Feeling "bad" about unfriending someone

Not sure why I feel bad. This person lives in a another state and only messages me to be nosey about stuff in my life and lecture me on things....

We used to be good friends, she lived close and we walked my dogs daily but then she ruined the chance I had of my dream job and I forgave her for my own sanity but now she is driving me nuts, with her constant lectures and I wanna unfriend her on Facebook but I feel really bad about it.... Any advice??

*Just in case anyone wants to know the story about my dream job, I'll type it below*

I got offered a week long trail for the animal place I love most in the world and its out of state. I was to go there and see if I fit in and they could hire me on if so.

She had family in that state and agreed to drive me.... so everything was in place. I made all my reservations at the place I was staying, for a rental car when I got there etc, and we were to leave Sat am and get there very late sun so I could be to work early monday

Well... Sat am came, and I waited and wait... texted and called and waited some more. Got to be well after noon and nothing. I started to freak out.... then I kept calling and a few hours later, like around 4, she left me a long message claiming she had left without me because she felt I didn't wanna go that bad, and she had dropped her phone in the toilet....

Well I was basically screwed, last minute.... I could not call the company as they were not open then... but I left a message however it was not gonna go me any good as I would not be there by Monday am. Yes I could of flown but last minute flight was far too much and it was a 2 hr drive from the airport to there, and I have driving anxiety, so that would never of worked. I trusted someone and it backfired

For weeks I tried to apply again and even a few months later and they never allowed me another chance to work there. I've been depressed about it for years but try not to let it get to me as I am sure it wasn't meant to be anyway...

None the less... someone treated me like this and now just lectures me, why am I feeling so bad about unfriending her? ugh

Um, I can't believe you didn't unfriend her back when that happened. She is toxic and she let you down at a crucial time. Get her out of your life. She is toxic.

Don't feel bad about cutting toxic people or people who are just bad for your psyche out of your life. You have to care for you.

Seesaw

I'm too nice and give more chances than I should. I hate this about myself. I just only realized this week (and am bring it up in therapy on Tuesday) that every single friend I have, other than my bestie, is toxic to me in some form and I keep allowing it

I agree she is toxic. Unfriend her and don't feel bad about it. You are protecting your own wellbeing and she has not shown herself to be a worthy friend. Best wishes.

Unfriend.



Great topic to bring up in therapy!

I did unfriend her and now I feel bad, ugh, why do I always feel bad about everything?

Thanks for all the comments

Hi I'm the same way. I give people the benefit of the doubt so many times and I go over in my mind if what they did to me was really wrong etc. You did the right thing in blocking her. You sound like a very nice person you deserve good friends.

I would guess that it relates in some way to whatever happened and/or how you were treated in your childhood.

Instead of the wording FB " unfriend" I think it should be " remove toxic shyt"

Do work in Therapy to find out why your feeling this way.

I had a lot of same issues/problems.. Through Therapy I uncovered the reasons WHY .. Then I worked on changing how I relate to people and that being a doormat just isnt allowed in my life anymore.

Thanks, I hope to get to that place from therapy as well. I know my mom is a Narssassist (spelling?) and that is alot of why I am this way