One More Guy is Back and Not Sure What he Wants

Hmm. I still say he's wanting you on the proverbial back burner so he can shop around, but still have a go to when that doesn't work out. Basically I feel you're not his first choice.

I am not sure what you could do when the guy isn't contacting you and isn't making arrangements to meet and when you suggest then he doesn't follow through. There is nothing one can do. He isn't interested or he'd be calling and asking for dates.

He's just not into you , that's the name of a movie I think.", but fitting, if he wanted to get together he would be talking to you more often and follow through with actual dates .so scratch him off your list.

I'm proud of you for not agreeing for him to just come over to watch a movie. That sounded fishy to me .

Keep talking to other guys .

When he reconnected with you he did say he just wanted friendship. You pushed for dating. Maybe he is backing off again because he felt uncomfortable asserting he only wanted friendship?

No him and I talked things over and he does want to date me. But our first date got cancelled. We said we would set up another date but nothing was set. So I am waiting to hear from him and seeing when that date will be set.

Today is December 9th and last time he spoke to you (did you contact him?) was December 2nd. He cancelled date of November 27th (rain is rather unusual reason to cancel dates)and since then he never suggested another date. It's very unlikely there will be a date. I suggest to move on

DITTO! A guy who is interested will contact YOU. You shouldn't have to keep contacting him.

If he hasn't contacted you since Dec 2, there isn't going to be a date. He's just not that interested. I suggest you move on to someon who will follow up up on plans.

The first conversation you posted in this thread shows very clearly that he was only wanting friendship. He is full of doubts and hesitations in that conversation. He agrees to date because he finds you interesting and you weren't willing to be friends - which was what he wanted.

The fact that it's been this long and you haven't rearranged a date yet? And the first was cancelled due to rain? Sorry but that really points towards him regretting agreeing to date you again when he just wanted to be friends. Of course we could all be wrong and you be right, but this is how I interpret why he has said and his actions.

I picked up on how he wanted to come over and watch TV with you. My gut feeling was he was wanting to have sex and not take you out on a date, but since you are a virgin and adamant about no sex, he is not bothering with you.

I think it's important you start recognizing red flags. I used to not see them either. First he just wanted friendship (not interested in you). Then when you tried convince him to date you he wanted to come to your house (not a good sign), then he cancelled (no good reason) but never had decency to let you know (until you called him), then he never rescheduled (nor interested), then he never contacts you (again not interested). If you start seeing these signs you might not waste time but move on quick.

While we didn't have the date on the 27th, he did come through on the 27th for an online date, we watched this band play an online broadcast of their showcase so he came through for that and we had fun watchign that online together.

After that, him and I continued to talk on and off, but no dates have been set, because my friends and family told me to wait until he asked me out but he has brought anything up, probably due to work, since that's all he does and he is always busy.

Fast forward, I called him on Facebook on December 8th but he didn't answer my call or ever return it or address it.

But the next day December 9th he sent me a kissy smiley face, being flirty. That day him and I talked briefly and I had asked him "How have you been?" and he replies "Lonely, I'm in the mountains with my mom visiting her."

I then replied with "Well you could have talked to me this whole time but you didn't. Figured you were busy, so left you alone.
I'm still unsure on if you want us to date or if your still interested or not. But I am still interested in dating if you are. It's all on you."

He replies with "I am. I like you."

I replied with "If so, how come your not showing me interested by chatting with me or anything".

He didn't reply to that. After that chat we stilll talked sending flirty smiley's back and forth and I told him I missed him and he said he missed me too.

Move it forward to December 11th I had asked him if he wanted to watch a movie together online, like the online concert but he never responded to that message.

Keep going forward, I would message him him and there asking him "How are you?" and get smiley's in return.

I keep messaging him here and there, even mentioning of me going to this concert with my family and had told him "Hope you and I can catch a concert together sometime. Or hang out sometime in the future, up to you, sure miss you."

He hasn't replied to that either. Most of the messages I send his way he just "READS" them hardly replies.

I am about ready to just message him and ask him straight out "Do you want to date me or not?" or should I not ask him that?

I think now answering your messages is a clear enough answer.

Why would you even still want to date this guy when he does nothing but string you along?

Is there a chance this guy is actually in prison?

You are wasting so much time and effort with this guy.

WHY ? All this online stuff its ridiculous!

He clearly is NOT wanting to see you or anything further.

I know its hard for you accept his lack of attention, he likely has numerous other women he's playing with also.

Keep busy, have you found a job yet ?? That would be great for you instead of waiting for the pathetic crumbs he's giving you.

Move on..... Now

He isn't interested. you need to stop chasing him. This is a bit ridiculous

What in heaven's name is an online date???

Why should I stop chasing him, he said he wants to date me, but is busy with work, if you were as busy as him, wouldn't you say you were too busy to date?

If someone is chasing, logic then dictates that someone else is running in the opposite direction, no?

If two people BOTH want to date EACH OTHER, then there is no need for chasing or running of any kind, as both would express a mutual interest...

My BF worked two jobs at one point, morning and night... He still made time to text me, and see me, even if that meant driving 30km out, after midnight.

Yup. When I've met my husband we lived 55-60 miles from each other, I work two jobs both during the day but he was working nights 12 hours shifts. We have very demanding jobs. Dating involved a lot planning and figuring things out. But we made it work because we were both interested. You can make it work only when you meet a guy who is as interested as you otherwise it's not gonna work

SMH, you are doing a lot of things wrong and putting all your energy into false hopes. You are going to spend a lot of time stuck in a rut, living with your parents, and not progressing on to an adult life if you don't make all the changes everyone here has been telling you to make.

I couldn't agree more.

Move on, this guy isn't interested. Also, I kinda don't blame him for backing off when you barely know him and chastise him for not talking to you more. What exactly does he owe you to have to talk to you more? I was in a long-distance relationship with my ex for 4 years. We didn't even talk as much as you are demanding this guy talk to you. My BF was at work all day and so was I. Mostly we texted after work or chatted via Skype online (phone calls were difficult because he lived just over the border in Canada and it was considered an international call).

Planning dates and weekend visits took a lot of work, but we both were committed to it. If a guy is interested in seeing you, he will make it happen. This guy is not interested. He's responding that he likes you because you are putting him on the spot and chastising him and he doesn't want to get into an argument with you. Also, he may be interested in just hitting you up for sex sometime.

It's very suspicious behavior.

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I am in agreement that all he wants is sex. Since you don't want just casual sex, you need to move on.