Second date!

I'm so stoked...this guy I've been chatting with for about a week online, we finally got together and had coffee today. I mentioned that this weekend I was probably going to go biking, and he mentioned he'd be up for that. I just texted him and invited him to go on Sunday, and he said yes!

And I read that you were hired recently? Is that right? Go get 'em, seesaw.

I'm so happy for you!! Let us know if it goes well.

Yay!!!! Good for you!!!!

Sending all the best wishes!!!! How exciting.

No, not hired yet. But still hopeful.

Good for you ! Enjoy getting to know this guy

So we had our bike ride/date. Good exercise but a casual pace and good conversation. It was fun. We decided we will go to the museum on Friday, third date. I'm not sure if we are dating or just hanging out...we hug at the end but no kissing, but kissing would be awkward at this point because we've just been chatting and getting to know each other very organically. Even if it doesn't become romantic at least I have a new friend to hang out with. I'm definitely taking it slow because I know when I take it fast that I tend to get overly emotionally invested in it and then I become infatuated. This has felt very organic so far. We kind of feel like old friends, which is a nice feeling.

So that's my update!

Seesaw

Yay Seesaw, happy for you.

Well, I don't know if it's really going anywhere...he cancelled for this weekend saying he got invited to an out of town wedding, so we are waiting until the next weekend to go to the musuem. It's kind of good because I'm totally broke, but I don't know, I'm in such a bad mood from my current job situation and how my life seems to be crumbling around me, I don't know if I care to keep dating right now.

Nice, congratulations!
It's great to hear of such mutual effort to bond together.

I vote "Yea", just in case. You can never have too much social support. Maybe you don't need to go anywhere expensive. You've both enjoyed just being outside.

I'm with ArcheM ... I'd keep it going, at least for now. If nothing else, it may help lift your spirits until other things start to improve! Best of luck on your job search, as well!

jayne (((hugs)))

Do things that don't cost money. Like walk in the park. But frankly if he is asking you out, are you paying for everything? Just your share? Did he ever offered to pay? I am for equality but I'd be suspicious if he at least doesn't offer to treat you (to museum tickets or lunch etc). You can also tell him that you are in a process of job search and need to take few weeks off dating. When I first met my husband we only saw each other every other week one evening because of conflicting schedules and long commutes. No biggie. If it's a right match things work out regardless

I appreciate the suggestions, trust me, I am all about doing things on the cheap. Our last date was a bike ride, but even then, it still costs me gas money to get out to the trail. Please remember, I live in Florida and it is excessively hot and humid here. As much as I like doing these active things, it has to be on a day and at a time of day where it's not oppressively hot, which is never. Especially if I'm trying to wear some make up and have done my hair and look good. Also, I can only do so much physical activity because I'm overweight and it takes a big strain on my system, so even a walk in the park is a work out for me and not necessarily pleasant.

He did pay for the coffee on our first date, and, while I don't expect him to pay for everything, I would wait to see if he buys me a ticket for the museum first, but I also like to make sure that when I go, I have enough to cover my end just in case. You can't just go in broke expecting that someone else is going to pay, because what if they don't want to?

The museum is only $5 right now, so it's not too bad. I did try to look for when the free days are each month, but they are like Tuesdays during the day, and neither of us can go at that time. I'm also trying to look for something for us to do that might be a little romantic so I can see where this is going...

He knows I'm in the middle of a job search, and has been very supportive.

In a way I'm glad he had to cancel this weekend because it's just a rough time for me for many reasons, so it's okay. Hopefully by next weekend I'll be feeling a little better.

Thanks for all the suggestions and feedback.

Seesaw

So, it was really sweet, I texted him this morning and asked how his weekend was, and his reply was "It was good, but never mind that, did you hear from the university yet?!" Nice to feel like a guy is actually listening to me. It turns out that the museum we had planned to go to this weekend will actually be open til 9pm tomorrow and it's free after 4pm, so I am trying to convince him to go tomorrow instead of Saturday.

I still don't know if I'm friend zoned or if he's interested. Then again I don't know if I've friend zoned him myself either, so I'm not super worried about it. Just enjoying someone's company for a bit.

Seesaw

So I asked him if he wanted to go tomorrow when it's free, and he said absolutely! I was going to invite him over afterwards for a glass of wine.....maybe...but it turns out he has a tutoring session in the evening so we will have a few hours for our "date" and then he has to go. Oh well, just gives me a little more time to get everything straightened up and then maybe he might come over this weekend.

We'll see.

Seesaw