Why am I chasing something that doesn't exist?

This so called thing doesn't exist. Why am I chasing it? Nothing works, which isn't surprising considering there is no such thing as this thing I'm chasing.

Why do they make such fictitious things so enticing? Why? Why doesn't romantic love exist?

Don't tell me it does because I very much know all to well that it doesn't. It doesn't exist.

**** what the cynics of the world think, **** people who use others, and especially, **** fear! I hope you DO find what you're looking for.

I'm sorry you feel that way. I do believe it's real and I hope it finds you soon. Sending big hugs.

I am sorry you are struggling finding love. It's not easy. Hang in there art

Sorry your feeling so down Art, It's a very sucky place to be, I wish I had the words to help, but I am rather inadequate at these kinds of things.
All the best, hang in there.

What true love is supposed to be in your mind, might be something that doesn't really exist. I was, and you might have been too, read fairy tales where the prince rescued the helpless princess and the lived happily ever after. Little girls today are not read those stories any more. They are taught to be independent. Yes, there still is a prince, but they are equals.

You have touched upon a huge question for you.

I'd suggest stop chasing it, and do things you enjoy that build you up. You are bound to meet people you will have feelings for of love. It is in your heart.

That's what I'm doing. I'm doing things I enjoy instead of chasing fairy tales and other things that never existed.

I think we build up in our own minds what this "so called" romantic love feels like. Most love isn't all romantic but the romance comes from just loving to be with the person & enjoying just being together without the fireworks going off every time we are with them. While having the romantic side being an expression of just enjoying being together.

I think even that doesn't exist for many of us & after a very long (too long) bad marriage I am totally satisfied with my alone existence while having good supportive friends. Sometimes people find that one person they totally connect with but it doesn't happen often & even then there is a lot of learning to tolerate assuming those things being tolerated aren't hurtful to the other person

Times have changed. From my experience, love is optional. To me right now, what's important first and foremost is taking care of your needs, liberty and ambitions.

My ambitions were to find a lover to be with for the rest of my life...guess I need to refocus on what my new ambition should be...

A lover for a month? Start small.