life and I am working on getting it together ok.

You contradict yourself. You said you work in a music industry and now apparently you don't even work. If you don't work I think it's unfair to demand from working men drive you to concerts and take you out and chit chat online all workday. Please do seek help

I'm sorry you have taken such personal offense to the advice and opinions offered by regular members like you and I who merely call it as they see it, based on what you have posted.

Not everyone will agree with everything that a member posts on PC. But that's the joy of being here - to get a range of perspectives and decide which ones you're going to take in.

Ps: using caps to yell at members in a post is only going to get everyone's back up

My only interests are my music tastes in metal, rock, and punk, and going out to concerts, covering shows, interviewing bands, reviewing bands, all of that is my life. Its what I live for and I am passionate about. I do all of that work FOR FREE. These bands, artists, record labels, publicists, etc. I work with DO NOT pay me. Been working in this scene for almost 10 years, 8 currently. I have interviewed over 1,000 acts and counting. When or if I ever see payment ever is rare and it is only ONCE in a while.

Otherwise I DO NOT work a real 9-5 type of job. I have been applying to places and do want to work a real job and get my own car, place, etc. I am working on it, alright? I have crappy friends so I can't hang out with friends like regular people do. So the next best thing would be to date. So thats what I am trying to do.

So again I am working on myself and I am going to date PERIOD.

Never mind . No point in responding

I don't need professional help. I am fine. Your the one's telling me how to live my life. I am well aware that I need to get a job and I am working on that.

I'm not sure I understand why you asked the question "My Ex Cheated on Me is it True or a Line?" then and created this thread?

Did you want us all to agree with you?

So what part of "It can work" and "my EX cheated on me" seem to mix? Wait..that's right. They don't. You seem to have two choices, either you can move on and try to make something of yourself with the passion you have, or you can lose the rest of it and be stuck with someone who thinks you aren't good enough.
The choice is yours, young padowan.

I wanted to see if anyone has ever deal with dating someone that would say "my ex cheated on me" story. I hear this a lot from guys I try to date and just find it odd.

There are many who have been cheated on and those out there who continue to cheat.

I fail to see how someone would use this as a "line".

I hope that finally answers your question and puts your mind at ease.

Anyone saying that is looking for sympathy.

Is it really all the guys, or is that a hyperbole? In any case, it happens either because they have very questionable taste in women/guys, or ... nope, that's it. Just my opinonion, anyways. I have a near-zero tolerance for cheating. I value loyality, honor, respect, and love.

Thinking about it, I suppose there are a few other reasons. Someone may be in an abusive relationship, for example, and not know how to "get away" then get close to someone else.

Another situation might be a drunken antic, but I honestly have been drunk plenty of times and never jumped another woman, or any woman for that matter. I guess some people are less in control when intoxicated? I'unno. Frankly, I try not to put myself in such a situation in the first place; in other words, not drink with someone with whom I have a mutual attraction that could result in an oopsiekiss or worse.

The only other thing I can think of is a relationship with terrible communication and a complete misalignment of desires and goals, causing both people to be with each other, despite not really caring about or putting much of anything into it.

Beyond that, I dunno.

It could also be that they're trying to indicate distrust and/or fear of a repeat scenario.

But I've heard that from guys as well. They say they never cheat, they are faithful, loyal, trusting, etc. And yet there they go cheating on their partner haha. So it's like wtf?

Some guys are loyal and trustworthy. Some aren't. Unfortunately the ones who aren't will also say that they are.

You can either give someone the benefit of the doubt, or not. It's your call.

Get to know people. Truth reveals itself if you pay attention.

Okay then. Well just have to wait and see what happens with who I talk too.