What are some tips to deal with my overwhelming desire for human contact that I simply can't get over?

I crave human contact but I can't get over my issues with people to save my life.

I'm struggling with making friends and socializing with people because I'm too caught up in my own little world full of my own problems that I have trouble conversing with other people without sounding like either an idiot or a selfish jerk.

It doesn't help matters that I have poor social skills and can't get past my obsessions with technology and video games. Try talking to me about "normal" people things like sports, clothes, politics, or even small talk and I can't hold my own in a conversation to save my life.

The only reasons why I don't kill myself now are because of the "nerdy" things that I'm passionate about as well as my ambitions of wanting to have my own tech or video game related company that makes video game systems, games, or anything else pertaining to video games or technology.

My nerdy obsessions are my sole purpose for living. Why can't people see that? Everything else, especially people bring me pain. Still though, I need human contact like everybody else.

I wish I was a psychopath so I could go around not being influenced by my stupid feelings and not deal with people or desire companionship at all without being hurt. I hate having feelings.

I'm so freaking lonely and I can't take it anymore.

I hate society and the majority of humanity because they are all living their happy little lives while I'm miserable.

I'm sick of being such a toxic unhappy person.

I hate my life.

I just want people to accept me. I'm sick of being the outsider. Hatred and sorrow writhes within me because I want what I can't have; acceptance.

I'm so sorry you feel like this. I can hear the pain in your words. I wish I lived near you and we could get a coffee and I'd listen to you talk about your dreams. You have had such a hard life, and you're trying to do the best you can. It gets easier as your get older, f that's any help. It sounds like you need to find somewhere irl where people like you meet in person. I'm twice your age and know very little about things like anime and cosplay, but aren't there conventions you could go to? Or Meetups? Do you have a LinkedIn profile? The new UI is awful but it has some good groups on there, and ones that help with start ups. Perhaps some of the stuff you want to do needs money or transport. Would you consider a moped? They cost less and are cheap to run. Are there animal shelters near you that you could volunteer at, and get your kitty fix? Big hugs to you DIMF. You're a good guy. Not a psychopath. Just hurting. Please hang in there and keep posting.

Originally Posted by Little Cat

I'm so sorry you feel like this. I can hear the pain in your words. I wish I lived near you and we could get a coffee and I'd listen to you talk about your dreams. You have had such a hard life, and you're trying to do the best you can. It gets easier as your get older, f that's any help. It sounds like you need to find somewhere irl where people like you meet in person. I'm twice your age and know very little about things like anime and cosplay, but aren't there conventions you could go to? Or Meetups? Do you have a LinkedIn profile? The new UI is awful but it has some good groups on there, and ones that help with start ups. Perhaps some of the stuff you want to do needs money or transport. Would you consider a moped? They cost less and are cheap to run. Are there animal shelters near you that you could volunteer at, and get your kitty fix? Big hugs to you DIMF. You're a good guy. Not a psychopath. Just hurting. Please hang in there and keep posting.

I'm volunteering at the library to build references just in case my financial aid application that I filled to attend college next month fails for whatever stupid reason and I need to get a job.

Somebody that I work with at my volunteer position triggered me today.

A woman that I find attractive who's into cosplay and stuff but she told me she has a boyfriend and is quitting cosplay because the boyfriend says she's getting too old for it (she's not even 30 yet!) and since hearing that from her I've been angry and depressed all day.

It doesn't help that other employees are talking about their personal lives and how they have wives and people who love them and the type of things they do like parties or events or whatever and I can't deal with hearing stuff like that the whole time while I'm sorting books or stamping or mailing things which is basically what I do.

Oh and I can't get a moped because apparently you need a driver's license to ride one; something that I don't have because of my useless twig of a mother who wouldn't let me learn how to drive.

I want to learn but I am so overwhelmingly afraid of driver's ed because I am scared of being judged by people not to mention I can't afford classes yet.

Between my lack of a license, lack of a stable job, and the fact that I am a bit chubby and have stretch marks all over my body from back when I was overweight as a child, I am too insecure about myself to be able to attract women so getting a female friend or a woman to talk to which is something that I deeply crave right now is out of the question.

Do you play any MMORPGs, by chance? Those types of games are an easy way to make friends, or even just acquaintances to play with.

I enjoy playing World of Warcraft and joined a very nice and chatty guild. I did raids with them over the weekend while using voice chat, and it was nice to socialize even if they are pretty much strangers still (I only joined the guild a few days ago).

I've also met someone from this forum in real life, and we are good friends now. He is coming down to visit me later this week, in fact!

You can always find people that share your interests. I, too, am into video games and a good place to find these people is in, well, video games! Or even FB groups for these video games. I wish you all the best in finding people who share your interests, there are a lot of gamers out there.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

Do you play any MMORPGs, by chance? Those types of games are an easy way to make friends, or even just acquaintances to play with.

I enjoy playing World of Warcraft and joined a very nice and chatty guild. I did raids with them over the weekend while using voice chat, and it was nice to socialize even if they are pretty much strangers still (I only joined the guild a few days ago).

I've also met someone from this forum in real life, and we are good friends now. He is coming down to visit me later this week, in fact!

You can always find people that share your interests. I, too, am into video games and a good place to find these people is in, well, video games! Or even FB groups for these video games. I wish you all the best in finding people who share your interests, there are a lot of gamers out there.

I do a lot of online gaming myself. Used to play WoW and I'm thinking about getting back into it as well and I do have people that I game with but it still doesn't help with my need for IRL human contact.

The one biggest regret that I have in life so far was selling my old WoW account all because I was desperate for money to get away from my controlling mother.

I was a Multi Gladiator and had things you can't get anymore such as the Hand of A'dal title and one of the server first crafting achievements.

I had a lot of friends who I played with too and met some of them at Blizzcon back in 2011 but I dropped contact when I sold my account.

I gave all this for a measly $800.

I would still have friends if I never became so money hungry and desperate to avoid my problems

I still hate myself for making such stupid choices in life.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

Do you play any MMORPGs, by chance? Those types of games are an easy way to make friends, or even just acquaintances to play with.

I enjoy playing World of Warcraft and joined a very nice and chatty guild. I did raids with them over the weekend while using voice chat, and it was nice to socialize even if they are pretty much strangers still (I only joined the guild a few days ago).

I've also met someone from this forum in real life, and we are good friends now. He is coming down to visit me later this week, in fact!

You can always find people that share your interests. I, too, am into video games and a good place to find these people is in, well, video games! Or even FB groups for these video games. I wish you all the best in finding people who share your interests, there are a lot of gamers out there.

When I come back to WoW and if you are still playing by then, I might hit you up if that's cool.

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

When I come back to WoW and if you are still playing by then, I might hit you up if that's cool.

Absolutely! Me and my friend from PC play on Alexstrasza.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

Absolutely! Me and my friend from PC play on Alexstrasza.

Could I send you my battle tag in a PM? I don't play wow yet but I do play Heroes of the Storm and Hearthstone ATM.

Originally Posted by DarknessIsMyFriend

Could I send you my battle tag in a PM? I don't play wow yet but I do play Heroes of the Storm and Hearthstone ATM.

Sure, I'll add you.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

Sure, I'll add you.

Thanks. I feel better already. I have to leave to go grocery shopping soon but I'll message you tonight when I get back.

I was a lot happier back when I played WoW actively and I was heavy into PvP (which should be obvious since I was a multi Glad) and I was active in a cross faction cross server PvP community and everything which made me happy.

Looking back, that one time when I went to Blizzcon and met all those awesome people as well as meeting the YouTuber Athene was the single happiest time in my life.

I guess I should rebuild that part of my life

Have you ever heard of meet up groups, They are for people that share your same interests and then you could make some new friends, You should check in your area to see if they have any, There is everything you can think of

Originally Posted by Hummingbird1

Have you ever heard of meet up groups, They are for people that share your same interests and then you could make some new friends, You should check in your area to see if they have any, There is everything you can think of

I'm considering going to a local Hearthstone event called a fireside gathering on May 5th to meet people and show off my skills as a legend ranked hearthstone player

The only issue that I face with doing things like this is my lack of transportation. I can get there by bus but because the event ends at 9PM and the buses stop running at 7PM where I live, I would have to take an Uber home when money is tight for me as it is.

Still I will try to go. I really need more friends.

Thinking about transportation, is it feasable to cycle where you are?

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

Thinking about transportation, is it feasable to cycle where you are?

I don't own a cycle and even if I did, I suck at riding them. I never could fully master riding a bike when I was young because of all the meds I was on.

[RainyDay107]

Are you suffering from depression? I am, currently, and I find loneliness to be a part of the illness. Thinking of you.

[avlady]

maybe you're just having a bad day? i get a lot of them so i know when a good one is here i certainly know it!!

Originally Posted by avlady

maybe you're just having a bad day? i get a lot of them so i know when a good one is here i certainly know it!!

I was having a bad day when I posted this but I am doing a bit better now.

Loneliness is an issue for me, however, it usually only affects me in a major way when I'm under a lot of stress or have a lot of things going on in my life.