I'm seeing someone, it's awesome, but I worry a lot

I got a book called Anxious In Love. I haven't cracked it open yet though. But yeah I'm seeing someone and it's gotten serious. We have only met like 2 weeks ago though. We can both see ourselves with each other for the long term. But I want to go slow, and he says he will respect that. This is just so new for me. I feel like I'm getting derailed with my other goals and life ambitions, and he wants me to meet his family next Friday. I felt like it was too soon so I declined, but at the same time, I really want to go, though I think I might be overwhelmed, I'm not sure. Is it too soon? Also I hope my anxiety doesn't drive him away. I don't worry and fret this much on average. But I am finding myself, while very happy with this guy, also worried about stuff. I just really like this guy. lol. And I'm feeling very off today. He says he doesn't mind me worrying and he wants me to communicate with him. Lol. I still worry. Good thing I have therapy tomorrow.

Getting serious after only two weeks is rapid progress. If you are anxious in love then things might be going a little too quickly for you.

Meeting family after two weeks? Hm way too fast. I would wait for few months

I had to smile at your title....

"I'm seeing someone, it's awesome, but I worry a lot"

That pretty much is what it's like for everyone, no? Not to make light of how you feel, of course.

Just a dinner with the parents? No....too soon.
A get together with a bunch of extended family like at a wedding or barbeque? Absolutely.

Is it a good idea to read this book? Do you think you might be trying to quiet your heart and let your head take control? (Sorry, I'm a strict romantic....)

two weeks is far too soon to be even considering that this person is the one you can actually see being with long term. It is true that there is always some anxiety within new relationships but I feel that it's exacerbated by the fact that you are pushing so hard for a long term relationship with someone so fast. No wonder you're anxious. There are far too many questions to answer about you, him, the relationship and where it's going. You just can't know enough about him so it leaves a big question mark while you're trying to convince yourself that you truly see this person as a long term bf. Realistically we can say that you enjoy being with him right now.. beyond that, you can't know a thing yet.

relax, enjoy what you have now without pressure related to anything that points to long term for now.

Thank you everyone. I am the one who wants to take it slow. He is the one who is telling me he sees a future, etc. I'm not the one pushing. Though I do feel pressure to, even though he says he will go at my pace.

he says that but stay aware. just from the little you've said it seems to me he's saying that he will respect your wishes but seems to be doing things contrary to that by trying to get you to meet family, and now considering what you just said that he's "pushing". I have a bad feeling that he's saying just enough to keep you at ease.

Feeling pressure to be in a long term relationship this early is not a good thing. Please take a breather and step back and think on these things for a bit before considering

Hey Sandman2006, thanks. While I don't feel like there's any reason to be suspicious of his motives, and I like him a lot, I appreciate what you've said. Tonight I'm feeling like maybe I will just step back.

Sophiesmom, you said: "Is it a good idea to read this book? Do you think you might be trying to quiet your heart and let your head take control? (Sorry, I'm a strict romantic....)" I'm not sure what it is that you're saying and would like clarification please.

Note: I like this guy, and people in my life are excited / happy for me (my therapist, friends, parents, etc), but I feel the need to step back today. I just started enjoying being single before I met this guy, lol.

You sound very intelligent, self aware and level headed. You need to move at your own pace. When it came to matters of the heart, I always jumped in blind and often ended up in a painful belly flop. Your anxiety is telling you something...listen to it and go as slow as you need. I usually introduced the guys I dated to my parents on the first date, but like I said....I didn't let my intellect do the talking. Good luck and enjoy the butterflies and fun.

Thank you ElsaMars!!!!!!

I like very much how you can step back even though so many others are urging you to go forward. Good for you!

I think it will help. I might add, I am not implying he has "motives" that are not about anything more than being with you but my point only being his behavior is kind of warning signs about where he stands on things, and how he may not be the type of person that gives in easily. That's not to say because he's out to hurt you or anyone, just that he's single minded in his goal and may not be considering your view very strongly.