He's leaving...

You've heard me before about him, and nothing has changed. Accept this: he's leaving for almost three months to his home state. Oh he informed me last month so it's not surprising or a shock. He even told me what particular city in the state. And when he did, I heard him (on the phone) groan with "gotta get this done."
I know about his cancer, told to me from momma, so that means that it didn't come from him. I'm figuring that maybe because we're new, he wants to wait, at least that's the opinion of a male friend. I don't know nor am I worrying about why he didn't tell me himself. I do know that, since I'm at high risk for uterine cancer because all three of my sisters had it, and I have intermittent bleeding at times, I haven't told him, preferring to wait myself.
The main thing here though in my opinion is I'm going crazy imagining all sorts of things concerning of course other women, and maybe that's really why he's leaving. Yes, Im aware that usually when a person groans with "I gotta get this done" it's usually because they have to do something they rather not as in unpleasant.
It's baggage from past relationships I know but still.
But still I'm also aware of what he said a couple days ago when he called and his exact words were "You have nothing to worry about regarding our relationship...I want you to know that."
I know I need to work on stuff and I'm telling you I'm trying. He has never, and I mean NEVER given me reason to doubt him! But now that this trip is happening I'm finding myself not able to think straight.
His mother was in the hospital yesterday, so I know he's stressed. I tried to call him yesterday, it just rung, so I left a message. Today I texted him.
I'm going to miss him like I never did anyone!!!
Any opinions welcome, but please make them positive. I'm already suffering from missing him already plus my negative thinking.

My first thought about your concern about why have doubts surrounding trust and how to work through it was that it was his mom telling you about his cancer and it not coming from him directly. Which I understand and see your point as to why he wouldn't have, it's that in and of itself that can feel like a hurt/rejection of sorts, hence that on the fence sense of insecurity that has come up. Which is rather normal to feel.
Yes, of course that feeling will applify past wounds, but in my initial reaction to reading your post, that's what comes to mind. Seems so minor writing it, yet, even thinking on it It's much more complex than these words that I am writing.

Next step is having a game plan for these months apart so that both of you maintain a level of connectedness. Might be worth talking over with him and finding a compromise. His lack of response isn't helpful.

I think, as in literally not sure, that your words "lack of response" is referring to my calling him while momma was in the hospital yesterday? And if so it's okay, I just attributed that to the stress of him leaving and now the hospital thing.
I was told to concentrate on what he told me about our relationship.

Since it's long distance I am unsure it would make difference him being in other state. You two can still talk. You can also ask why he is going. I am a bit concerned here that he is not replying. Does he initiate communication too, is it equal give and take?

It's definitely an equal give and take, though he's never been a hard texter. Some people just aren't. As a matter of fact, when I texted him past Sunday about something I was concerned about with him, he immediately called me saying what he did about our relationship. His reason for calling? He said "I find that texting doesn't allow you to fully explain all that you feel." And it's true.

Yes, not responding, but....

He brought up texting as a limitation during the phone call.

Sooo....

It's an adjustment being apart, but you both sound off on equal footing.

Yes, we are. And I'm not in the habit of counting, so to speak, who contacts who, how many times, and so forth. For me the numbers just don't matter. As long as he does, is what I look at and for. If I was doing all of the contacting as in doing all the work, that, for me, would be cause for concern.
I don't feel, believe that relationships should be built on and maintained by numbers.
For instance, when his mother was in the hospital, and I found out by calling her about something and his brother answered the phone, I heard something like his brother telling him that it was me. His response? I heard him in the background saying "I don't want to talk to anybody." Yes, I admit I had to remind myself, more than once, not to take that personally.
Now some would say/feel that he should have talked to me. Really? Why? Because he's my man? Look. His mother was sick! She was in the hospital! So how about me understanding that. At that moment who was most important? Me? Or his mother? I think logic and understanding would answer that.
And I mustn't forget that this is a man who is not well himself.
Already in the short time we've known each other I've already put him through some crazy stuff due to my insecurities, aka, baggage coupled with my bipolar depression. Yes it affected him. He got very angry with me one time, more like frustrated. But I say any man who can put up with me and my stuff is almost like a genius! So finally, what did he do prior to his leaving, in spite of everything? He said "There's nothing for you to worry about regarding our relationship." It blew me away! After all my stuff, he reassures me not to worry. Unbelievable!
So I'm not about to concern myself with how many times he contacts me, etc, etc, etc.

I think if everything is great as you described then him living in a different state for few months should be no issue