Making it thru

Making it thru the weekend just fine. Friday was stressful but my hubby and I had a talk and it helped. We had a nice day yesterday compared to our usual and the birthday party for my friend was ok. She felt really special and that was so nice to see. We didn't stay long. Hubby is trying out the new not drinking thing which it a little strange for him but he did ok. He actually stuck around me last nite. Normally he dumps me at the door and we meet up at the end of the nite. Was nice. It's a bit tough on me to go to functions like these because I can't understand what people are saying (norwegian) and since my only friend is the birthday girl she was pretty busy. At one point I sat in the middle of the table and everyone around me was in conversations and I felt very alone and a little stupid. That is usually what happens. Alone in a room full of people. Very isolating. Even if I could understand what people were saying the music is always loud so I don't have a chance of hearing. The nice part was as I was sitting there trying not to cry and wondering what to do my husband came over and sat by me. He actually noticed for the first time that I was alone and came over. I have never really "won out" over his friends like that and it was nice. Of course when he came I almost starting crying because of that!! We left shortly after and bought some chips and soda and finished out our nite. Was ok.
Anyway, hope all have a good weekend, mine isn't too bad.
Heidu

Sounds like you managed your visit well. I, too, am an emotional persons and cry at the sad and happy things. I hope things continue to go well for you.

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ</font color=purple>

<font color=green>"I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
- Laura Ingalls Wilder
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Thanks Curlyq. I really hope so to. I actually lilke my husband the last few days and it scares me. I start to have feelings towards him and that scares me too. He's really nice for awhile but then forgets after a bit and I end up being dissapointed and hurt again. I am trying to trust but don't want to be let down.
Thanks tons for your well wishes.
Heidu

It's so nice to see someone sober than not sober especially when they have a problem with it. I deal with family members who drink too much, too. I know the scary feelings their drinking and subsequent actions/words can bring. It's hard to trust someone who hurts you for sure. I just take each day as it comes with them. Even though alchololism is an illness it surely effects us, too. I have days when I feel so angry with some of them and then I am feeling sorry for them. I feel they don't seem to know what they are doing in life nor do they have good direction. That's why when people quit drinking they need to replace it with something else. Preferably something that can help them be more mature. Getting some help after I quit helped me a lot. I didn't know how to be in life. I'm no saint now but I am doing better in the sense that I do constructive things. Does your husband have hobbies? If he does, encouraging him to get into them may help. Has he had any treatment or counseling? That can help him to stay quit and to learn how to live better sober. Many go to AA and many wives/husbands/children go to Al Anon for support out there in the world. I also went to both and got a lot of support and learned new ideas on how to cope. I had phone numbers to call when things got bad, too.

Nice to meet you and hope you'll keep posting.

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ</font color=purple>

<font color=green>"I am beginning to learn that it is the sweet, simple things of life which are the real ones after all."
- Laura Ingalls Wilder
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Curlyq,
My husband doesn't have a drinking problem as much as a problem when he is drinking. He doesn't drink often but the drinking culture here is such that when alot of people do drink they drink alot. Alot of what I have seen is party drinking but also I have seen the bad side of a few people including my husband. It's hard for him to go out with his friends because they are all partying hardy and he isn't drinking. Its kinda sad that they have to drink so much. It's socially acceptable to be fall on your face drunk. I don't get it. Because my husband can be a real jerk when he drinks he said he won't and would like the chance to give it up until we can find a resonable solution. I like to have a few drinks too socially but after all he did and said when he was drunk I am afraid of it even if he has a couple. Has to do with some childhood issues too. It's a big ugly and I don't know what a decent compromise is but for now we just aren't drinking.
I know loads about alocoholism. Father and first husband are recovering alcoholics. I have been down the treatment and AA/Alanon road. It's a great thing for alocoholics, family and friends. They do good work there and it's such a supportive environment.
Heidu