[eclairparty98]

Hi -- I've checked all the sub-forums and none of them seem to fit this issue.

As seemingly ALWAYS, something crazy has happened immediately after my therapy session which means I can't talk about this until next session. Anyway, as it's soon-to-be Halloween, my house is decorated to every inch with ''spooky'' items. One of which is a dead body hanging from my window. Morbid, I know.

BUT -- some complete stranger has posted a picture of our house on his social media and has also shared a link attached to it of an article talking about my neighbours murder three years ago insinuating there's some type of link. This is TOTALLY inappropriate. I don't know him but his posts are private and I'm tempted to respond with a comment like

"shouldn't your priorities be with our homeless community or raising your daughter, not my house nor my decorations" OR "using an innocent dead murdered woman to justify your asinine opinion of my decorations shows you up to be the real villain here"

Either way, this is so out of order. There's no reason to post a picture of my house on social media. Not his. Not anyone I don't know, either. IF anyone thinks "you have decorations so you want the attention" -- I would post pictures myself. Decorations are for the people who walk past, not for random people on the internet. Not without my consent.

I'd appreciate advice.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

Hi -- I've checked all the sub-forums and none of them seem to fit this issue.

As seemingly ALWAYS, something crazy has happened immediately after my therapy session which means I can't talk about this until next session. Anyway, as it's soon-to-be Halloween, my house is decorated to every inch with ''spooky'' items. One of which is a dead body hanging from my window. Morbid, I know.

BUT -- some complete stranger has posted a picture of our house on his social media and has also shared a link attached to it of an article talking about my neighbours murder three years ago insinuating there's some type of link. This is TOTALLY inappropriate. I don't know him but his posts are private and I'm tempted to respond with a comment like

"shouldn't your priorities be with our homeless community or raising your daughter, not my house nor my decorations" OR "using an innocent dead murdered woman to justify your asinine opinion of my decorations shows you up to be the real villain here"

Either way, this is so out of order. There's no reason to post a picture of my house on social media. Not his. Not anyone I don't know, either. IF anyone thinks "you have decorations so you want the attention" -- I would post pictures myself. Decorations are for the people who walk past, not for random people on the internet. Not without my consent.

I'd appreciate advice.

yea know the feeling. when the pokemon go was a huge thing my home was coming up on the game as a pokemon location.(thankfully this pokemon go fad has fizzled down and out here in my neighborhood)

my point maybe the stranger googled or what evered the murder and the google map (or other map) (which uses google earth when in satellite mode and street mode) showed your home as the murder location. my home on google earth is listed as a lighthouse location, a tourist store, and other destinations depending upon which browser and version of maps are being used.

also if you have ever posted a pic of your home anywhere online it now becomes public domain in some places.

[*Laurie*]

I'll be honest. In my opinion, when you decorate the outside of your house for a holiday (especially if you do an extra-good job!) people will take pics, and some of those pics will get posted online.

I'd take the posted pics as a compliment.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

I'll be honest. In my opinion, when you decorate the outside of your house for a holiday (especially if you do an extra-good job!) people will take pics, and some of those pics will get posted online.

I'd take the posted pics as a compliment.

Hi, Laurie -- thank you for your reply.

I'm terribly sorry, I wasn't clear in my post; I'm perfectly fine with people posting pictures but it was the comment and association he put with my decorations. My neighbour was murdered by her husband (allegedly) three years ago and it was truly devastating. He didn't know her, he's not from here and wasn't around back then -- so for him to do this so publicly, using her in this way, I feel to be not acceptable.

Which is why I'm debating whether to respond to him. At the same time, I don't think he's worth a response. However, it feels so wrong for someone to look down on our house and then compare it to a dead woman.

[eclairparty98]

The man replied to his original post (a picture of my house) with a link to an article about my dead ex-neighbour

and with the caption "It's actually [[my house]] next door to this house, so y'know... classy."

''classy''??? Is it just me or is this wildly inappropriate??

[childofchaos831]

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

The man replied to his original post (a picture of my house) with a link to an article about my dead ex-neighbour

and with the caption "It's actually [[my house]] next door to this house, so y'know... classy."

''classy''??? Is it just me or is this wildly inappropriate??

I'd say it's inappropriate, but I don't think it's "wildly" inappropriate, if that makes sense. Is he suggesting that you are disrespecting her memory with some of your decorations? Imo, it's Halloween and that allows for decorations like that...

I mean, we get people walking around in costumes that are insensitive in a bunch of ways and any person can bed insulted for any number of reasons... say someone dressed up as a zombie wearing a military uniform, people could get insulted because it's disrespecting the armed forces.

I think his opinion of your decorations simply shows that too many people try and look for things to make a fuss about... You said he didn't even know the neighbor who was murdered, which tells me he is the type that is just trying to stir up arguments and trouble. I would say to just ignore him, because he's probably doing this for attention and giving him that will only reinforce the behavior.

[Quarter life]

Yes inappropriate boundary crossing on his part...I feel for you, it's awful to have our privacy invaded that way. However...Unless he has revealed your address or your name, I would let it alone. If you respond with hostility is will give what he has done 'oxygen'...he may well post more images or make inappropriate comments online if he knows how much it has upset you. Some people take great pleasure in causing upset in others....just let it be. (hugs)

Originally Posted by Quarter life

Yes inappropriate boundary crossing on his part...I feel for you, it's awful to have our privacy invaded that way. However...Unless he has revealed your address or your name, I would let it alone. If you respond with hostility is will give what he has done 'oxygen'...he may well post more images or make inappropriate comments online if he knows how much it has upset you. Some people take great pleasure in causing upset in others....just let it be. (hugs)

Fully agree with Quarter Life. I'm sorry you have a weird neighbor.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by amandalouise

yea know the feeling. when the pokemon go was a huge thing my home was coming up on the game as a pokemon location.(thankfully this pokemon go fad has fizzled down and out here in my neighborhood)

my point maybe the stranger googled or what evered the murder and the google map (or other map) (which uses google earth when in satellite mode and street mode) showed your home as the murder location. my home on google earth is listed as a lighthouse location, a tourist store, and other destinations depending upon which browser and version of maps are being used.

also if you have ever posted a pic of your home anywhere online it now becomes public domain in some places.

Oh my goodness, I can't imagine! That would be a nightmare, haha -- knowing how paranoid I often get, I'd probably wonder who on earth those people were coming to my house and why so frequently. I'm so pleased it's not a problem for you anymore

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by childofchaos831

I'd say it's inappropriate, but I don't think it's "wildly" inappropriate, if that makes sense. Is he suggesting that you are disrespecting her memory with some of your decorations? Imo, it's Halloween and that allows for decorations like that...

I mean, we get people walking around in costumes that are insensitive in a bunch of ways and any person can bed insulted for any number of reasons... say someone dressed up as a zombie wearing a military uniform, people could get insulted because it's disrespecting the armed forces.

I think his opinion of your decorations simply shows that too many people try and look for things to make a fuss about... You said he didn't even know the neighbor who was murdered, which tells me he is the type that is just trying to stir up arguments and trouble. I would say to just ignore him, because he's probably doing this for attention and giving him that will only reinforce the behavior.

Exactly! Many people adore the decorations, we often have people taking photos and they all have smiles on their faces but this one man wants to make a big issue about it on the internet.

You're exactly right. Why else would he make the link?? I agree it's not the most inappropriate but it simply wasn't necessary. Yes, it's really such a shame how some people seem to constantly look for something to complain about. Looking at his past posts, he has a lot of negativity to express on many innocent things, lol. Gosh.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by Quarter life

Yes inappropriate boundary crossing on his part...I feel for you, it's awful to have our privacy invaded that way. However...Unless he has revealed your address or your name, I would let it alone. If you respond with hostility is will give what he has done 'oxygen'...he may well post more images or make inappropriate comments online if he knows how much it has upset you. Some people take great pleasure in causing upset in others....just let it be. (hugs)

Absolutely! I won't say anything. It did really bother me, to begin with. Not so much the photo but how he linked my decorations, innocent decorations, with a senseless murder three years ago. It's also really insensitive to the family. Regardless, he should sort his priorities out, I think.

He's certainly one of those who enjoy this type of thing. I bet he really wants a response. He definitely won't get it. Not directly, anyway.

Thank you for your warm response

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by starrysky

Fully agree with Quarter Life. I'm sorry you have a weird neighbor.

It's all little concerning -- thank goodness he isn't my neighbour! I don't think it's anything to worry about, I hope. A very bizarre response to festive decorations, I must say...

[Sentimental_Blue]

You're exactly right. Why else would he make the link?? I agree it's not the most inappropriate but it simply wasn't necessary. Yes, it's really such a shame how some people seem to constantly look for something to complain about. Looking at his past posts, he has a lot of negativity to express on many innocent things, lol. Gosh.

I think his opinion of your decorations simply shows that too many people try and look for things to make a fuss about... You said he didn't even know the neighbor who was murdered, which tells me he is the type that is just trying to stir up arguments and trouble. I would say to just ignore him, because he's probably doing this for attention and giving him that will only reinforce the behavior.

I agree with these sentiments: after following this kind of behavior closely for a couple years, I can tell you, honestly that a lot of these people from my experience, they either don't know any better or have their own problems to contend with in life.

It really is just best to ignore them. Cause a month from now, even two month from now, no one is ever going to remember what this guy said, or the picture he took, because he really doesn't matter, he never has.

So just go to bed knowing your house looks terrific for halloween!

[winter loneliness]

Do you have to have a dead body as part of your decoration? There are some that would be sensitive to the fact that their was a murder near your house and you are being callous.

[cakeladie]

So many people follow the murder of someone. Becareful he might approach you one day. Like someone said don't respond it's frustrating but he will just keep coming back and posting more. Be safe

[Quarter life]

My awful Grouchy creepy Neighbour called the Police one year because I had Christmas tinsel glitter and flair scattered on my driveway for a Party...some of it had blown onto his property. The next year and the next and the next I put more and more...This year it will be about knee deep. My Other neighbours think its a cheeky and lovely tradition...they are all very amused. If he had only joined in the festivities, there would not have been an issue.

The world has so many bad days...brightening up the holidays shows that we are hopeful.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by Sentimental_Blue

I agree with these sentiments: after following this kind of behavior closely for a couple years, I can tell you, honestly that a lot of these people from my experience, they either don't know any better or have their own problems to contend with in life.

It really is just best to ignore them. Cause a month from now, even two month from now, no one is ever going to remember what this guy said, or the picture he took, because he really doesn't matter, he never has.

So just go to bed knowing your house looks terrific for halloween!

That's exactly what I thought and it's just so, so, so true as with most acts of senseless aggression. You're absolutely right.

Have a wonderful Halloween!!

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by winter loneliness

Do you have to have a dead body as part of your decoration? There are some that would be sensitive to the fact that their was a murder near your house and you are being callous.

Blood, guts and gore are a huge part of Halloween as we see in the supermarkets; like those body parts, zombie masks and corpse costumes. It's not at all me being callous but showing respect to Halloween traditions. Many people around the world do this type of thing. We can't all stay still because something awful happens. Otherwise, as a society, we'd get absolutely no where in life with all the terrible things that constantly happen. I hope you can understand that.

Part of getting over a tragedy is moving on rather than dwelling on it and stepping around egg shells, winter loneliness. Anyone who would see celebrating an innocent holiday to the fullest extent as being even slightly callous or insensitive have deeper underlying issues which my Halloween decorations aren't responsible for.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by cakeladie

So many people follow the murder of someone. Becareful he might approach you one day. Like someone said don't respond it's frustrating but he will just keep coming back and posting more. Be safe

Thank you so much -- I hope you have a happy Halloween

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by Quarter life

My awful Grouchy creepy Neighbour called the Police one year because I had Christmas tinsel glitter and flair scattered on my driveway for a Party...some of it had blown onto his property. The next year and the next and the next I put more and more...This year it will be about knee deep. My Other neighbours think its a cheeky and lovely tradition...they are all very amused. If he had only joined in the festivities, there would not have been an issue.

The world has so many bad days...brightening up the holidays shows that we are hopeful.

Oh no, that's awful! Now, you have to have the biggest, loudest, messiest celebration of them all. We had a Jacuzzi party not too long ago and my neighbour filed a formal complaint regarding 'loud noise after 9pm' SO I totally know the feeling of grouchy neighbours.

I agree 100% -- we MUST stay hopeful!!

[Sunflower123]

I agree it’s a good decision to ignore this guy. Happy Halloween and enjoy your decorations.

[winter loneliness]

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

Blood, guts and gore are a huge part of Halloween as we see in the supermarkets; like those body parts, zombie masks and corpse costumes. It's not at all me being callous but showing respect to Halloween traditions. Many people around the world do this type of thing. We can't all stay still because something awful happens. Otherwise, as a society, we'd get absolutely no where in life with all the terrible things that constantly happen. I hope you can understand that.

Part of getting over a tragedy is moving on rather than dwelling on it and stepping around egg shells, winter loneliness. Anyone who would see celebrating an innocent holiday to the fullest extent as being even slightly callous or insensitive have deeper underlying issues which my Halloween decorations aren't responsible for.

I do not think you are being callous. I am just trying to point out that others may think you are. There are trigger warnings on everything, now days. I am just pointing out what some may be thinking.

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by winter loneliness

I do not think you are being callous. I am just trying to point out that others may think you are. There are trigger warnings on everything, now days. I am just pointing out what some may be thinking.

Hello, winter loneliness - thank you so much for your reply and elaborating. I want to apologise, having read back my initial response to you, as I believe I may have come across a little bit ''off''... I think it was a rough day with this little incident regarding that random man taking photos, lol.

Anyways, thank you for pointing that out, I now know and perfectly understand what you mean I hope you're well

[eclairparty98]

Happy Halloween to you, too, Jennifer and to everyone else -- hoping everyone has a wonderful day!!

Hello, your decorations sound awesome. I think if I should have my own place I would be one of those people who go all out with decorations.

Happy Halloween Week to all!!!!!