What's his name?

I've had my mom here for the past couple days. She keeps telling reminiscing stories where she forgets the names of someone, someplace, etc... and she won't just skip over that part of meaningless information and finish the story until I guess what she is trying to say. I can't stand it.

I told her I won't play the guessing game. So now she talks and spends 5 minutes trying to remember the name while I just ignore her banter.

She's 82. Not dimentia or anything like that. Just annoying.

I'm really a brat, actually.

Totally passive-aggressive with my mother.

Because she was/is so over the top, I became sneaky for my self-preservation. Plus, I just want to do what I want to do.

She is a complete control freak.

She has been calling my step dad and cussing him out. She did it last night right unloaded on him over the phone, right in front of my h listening. So abusive and nasty.

I then said ' it looks like you are ready to go home'.

Sounds like me and my mom...

I totally get you.

I think it has nothing to do with age. My older brother and my father keep doing this, and yes, it's annoying.

You let her stay with you for two days and it seems like you're the one who makes sure she is not alone at the holidays. You do things for your self preservation but, bottom line, if your mom has an emergency, your respond. It's one of the reasons I decided a while back that you are a totally caring person. Your posts about how she drives you crazy are sort of funny (sorry that I find some of it funny)

I also understand the annoyances, believe me. I'm my mom's only caregiver and spend hours a day with her. I've become pretty good at not letting that stuff get to me. What else can I do? I'm glad I have the patience. She's 90 and I feel I owe it to her to listen because I'm the only one she has to talk to. She took care of me when I was young, now it's my turn to take care of her. Part of the circle of life, I suppose.

I took her shopping yesterday, she got so skinny she has nothing to wear. She said she was just going to buy the clothes and if they didn't fit, return them. But then she insisted on going in the dressing room and trying on. So I let her, while I walked around the store. I was not going to go into the dressing room with her and dress her, like I know she wanted me to do.

She comes out 15 minutes later, empty handed and mad as hell. She says "How could you let me go in there alone? I got stuck in the shirt and couldn't get it off. I was screaming for help." Nobody helped her.

The thought of her like that is funny to me. She's stubborn and impossible, and I am not going to kiss her A like that.

If she was just an easy-going, nice old lady, I'm sure I'd be more doting.

I knew this guy named Adam back in college and I wanted to look him up because I knew he had moved to my city. I would sit for hours trying to remember his last name, going "What's his name???" Then MySpace was invented and I found him through a mutual friend. We met up and eventually dated for a while...

Your story reminded me of that.

Sorry your ma is annoying you.

Sorry about this, Tisha..

I can sorta relate to this. My great grandma used to say I love you 7 or 8 times before she would hang up with you on the phone. I remember when I was kid asking my grandma why she did that and she said it was that she wanted to make sure you know she loves you. I used to hate it has a kid and then she passed away in 2013 and now I miss those moments of her saying I love you over and over again. Your mom may annoy you sometimes but cherish the moments when she does because once she is gone believe it or not you will miss them moments. I wish Heaven had a phone sometimes so I could call my great grandma just to here her say I love you again even if she does say it 7 or 8 times.

I do this all the time. It ruins the point I am trying to get across I guess.

Lol....your mom getting stuck in a shurt & hollerin' for help....couldnt stop laughing. Just csnt stop seeing that picture. Have come close to doing that myself & itsvalways good fpr a laugh ( though Im sure laughing at her wouldnt be acceptable to her)

Yep, moms can be totally annoying....my mom was too. Wonder when I will hit that point with my own daughter????

And nobody working in the store came to help her! What if she died in the dressing room? They'd find an old lady, strangled by a pullover. Obviously, the sales lady pretended she didn't hear any screaming for help and ignored her!

Doesnt say much about the help in thst store AT ALL to be unaware of customers needs. Though its been years since I went shoppung I dont remember many sales clerks even around dtessing rooms like there used to be when thete was always someone posted there just to help customers in the dressing rooms get avdifferent size if needed & always asking if help was needed. Those days are obviously past even in the high end stores.

I do feel your moms panic...it was just one if those pictures that brought a funny vision to mind.