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Old Feb 03, 2017, 01:33 PM
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I'm sick and tired of falling in love with awful ego testicle guys I'm tired of this. My mother was right guys that ask for nudes are a piece of ****
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 02:06 PM
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I had a guy cashier hit on me in front of my wife at a grocery store. I felt confused, angry, and a bit handsome.... lol

Sidenote: Had to been the sweater.
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 02:17 PM
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I basically Just woke up after 20Yrs of being closed and in No relationships at all so for me I met someone messed that up totally or at least I thought that it was me been finding out over the last few weeks t hat I was being manipulated by this woman then lied to. which while it was all happening I knew sort of that it was but becasue of my Loneliness and total new emotions of being wanted didn't want to see it at all. now I am relearning everything like I was a teen again and as far as I can tell the Woman that I have been hanging around with off and on and that I sort of have known over the past 2 years is honest with me. SO as for men being Evil I know that they are out there I actually have known quite a few that I call Male Sluts sending **** pics and such it is all a game to them. but these guys are Damaged goods which is why they Are the way they are. myself I just wished and am hoping that at my Age it isn't to late to find a good woman who knows maybe the friend that I am with is actually her. it is very hard to close your self off then when you open your self up those emotions are very powerful which I had forgotten about and was flooded with. my Biggest Advice is don't close your self off just be very patient and you will learn to weed out the creeps, sluts losers out of your path and don't do what I did it isn't worth it.
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 02:43 PM
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Black Roses...how are you meeting men?

My advice is to practice DISCERNMENT. Listen to our inner voice, your "GUT."
If someone seems "off," for whatever reason, dismiss them and move on.
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 03:04 PM
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I would also have a problem if I came across testicles with awful egos!

And not to be insensitive or anything, but didn't we go over this, and the outcome was you swearing off sharing explicit content with strangers?

I'm only asking because I'm confused, I was under the impression you were putting up boundaries in order to protect yourself from jerks seeking cheap thrills,and I'm not sure what changed.

PS. Yes. Your mother is 100% right, showing off your bits is not going to make anyone fall in love with you. In fact its better to have them fall in love with you BEFORE you show off any of your bits.

PPS. I honestly hope you are learning from these experiences, you are very young, it would be such a waste to repeat these mistakes indefinitely.
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 04:32 PM
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I admit, many years ago when I was in my early 20's, I once shared some nudes with a guy I met online and it made me feel cheap and scummy. Like I had lowered my values and morals just to please some guy for a moment in time. Not saying anything negative about this activity in and of itself, just expressing how participating made me feel. The point being, I misplaced my trust in some guy online who was a total sleaze and as a result, I felt bad about the whole situation afterword.

I understand that you want to find a guy who you know in your heart that you can trust, and that you can share wonderful parts of yourself with, but perhaps you should delete all the nudes of yourself that you have and tell yourself never to take anymore again. Not until you can learn to recognize who is trustworthy and who is a total sleaze, looking for a vulnerable young girl to take advantage of.

I know your upset, but passing such mass generalizations on guys isn't doing anyone any favors. I truly believe there are honorable men out there who are beyond trustworthy. You just have to be discrete and learn how to judge the situation enough to know who is who.

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Old Feb 03, 2017, 05:23 PM
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Are you actually falling in love with them or is this lust and the lust is what is making you think its ok to send them nudes?
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 07:47 PM
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Aren't you the same woman-child who cammed for their enjoyment? Is there something you are not getting about doing things for guys and expecting a different outcome?
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 07:49 PM
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Please, learn to respect yourself and treat yourself with kindness and set boundaries for yourself. You deserve it.
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 08:21 PM
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Black roses, I'm sorry some men have done this and made you feel this way. Don't give up, not all of us are are alike. I hope you find someone who treats you with respect and love
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Old Feb 03, 2017, 09:17 PM
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I would also have a problem if I came across testicles with awful egos!

And not to be insensitive or anything, but didn't we go over this, and the outcome was you swearing off sharing explicit content with strangers?

I'm only asking because I'm confused, I was under the impression you were putting up boundaries in order to protect yourself from jerks seeking cheap thrills,and I'm not sure what changed.

PS. Yes. Your mother is 100% right, showing off your bits is not going to make anyone fall in love with you. In fact its better to have them fall in love with you BEFORE you show off any of your bits.

PPS. I honestly hope you are learning from these experiences, you are very young, it would be such a waste to repeat these mistakes indefinitely.
I've known him for three years when he's asked but the thing that perplexes me is he's never been creepy and was more interested in my growth and then all of a sudden he turns into a manipulative turd that became jealous and possessive when guys talked to me. I'm so perplexed at someone I could think of as a friend could just threaten me etc. I don't understand nothing he says makes sense. He's so similar to me in how he emotionally chops and changes. I felt like I shouldn't trust him and I never learn to listen to my feelings. I don't care if he showed anyone it's the principle of it all its about RESPECT and he's retarded. He's the kind that wanted to see what I'd feel if he did. Ive been dwelling about this situation for a year and I cant sift through my feelings or make sense of any of it. They way he'd emotionally change so fast..m the only thing I can think is he has borderline personality disorder from his ****** child. He's also a compulsive liar and is the type that trolls people for fun. I don't think he's a creep but I think the way he channels his energy is dangerous. I know why he's doing it he's immature and thinks its entertaining now when I confronted him about it he had no ****ing clue about what he fod wrong because hes to arrogant yo see it. Like I said I don't think he's evil because he went off at another guy that threatened me with rape. My point is he doesn't make any sense in how he could be nice to me one day and then be cold and detached its so ****ing unnerving. I really don't understand and I'm so stupid the thing is I don't know why it upsets me because it kind of arouses me as well. My point is I'm disturbed emotionally and I can't decide how I feel about myself and others
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 12:19 AM
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I'm sick and tired of falling in love with awful ego testicle guys I'm tired of this. My mother was right guys that ask for nudes are a piece of ****


Aww Hun I know you have struggled a lot but " the ego testicle" made me chuckle lol

I do wish you would just stop this mess of showing off your lady bits to guys that are just wanting a cheep thrill.

You deserve love AND respect, think much more highly of yourself.
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 01:03 AM
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I literally broke the heart of a guy that loved me to walk back to these ****** disrespectful sleazebag guys it ****ing hurts. I don't even value myself enough to block the nasty ****s but I make excuses for how they treat me
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 11:46 AM
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Hugs to you...

I know exactly how you feel! I have been with my man for almost 11 months and he's been showing a side to me I never suspected of him. It's terrible.

He is mad at his ex, only to call her terrible names and telling her he'll send intimate videos of them when they were together, to our mutual guy friend and any other guy... all the while being in a relationship with me... who does these sort of things and thinks it's stable and okay?????
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 07:13 PM
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I know exactly how you feel! I have been with my man for almost 11 months and he's been showing a side to me I never suspected of him. It's terrible.

He is mad at his ex, only to call her terrible names and telling her he'll send intimate videos of them when they were together, to our mutual guy friend and any other guy... all the while being in a relationship with me... who does these sort of things and thinks it's stable and okay?????
I think it's people with mental problems that do that kind of thing, normal people aren't that impulsive and manipulative. A lot of the time these men are full of crap but that doesn't make it any less abusive what there doing. After all to go to that effort to expose somebody is sickening. The worse part is he also threatened me with police because apparently he was underage when I sent them but why ask then? All in all I think he's a crazy nutter and I nerd to be more careful next time. It is definitely a massive lesson and I'll be carrying it with me basically you can't predict how another person will act.... So its better to just steer clear of him.
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 08:22 PM
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The scariest thing about sending anyone your nude pics is that it often ends up online. And you can never take it off. It will be forever there. Some people even blackmail others with this stuff. Block people who ask for nude pics.

I know it must be autocorrect. My iPhone does crazy things. Ego testicles lol versus egotistical. I actually think egotistical men probably think their testicles are so special that they have egos. Lol

Stir away from these guys. Have you tried therapy to talk things through?
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 08:28 PM
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The scariest thing about sending anyone your nude pics is that it often ends up online. And you can never take it off. It will be forever there. Some people even blackmail others with this stuff. Block people who ask for nude pics.

I know it must be autocorrect. My iPhone does crazy things. Ego testicles lol versus egotistical. I actually think egotistical men probably think their testicles are so special that they have egos. Lol

Stir away from these guys. Have you tried therapy to talk things through?


That's true... love
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Old Feb 04, 2017, 10:24 PM
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I'm not into the computer dating or what ever there doing now but I think it's probably becoming socially okay and normal because it's big money and part of the economy
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Old Feb 05, 2017, 06:31 AM
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The scariest thing about sending anyone your nude pics is that it often ends up online. And you can never take it off. It will be forever there. Some people even blackmail others with this stuff. Block people who ask for nude pics.

I know it must be autocorrect. My iPhone does crazy things. Ego testicles lol versus egotistical. I actually think egotistical men probably think their testicles are so special that they have egos. Lol

Stir away from these guys. Have you tried therapy to talk things through?
Yep, I'm going to counselling soon to talk about all of this stuff. I just think that I'm not ****ed up emotionally to make the right decision
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Old Feb 06, 2017, 06:04 AM
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I'm sick and tired of falling in love with awful ego testicle guys I'm tired of this. My mother was right guys that ask for nudes are a piece of ****
I really feel ya on this... Currently in a situation with a guy who swears I'm the only one (load of bull, he's been going online & he's the worlds biggest cheating, lying sleaze) & he constantly wants nudes from me. It's flattering in a "my self confidence isn't completely in the *******" kind of way but it bothers me. Where are these photos going & how many other women is he doing this to
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the thing that perplexes me is he's never been creepy and was more interested in my growth and then all of a sudden he turns into a manipulative turd that became jealous and possessive when guys talked to me.
Maybe he is TESTING your growth??? Like to see if you have learned anything from your past bad choices.

Honestly why you think things are love just because youare wanting it so bad....you throw away all your values then wonder why you get hurt by people you dont even have proof feel the same way about you that you feel about them. Its obvious by your behaviors (past & present) you dont have the foggiest concept of what LOVE really is. You are in LOVE with being in love & plaster the label on anything that is male that pays attention to you.

Like seeker said....you need TO LEARN HOW TO BE DISCERNING.

Growjng up isnt easy but its a lit easier when you sort out the bad ones with your own solid miral values & NEVER even think you are in love until they prove themselves beyond a shadow of a doubt. With the lack of moral values these days, true colors become obvious VERY QUICKLY.
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