Blocked on FB

I haven't been blocked by anyone on FB since high school. I'm usually the one who blocks, and I am crushed to find out I've been blocked. I met up with a long-time friend from high school that I've had a crush on since we met. We've hooked up twice before. So he comes over and he spends the first half of the night talking about all the crazy sex he's gotten since we last met and the crazy stories that went with it. I replied, "Gee, I haven't had sex since January." So we're drinking and I admit I had too much to drink, but all my friends would vouch that I have never done anything stupid or crazy or anything like that while drinking, that I'm pretty mellow and level-headed. So we're talking relationships and I ask him what he likes in a girl, and he goes on to say everything that fits my description. So I ask him, why not us? He says, "No way, but I have to admit you're in the 'top 3' of best head I've ever had."

So I fit the description of everything he looks for in a girl, but a relationship with me is out of the question, and on top of it, I'm not "one of" the best, not "the best", but "the top 3" best head he's received. I leave the room, come back, he asks what's wrong, and I tell him, "You need to leave" and escort him out the door.

I think about it the next day, come up with a plan to talk to him and let him know how I feel, find out I'm blocked.

I don't have a question or anything, but I really needed to vent. I talked with my best friend because I was almost in tears with this whole mess and she agreed I wasn't the problem, but I feel like there is something wrong with me and that I am a bad person because of this. Is Mr. Right even in my high power's plan for me? I feel so lost and pathetic, and I feel like such a loser because of this.

If you actually like him, I don't see why you asked him to leave. It makes sense he would feel hurt or surprised and block you. If you were just feeling that shocked, I guess it makes sense what you did, too. Maybe try speaking to him when you see him next, or try and move on.

What he said was so insensitive that you are better of not hanging out with him. I can envision a guy trading "notes" about his conquests with another male buddy but it is in bad taste for a guy to talk to a girl he has hooked up with about these things. I find it surprising that he gets so much action when he seems like anything but a "smooth operator". Perhaps when you asked him to leave he was disappointed that the two of you didn't hook up or just has a fragile ego? I know it hurts but since he blocked you, he doesn't deserve to know how you feel. A Mr. Right is someone who compliments and appreciates you.

Awww Hun, this may be hard to hear... but you're being played by a F*#k Boy.
Think about all the details you've given...
1) he hooks up and has sex with various girls all the time, probably keeps them on a string like you
2) he keeps you on a string for when HE wants you
3) he compliments you/ then degrades you JUST enough to keep your heart and thoughts in confused limbo (you're "one of 3" of his best head?? Ughh! What a loser thing to say)
4) as soon as you start getting into a mature discussion about relationship status (a perfectly normal question at this point) he runs for the hills

The question should not be why he is how he is. The question you should ask yourself is why don't you feel you deserve better?

He is trash. You need to stop hanging out and hooking up with trash. Don't explain anything to him. What for? You need to start value yourself higher

I'm sorry this happened to you. How obnoxious. Let him block you. He's not worth your time or energy (mental or physical). I know this whole situation has upset you but just remember that you deserve better. I think better will come along for you. It's not you. I hope you start feeling better about this soon.

I know you're confused and upset. But you did the right thing by escorting him to the door. He probably blocked you because you asked him to leave. You deserve 100x better.

Thank you for your responses. I gave him one too many chances over the years and yes I deserve much, much better.

This should be my new relationship mantra.

I DO deserve better. I DESERVE better! I DESERVE BETTER! I should stop asking why he did what he did and ask myself why I don't feel I deserve better.

This is going to resonate with me for quite a while. I need to set the standard high for friendships and relationships. I deserve it!!! Thank you.

I personally needed therapy to figure out what I need in partners. Have you seen a therapist? Specifically to focus on friendships and relationships? It could help

I use therapy as a listening ear because I always come prepared with a game plan of problems and solutions that I bounce off my T and gauge her reaction as good idea/bad idea/here's another idea and then how to move forward with those ideas. But yes, I will set up an appointment with my T.

And of course she has nothing available in a reasonable time frame...

I'm so happy this resonates with you

Be glad he is out of your life, You do deserve much much better

We all struggle with relationships and sex and all kinds of personal interactions.
People who think they have it figured out often have a rude awakening when things change.

Figuring out things is a life long process. In fact, after many human lifetimes through history we find that though we have come a long way, we have a long way to go in our pursuit of peace and happiness.

Do not be hard on yourself. You are getting better all the time. We must learn from our situations and experience. Other people can tell you why things happened the way they did in a particular incident, but you must come to an understanding yourself.