Photoshoot! And OKC Self Summary

Tomorrow is my photoshoot with my aunt for my OKC account (I'm telling her that this is the first photoshoot since I was 18 and that this will boost my self-confidence, which is also true)

So once I get the photos I am reactivating my OKC account. This literally took me over two hours just to figure out how to write the summary.

This is NOT too long. The bold parts are all questions that OKC asks and I kept everything simple, so I am happy with the length, but I would like reviews on how my profile looks and anything can be change.

Oh, and of course I'll share the photos with you tomorrow! Thank you in advance!

My self-summary

My Story
Lucky Ducky is my middle name. My best traits are my smile, my laugh and making others laugh, and paying it forward by spreading kindness to others. I love breaking through the concrete jungle in my trusty Old Mule while on a coastal drive, and I am happiest when I am with my loved ones. My dream house is my grandparents house because I’ve spent much of my childhood there picking guavas, playing army with my cousins during holidays, and it’s “the house that built me”.

My Perfect Match
I am looking for a LTR with someone who can care for me, make me laugh, and be my best friend through thick and thin

My Ideal Date
A romantic picnic

What I’m doing with my life
I am a FT caregiver for the elderly, and I am expecting this to be a lifelong career. I am pursuing further education provided by this company to better myself as a caregiver, and I am considering other educational pursuits such as obtaining certificates as a CNA and taking JC classes for nursing.

I’m really good at
Winning! I've won so many different things from makeovers to expensive wine to baseball and concert tickets.

Meeting celebs! Deadmau5 wore and signed my mau5head; I worked as an extra under Kari, Grant, and Tori from Mythbusters; I've held hands with Michael Franti; and I've met all my fave local DJs.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy non-fiction books about science, nature, and mental illness. Fictional books must challenge me as a reader and a writer or I don't bother.

Oh Brother Where Art Thou? is the one movie I can watch over and over and still laugh at (and sing along).

I've never had a bowl of mac n cheese I didn't like.

Six things I could never do without
1. Dad's BBQ
2. Girl talk
3. A night of friends, pizza, wine, munchies, and Rocky Horror
4. My trusty steed, the "Old Mule"
5. My iPod nano collection
6. My inner voice

I spend a lot of time thinking about
The needs of my clients

On a typical Friday night I am
Having a glass of wine and watching a feel-good movie!

You should message me if
You are looking for a LTR and would enjoy meeting up for a cup of coffee before hitting the town (or the coast) on an adventure!

What I am asking is that is the quality good? What impression do you get from my profile? What can I add or subtract? What would make you want to learn more? Am I good enough for a message or a date? And once the photos are up, am I relationship worthy?

There's something that feels off about this profile...I'm looking at it and pretending that I'm a single person just browsing profiles and I can tell you that I would personally not reply to yours. I think it's coming off as if you're trying a bit too hard. There is an information overload, and the comment about "I am looking for a LTR with someone who can care for me" doesn't feel right either.

What would you suggest me changing?

Well I would definitely get rid of the "I am looking for a LTR with someone who can care for me" part, just because it can come across as needy.

As for what else? It's hard to say. I'll try my best to explain: You give so much information that it becomes glaringly obvious how many of your interests I don't share, so it's easy to think "We'd have nothing in common" and pass you over. Whereas if you gave less information, I might be curious to get to know you further. With all this text laid out, it feels like reading an essay, which is not fun and makes me want to move on!

I'll see what other members have to say...I don't want to change anything based off one member.

That's totally fine, hope your photoshoot goes well!

With more members there will be a better understanding of how to change my profile...but I agree that I am trying too hard...I don't know how to both express my personality without giving too much away or going on and on about myself.

I think it's the same as with your previous profile. Its good and It's shorter but still too long. Too many details.

People won't read it. It also has several cliches such as "breaking through concrete jungle" or "making other people laugh" or "hitting town on adventure" etc It seems like I saw same thing in many profiles when I dated.

You can say that you are looking for a long term relationship, you love to read non
Fiction, you enjoy your job with elderly because you can learn a lot from them and you enjoy helping others, and you have funny unique thing like you win competitions and you met many celebrities. That's all you need. Everything else share on a date.

Also free sites are mostly hook ups, so men won't care what books you read, they will only look at pictures. More serious men who do care what you read are on paid sites. But of course there are exceptions.

Lucky ducky is my middle name ...sounds very pornish. The others are right too much detail and too eager.

So basically no matter what I do guys will always think I'm a quick ****. Thanks.

I've definitely seen more males with an interest in using online dating sites less for serious relationships and more for casual dating and/or hookups. With that said, from time to time you do hear of wonderful long term relationships and marriages coming from online sites.

There's nothing wrong with meeting people online, but there's no reason why you can't try looking in person as well. Just don't be surprised that you'll run into way more guys just looking for something casual on a dating site.

That's not true. I've met decent men online who weren't looking for a quick...
Heck I've met my husband on online dating site and he is great. Using dating sites doesn't make you a quick...at all

You asked what to change in your profile. I personally suggested to shorten it, take details out and eliminate cliches. I thought you asked what to change?

Please don't give up. Just give basic descriptions in a natural manner. Like you'd be introducing yourself in person. Also Maybe try paid site?

I did. My brother came home and I'm a nervous wreck. I'm sorry. I just feel so awful whenever my brother comes home. I am tired of being second best and I want someone to appreciate me for who I am. I've never had a real relationship. Several men dangled the R word over my head so I would have sex with them, then they'd use the "I'm not ready" cop out and leave the next morning and I don't want that. I want to have a really great profile so men who want a LTR would be genuinely interested and I just don't know how to do that and I'm frustrated.

I know you're of sound mind and I appreciate that. My brother's yukking it up with my parents in the other room and I'm hiding with my cat. It's really awful when my brother's over. It brings up a lot of hurt feelings. The photoshoot isn't until the evening so that means I have the whole day to come up with a solid opening for my profile. I think most of what I have to say is good, but the opening of the self-summary is mind-boggling because how do I sum up myself in a line or two without sounding corny or too eager or whatever the other members said?

I've literally been planning this photoshoot out for over a month and my profile still isn't good enough to be up and ready. It's so overwhelming.

Hang in there. Your profile doesn't need to be great. You just have to introduce basics about yourself.

I've never been great at looking at the big picture. What basics do guys want to know that would also show off my personality without overdoing it or seeming too eager?

I listed what you could put in your profile in my first response. Hobbies, how do you spend your free time, what you do for a living, education (if they are educated themselves), if you have something unique like unique talent that is ok too. It doesn't need to be cute or funny or pretentious. Smile on a picture.