He doesn't understand me. Need tips :(

I've known my boyfriend since years ago and started dating this past year, but i've never opened up to him before. I'm suffering a severe case of anxiety, trust issues and stress, I had traumas and went to some psychologists, fortunately I've progressed a lot.

My long distance boyfriend in the other hand is living a very happy life until now. He hasn't got any problem in his life that 'turns his head'. Sometimes I feel like he's only thinking about his life and how mine revolves around him, i feel like he sometimes forget that i have my own life, and that I want to progress in life.

He's very nice, he cares about my day, my health and all. But I don't feel like he 'understands' me. When I tried to open up to him the only think he said to me was 'you need help' and 'pls stop thinking like that' and got a little grumpy. But i know he said that because it's 'him', he just doesn't know what to do. He has good intentions and he loves me a lot, i get that.. But it's painful for me to talk to him.
Sometimes when I talk about serious matter he would just joke around and I didn't get to send my message across.

I'm tired. That's how I feel. But I know i want him, because he makes me happy. But at the other hand, i don't feel like he appreciates me.

It's not surprising that he doesn't understand how you feel, since he probably doesn't know how mental illness work. I think you should talk with him and explain how you feel in regards to this. Even if he doesn't understand completely, he can still offer support when you're down

Assume that some of these traits of his may never change! Now try to unemotionally evaluate--Are there more good things in this relationship than bad? When we are in love, we don't always pay attention to important red flags. Also, I recommend that you try talking to him again if you only tried once. Men have good days and bad days too!

He may laugh and be short with you because he feels helpless to know what to say or do, and therefore anxious about such conversations.

What sort of response from him would you want him to give? Perhaps articulating that here will help you explain it to him.

I agree with all of the above. If overall you have a good relationship and this is the only hang up, you could start seeing a therapist to process some of this. Different people in our lives meet different needs. He may be able to support you on a basic level but be uncomfortable with the deeper issues. It doesn't have to be a deal breaker if the relationship is good and you can get support elsewhere.

I would talk to him about it though. He needs to be supportive. Good luck and best wishes.