Just as I thought everything was changing...

...it seems that some things will always stay the same. I just found out that one of my flatmates is going out tonight with some mutual friends, and nobody asked if I wanted to come. Admittedly, I probably would have declined if they had asked - they're going to watch the rugby, and I'm not interested in sports - but I don't see how they could have known that.

This makes me feel like I'm 13 all over again - should have known better when people told me university was better than high school.

Maybe it's my fault, though - I've been pretty antisocial this week, the only night I've been out is Friday and that wasn't with them. But it's hard to make plans with them, because they're not in my block or in any of my classes (I think my flatmate has some of the same classes as a few of them), so the only way I can keep in touch is through mobile phones, and they rarely return my texts. Whether that's because they don't have much credit on their phones or it's just me they're ignoring, I'm not sure...I hope it's the former, but knowing me it's probably the latter.

Well, maybe I don't need them anyway. I've made friends on my course, although they stay at home so they never go out in the evenings - I don't really see them outside of class, although we've got lunch together a few times.

I do miss them, though.

Why don't you just tell them that you'd like to go out with them? You can't be antisocial and wonder why people don't want to hang out with you. Be direct, seek their company, if they don't respond, find new friends! Nobody can be liked by everybody. But make an effort. The people that you see who have all these friends make an effort to be with them. It doesn't happen magically by staying at home.

Thanks for replying, spal. One of the reasons I haven't done that is because like I said in my first post they're hard to get in touch with - they're not in any of my classes and they rarely respond to my texts. But it's also because whenever I'm with them I feel like I'm just an "extra" - it's how I felt through most of high school, and as much as I didn't want it to it seems to be staying with me at university as well. Whether it's true or not, I tend to think that people are better off without me.

You're right, though - I should make more of an effort. I think there's a chance they might be coming over to our flat next week, so that's something.