[jenniferever]

SO, my "relationship" of 5 years if officially over this time. We have had a on again off again thing for some time. But this time it's really done. In my "reasonable mind" I know that this is for the best. My "emotional mind" is a mess. I am so lonely and have an emptiness that feels so bad. My heart literally hurts. I want a hug. I want to know that things will be ok. But no one can do that or tell me that. I go through cycles of anger, despair, belligerence, fear, self loathing, SI….

I just did not think it would be this hard. I had no idea.

[sabby]

Hi jenniferever

I'm sorry you are reeling from your recent breakup. Of course you are hurting emotionally even though you know in your mind its for the best. We all grieve over lost relationships and it takes time to regain strength from those that have zapped us and made us tired.

IMO, the best thing you can do right now is give yourself permission to grieve for the loss. Then, take some time for YOU! Do some things that will make YOU happy. They don't have to be big things.....they don't have to cost money either. Do what it is you have to do to help you feel better and stronger about yourself. It will all come in time....try your best to relax and let it all flow the way it's meant to flow.

I hope you feel better soon jennifer........you so deserve it!

*Gentle Hugs*
sabby

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((( hugs ))))))))))))))))

(((((((((hugs)))))))))
this too shall pass...
and you will meet someone who 'rationally' as well as 'emotionally' fits.
that being said breakups can be hard...
so lonely
hang in there
this too shall pass...

[chiz]

i agree that you just let yourself feel the grief, its normal. It would also help you lighten up the feeling. you should help yourself in moving on with your life. after quite some time you start a new life again without him. it may really be hard but think positive. think of your life and do things that would divert your attention.

i really wish you good luck and please take care of yourself.
((((((hugs))))))

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[agony007]

I agree with Sabau 100%, take time to grieve this loss. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I once lost a partner that I really loved at the time everything else seemed worthless. But after I gotover that stage, I became angry realizing that it was not just my fault. it takes alot of patience, strength and time. i am sure your heart that. Best of luck to you (((((jen)))))

[Sultrysorrow]

-Uber doober ultra mega hugs!-

If you were not human you would not feel such emotions. And unfortunately for people of all ages. All you described in your days after a failed relationship I too have felt on more than one occasion. And I finally learned that you can't love someone unless you love yourself. If you did that and exhausted every effort to try and maintain your relationship then. Guilt should be at the very bottom of your emotional list.
It'll pass if you let it.. In the mean time focus on you.