Problem with sex/nudity/scantily clad women on tv

I'm hoping someone can help me with this issue, or if someone can at least relate to me because this is really getting on my nerves now.
Is it just me that feels insecure and extremely uncomfortable when watching TV or movies with a partner and a sex scene, nudity or scantily clad women come on. Everything seems to have them in it nowadays!!! It makes me so angry. My partner is aware of how uncomfortable it makes me and says he isn't interested but I can't help but feel that all males get turned on and attracted to these women. It makes me feel sick to my stomach the thought of him looking at these women and possibly getting turned on by them?
I have suffered with the issue since I was 15 and am now 22 and it's really getting on my nerves. I also have severe anxiety and am on a large dose of medication for it and have tried talking therapies but they dont seem to work much. It's easy for people to say 'oh get over it' but unfortunately that's much easier said than done.

Also if anyone can suggest any movies or tv shows that don't contain this sort of bull**** please don't hesitate to recommend them ?

You know, I can fully relate to your sentiments on this. I, too, have been uncomfortable with it and used to be very upset over this issue myself. The truth of the matter is, yes, our partners may possibly get turned on by seeing a beautiful, naked movie star on TV. It's the nature of the male sex. They are highly visual and beauty and nudity appeals. But it honestly doesn't mean anything, even if they are turned on. You are the person that matters the most, what is in front of them in the flesh. Plus, there's love and caring involved, which goes way deeper than just physical attraction and sex. Something I've had to contend with myself is knowing that my love partner will be attracted to other women, and potentially frequently as there are thousands and millions of attractive women out there. The key is to be secure with yourself, to feel like a sexy goddess in your own right, and to be confident of his feelings and attraction for YOU. Otherwise, your partner wouldn't be with you if you were not attractive to him. So work on your own confidence, which I know takes time and can be hard to do, but in time, the more confident and secure you feel with yourself, the less these things will bother you. Attractions to other people are just a fact of life or a part of human nature that we must acknowledge and be aware of, but not feel truly threatened by. Hope this helps a little. ((((Hugs)))))

I haven't had a TV IN 10 years. The quality of TV had degraded so badly when they removed or lowered the standards so badly.

Honestly I like the history channel or PBS when around places with a TV. I also chose quality DVD movies & watch those on my computer now I don't have a TV.

Yes, the quality of TV is mostly disgusting. The halt time show performances at football games are intolerable. I'm 64 & remember when TV was good clean entertainment with morals expressed in the story line. Today is nothing like TV in the past

I went through a very severe phase of this in my early 20's, ironically when I was at my fittest and healthiest. I was in a crazy place and my head was a wreck.I had a ridiculously intense relationship that I don't think I felt worthy of. Jealousy was a huge issue, and largely irrational too.

Fast forward to current times, after a 7 year break from relationships, doing things just for me I am now with a partner who thinks I am hottest thing to walk this earth, despite me being at my heaviest and 10 years his senior.
And frequently expresses as much.
So when he,sends,a picture of some sexy underwear on a pretty model, I don't even blink, because I know he's saying I want to see YOU in that.
Sure we both find the odd person attractive, but I don't ask if I don't want to know. It's human nature, hell it's in everything's nature to take note of something that attracts them. Quite often it's subconscious.
How many of us have watched a program and out of the blue accused our partner of being attracted to the leading lady, only to be met with utter bemusement, followed usually by futile denials or weary resignation, "oh no, here we go again."

It's a horrible place to be in, and for me it was directly linked to the subconscious belief that my partner was too good for me and would ultimately go off with someone else. This of course became a self fulfilling prophecy because my behaviour became too much to bear, for either of us.

Whilst I still wobble, my partners very expressive nature goes along way to stabilising those insecurities.
And it's the little things like never passing up a chance to compliment me, that help remind me he appreciates my worth.

With all the sex and perfect bodies in TV it can be overwhelming. If you are feeling insecure maybe it would help to talk to a therapist about it.

On the other hand, I'm 62, years old and let me tell TV and movies didn't used to be like this. I get sick of all the raw sex on tv and in movies. I find it tasteless and boring. Much of it is gratuitous, as in unnecessary. You'll be rocking along watching a show and BAM!, now we have a sex scene just because sex sells. It has nothing to do with the plot.

Perhaps you could google "family friendly" shows. There are many people who don't want to watch it or have their young children exposed.

I am so tired of it too and it's not just TV but the media in general because the front covers of newspapers/magazines have half-naked women on them and numerous advertising billboards, shop window posters etc too. I literally can't remember when I last saw a sexualised image of a naked/half-naked guy anywhere; it's like men are invisible in the media and I can't help feeling that if the situation was reversed men would absolutely hate their wives/girlfriends looking at other men's bodies everywhere they turned.

I've had partners in the past who've understood and have been respectful of my feelings but my current one reacts with anger if I calmly say I feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed by all the nudity. To me it feels like cheating. I know it's not, but it's like it's saying "look what you could have if you weren't with her". I dread turning on the TV or going to the cinema with my partner because the media is so one-sided.

I totally understand why you'd feel this way. I'm sorry you're struggling.. like others have said, perhaps you need to work a litle on your self-esteem. It's weird that your partner reacts with anger at your feeling though

I am sorry you are struggling--I recommend avoiding triggers as much as you can--there are ways you can do this. While there are adult movies and books I like--I have always read mostly children's books and classics--I have found it to be some of the highest quality literature out there. I find some of the sex on TV to be rather shallow. Having read the reviews about some movies such as Antichrist--there are some really disturbing movies out there--you have to take precautions and stay away from them. It is wise for nearly everyone to do this. I prefer many of the family type love stories like Parent Trap and Daddy's Home(Will Ferrell--I think he is so funny ) even though my children are all grown up. People like Queen Latifah and Jackie Chan tend to handle sex in a way I enjoy. If you do your research, you can find things out there that are your speed. When my husband has the Justice channel on--I walk out. Both H and I like Deadliest Catch, did you know this is one of the most watched shows by males and there is no sex? We also both like nature shows. So perhaps there is hope you can find something you both like. Don't watch anything that makes you uncomfortable--your time is to valuable!!!!

Hi, a suburban white male here. I object to heavily sexualized entertainment on a couple grounds I don't think have been covered.

It cans over–produced, imaginary depictions of ersatz sex and presents them to us as, like everything, an available commodity. A commodity of which we do not have the latest, greatest version. Without it, we are less than we could be, as well as at a competitive disadvantage. We are expected to obsess, crave, and aspire after their product.

It's difficult to think of a more dehumanizing, manipulative degradation of our most intimate, personal moments. It is produced and distributed globally by the most powerful communication industry the world has ever known.

Another issue is creative. Heavily sexualized entertainment is almost the lowest form of infantile, hack, pandering titillation there is. It's made worse by the pretense of storytelling surrounding it. It's like the kind of cooking that throws sugar into everything. There's not a bit of art, imagination, or creativity in the vast majority of it. No good sex, either.

It made me think of a magazine publisher where I once worked. The production manager would always remind us that the editorial matter —the stories, columns, departments, letters page, etc— was only there to prevent the ads from bumping into one another.

Nudity/sex is a natural part of life -- so I view the scenes as nothing more unusual than watching someone eat a meal, for example. None of the shows I watch have truely extended scenes, so I accept them as a part of the show. It amazes me that folks can watch all kinds of violent content, yet the thought of nudity or making love is somehow unsavory. IMO, the issue rests with the viewers, not the shows themselves. I think what we're dealing with is an Anglo-American "problem." I worked in Germany for four years & they thought little of nudity, nor did they cringe at the sight of sex. I think the same holds true for many parts of the world.

I've read threads like this before on here & I know what I will say will not be well liked. But it's just an opinion.
I feel the main issue here is jealousy. When humans or primates meet the first innate response is to size them up. Sometimes we don't intentionally do it; even subconsciously.
We compare ourselves to another & deem ourselves maybe inferior. I feel this happens a great deal with women. We become jealous of another female.
You said you feel insecure. Why? Then that leads you to anger. Why?
Maybe write down what thoughts you're having in your head & who is actually saying them. Where did they originate from?
I bet if you do this several times you will "hear" the same things; same thoughts. Broken record thoughts telling you the same things.

When I feel this I have to ask myself why. Why am I degrading another woman based on her looks & actions when really I should be celebrating another female, not putting her down. If she's beautiful I can appreciate that along with the next person & admire how lucky we are to be female. We rock!

Maybe it comes down to (in the US) our Puritan values that anything sexual should be done behind closed doors, should invoke shame & make us feel even dirty.

I never really hear much about women comment that there's not enough male nudity. I would love to see more male nudity to even out this social scale we view. Men fought for the right to go topless & won! We're still fighting that today.

I guess the answer is just to find channels that don't carry those storylines. Find movies that don't show any nudity or turn the screen off.
I stopped watching the news 9 yrs ago bec I felt it was triggering & graphic. I know that won't change. But I can read news & still stay abreast of it.
I guess ask yourself the question of why nudity or scantily clad women bothers you so much. What do you hear in your head? Would you feel differently if it was just men? Do you feel differently when your partner is not there?
I hope you find some answers that help with your anxiety.