Hot and Cold

It's official. I am a lost cause.

I called my h this morning and told him that what I most want is for him to change and us to be together, happy, getting along. And he promised me he would.

We must both be crazy and deserve each other.

We decided to tell this to the therapist on Monday and proceed from there.

And I invited him to come be with the family today and see the show.

Nobody here needs to say anything to me anymore, and I will stop posting about it, as I must be triggering the entire website.

I hope this therapist can really help us.

We are probably going to keep up this struggle until death.

I'm sorry I can't help you more with this. Please, keep posting if you find it helpful, this is a site to find support you can't find in real life And if no one has told you it's triggering for them, I'd not worry. And besides, you can put a warning on your threads and posts.

Wish you the best of luck! You're a great person

My wife and I were complete opposites in every department other than "troubled and needy" when we first met in '81, and today we still say the same: "Yes, we must ..."

I have not been reading all your past posts about this subject, but I hope things work out for you two.

I hope things work out for you.

Please don't feel that you can't post here, here is a place of support and get things out of your head.

Just put a trigger icon on you thread so people have a heads up.

I hope you continue to post

((((( hugs )))

No need to stop posting. This is relationship forum. Not like you are posting on unrelated forums or being nasty to people. Please take care of yourself

In regards to my H, so am I; despite everything I crave his affection.

Sometimes your postings triggered me but I think that sometimes triggers can help us process and learn things about ourselves. If the trigger is too much, we can avoid it. Everyone has a choice about which postings to read or not. While our situations are not exactly the same many of your postings helped me understand some of my feelings about my spouse. So you helped me and likely helped others.

Thanks for sharing so much about your life. You are a wonderful person to know--wise, sweet, complex, and a wonderful sense of humor; you make PC a better place!

Sometimes life just isn't as simple as we would like it to be. Maybe if we aren't struggling we are just numb and on autopilot. Your passion and internal struggles are just who you are and, yes, they may be with you till death. They probably just make your H and your children love you even more.

Sorry, but I had to say something.